Here we can all be heard for a little while

Flybaby

lmao - loved reading all the hair stuff this morning, made me laugh so hard. I have a full on white rouge streak and don't care a mite, but then I care very little for my appearance, as long as I am clean and presentable. My long hair is always tied in plait or knot for practicality and on the odd occasion I wear it down, it lasts about 3 minutes before I have twisted it into a knot and shoved a pencil, twig or straw into it to get it off my face! I do remember once finishing an ice lolly and then using the stick to dispose of hair - big sticky mess later that night that required scissors!


Katy - **POKE** - did that get you out of bed? {squish}

codemonkey

Playing hairdye roulette. Got my hair dye in, waiting for a parcel which will inevitably arrive as soon as I jump in the shower to rinse this crap off

Pyxis

Here is the regular repost.

codemonkey wrote: »

Height is overrated. If I wear heels, I bump my head off low ceilings, buying trousers is a trial and upon entering any supermarket, I am asked by old ladies to get stuff off the top shelves for them. Oh and people consistently ask how the weather is up here. I did once date a guy who was 6'7". Once in a supermarket a kid came into the aisle we were standing on, stopped still and shouted 'Look mum, it's a giant and his wife!'

Pyxis wrote: »

The thread etiquette will be reposted every ten or so pages.
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Here is the suggested THREAD ETIQUETTE. By following this etiquette, all posters, whether new or existing, will feel safe, unpressured and respected..

- This is a thread for support. We have discovered some good friends on here, but we promise always to welcome and include new people, and not to be cliquey.

- People may make suggestions to help each other, and might even ask if the suggestions were helpful or have been carried out, but we'll really try not to nag each other or put too much pressure on.

- The normal board rules about sexism, racism, homophobia etc. apply, but if we are careful we should be able to discuss almost anything without breaching board rules - so far we have discussed subjects ranging from child abuse to incontinence!

-If someone thinks that too much pressure is being applied, they can post the trigger word PENGUIN and flag up the fact that they believe there's a potential for someone feeling too nagged to do something. ANYONE could post PENGUIN if they felt there was a danger that suggestions were being enforced too much.

Similarly, if they want to discuss something that might be a trigger for some people, then posting PENGUIN would be a warning that what follows in the whiteout might be a trigger.


- So, if you think something might be a PENGUIN, please post something like the green bit which follows.

"Possible penguin about.........(type of trigger)" The trigger might be:- child abuse, marital abuse/violence, paranoia, stalkers, death, etc.

Then, when you post, repost the word PENGUIN above the discussion. Then post the penguiny bit in white! And the phrase END OF PENGUIN when you have finished.

It will look like this. You will be able to see the white text if you highlight it or if you quote it, (so please don't 'quote' a post containing a penguin onto the thread!)
(Harmless example follows here):-
PENGUIN

This is a penguin. A nasty, crotch biting penguin (CBP).
It isn't really! So you can look. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ozGTv0hxhpc[/url]


END OF PENGUIN

(NB on a tenth-page repost of the etiquette, you can see these penguiny words because they are white against the green 'quote' background. On a normal post, they will be white against white, and so won't be seen on the thread.)

IMPORTANT: It has been ascertained that some posters to this thread have found that there are certain subjects which act as triggers, precipitating a worsening of their condition.
To protect these posters, you are respectfully requested NOT to discuss these subjects on this thread:-

Religion. (Please note: it is recognised that everyone is entitled to their beliefs, and we respect those beliefs. It is only because of the fact that religion does act as a trigger for some posters, that we exclude it from discussion.)
N.B. Please don't even mention the name of the religion.

The afterlife. The reason for this is explained in this thread by one poster, and there will be others for whom this is a trigger.

We ask and thank you for your co-operation in this matter.


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!!!******It should be pointed out that if anyone is feeling very distressed or close to a crisis, they do not have to worry about what they are posting, or whether it is a penguin for someone else or not. In a crisis situation, just post! We wouldn't want anyone to feel that they couldn't ask for help in case it's a penguin! The penguin thing only applies to a general discussion situation.******

- More suggestions please.............We stress that we are suggesting that we AGREE some Thread Etiquette to HELP people who might feel anxious about posting, we are not trying to IMPOSE rules, just relating this to facilitating groups, so that people feel safe and able to participate as fully as they can.

...............Thread Motto...............
Nos Omnes Ad Audiendum Parumper

Indie_Kid

Birdie85 wrote: »

I'm 30 but look younger, I still get ID'd now and again and it doesn't bug me as much as it used to. I'm very happy to grow old disgracefully though, I don't think I'll ever grow out of wearing stupidly bright clothes! It's dress down day at work and I'm sat here in a pink top and cardi with black jeans that have big pink and orange hibiscus flowers all over them! And pink sparkly Toms!

