Here we can all be heard for a little while

Flybaby

Calley, from what you have said, it does sound like your dad has a certain way of treating people, so take heart in the fact that he treats everyone in the same manner. It's a common problem with older people who were brought up in the male dominant era, still doesn't make it right tho. so sorry that you have to suffer from his refusal to learn and develop from life. My MIL has, in recent years started going off and doing her own thing and the shock to FIL was tangible. she went off to new York with her new singing group and FIL could not even make beans on toast for himself! However, he pulled his socks up and changed his ways and tries hard to support her as he can see how much happier she is. I am actually really proud of them both (when they are not driving me nuts criticising me and hubby!)

Flybaby

pyx - joint effort on squish development me thinks!
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