I was told to take it as a compliment!

Pyxis

Code! Amazon is good good good!

Powerful lady!





Next time someone shouts Giant! at you, tell them that you're Penthesilea, Queen of the Amazons! :T

Wellyboots6

Nope, still in bed!

onomatopoeia99

calleyw wrote: »

Its like at Bristol they called the new shopping centre Cabots Circus in the end.

They were going to called it Merchants Quarter but because of the associations to the slave trade they changed it.

To me a merchant is a trader. Never would have associated it with anything else.

In Bristol we still have the society of Merchant Venturers which goes back many centuries and has it's origins in sea trade and the port. It had a longstanding association with the triangular slave trade until abolition, so locally there definitely is a connection.

I still have no idea why they built it though, whatever it's called!

Birdie85

codemonkey wrote: »

Playing hairdye roulette. Got my hair dye in, waiting for a parcel which will inevitably arrive as soon as I jump in the shower to rinse this crap off

I did that the other night; I had a spare hour before MIL dropped DS off (she looks after him on Tuesdays when I'm at work and keeps him late so I get some time to myself to catch up on life!) so I decided to dye my hair; I didn't realise just how long it would take for the water to run clear, must have been washing my hair for 30 mins and the shower still looked like that scene in Psycho! Jumped out just as MIL turned up, luckily FIL was with her too so he got to see me in my pjs!

Indie- I definitely take being ID'd as a compliment, apart from the times when I don't have any ID with me and they deny me booze! GIVE ME THE DAMN WINE, I'M AN ADULT I TELLS YA! I got ID'd once when I was with DH. He asked the cashier if she wanted to see his ID too and she looked him up and down and said 'No, you're clearly older than 25!' He was devastated! :rotfl:

Waves_and_Smiles

I have spoken to my bubbly bulldozer! She apologised for the carer situation and said it is really out of her hands, the budget cuts have affected a lot of people. Nothing changes with my social services referral though, and it could be offered again if things become worse. She is going to send a load of literature to Wasp about support and respite that he is entitled to. Most of the applications have to come from him rather than me.

We also had a chat about mental health services for children these days and there seems to be a lot more available than when I was a child. Something I found odd that she said was that children today would be a lot less likely to slip through the net as I had done. Now, I don't consider myself to have slipped through any nets! She said that was very generous of me but in her opinion the fact I was returned home was a failure of the system, as was the fact that I wasn't offered assistance to live independently until I was 18.

Isn't it funny how people see these things differently? When I was returned home after being in care, I saw my psychotherapist 3 times a week, my GP for half an hour a week and my teacher friend for an hour a week, plus he drove me to school and back home every day so that we could speak then. I could call him anytime I was upset and he would come and get me and take me back to his house for a chat. He also took me on days out at weekends with his son and his wife would take me on girly shopping trips.

I also had a social worker, an education welfare officer and saw a child psychiatrist every month. I was receiving one-off payments from social services and charities for school books and essentials like clothing and could ask to be placed back into care anytime I wished. I was also able to ask for my mother to be admitted to hospital whenever her care became to much for me, I did so once at 16 and they kept her in a ward for 6 weeks to give me respite. I felt like I was drowning in support, people checked on me 5 days every week until I was 18, when they then got the funding to move me into a bedsit with my rent paid, money from charity towards furnishing and.a regular grant for my living expenses while I attended college. Support was only fully withdrawn when I was 21 and even then I still saw my teacher friend and was transferred from psychotherapy into psychoanalysis so that psychiatric support was continued.

Yet my bubbly bulldozer thinks the system failed me and spoke of 'great oversights and neglect' and felt that the courts should have become involved because I was returned to an abusive environment as a child. I don't see how anyone could have done better under the circumstances and I am very grateful, all it took was a phone call and everyone came rushing to me. Ok, they didn't me get out of the environment until I was an adult but they couldn't have done more for me while I was still in it. I consider myself very lucky, everyone involved went the extra mile for me!

Sorry about the novel. I am just amazed that she views it as if major mistakes were made when I couldn't have asked for more. She also promised me that I wouldn't be allowed to slip through the net again now, I didn't think I would be! I have always highly valued all the help I have been given and have had support since I was 13 years old. I did have 5 years without any input but that was my choice, the second I had my first psychotic break everything kicked in again. She has far higher expectations than I do, everyone has always made such an effort for me.

mellymoo74

they have hand delivered two letters threatening court action
I am calling solicitors
OH is a mess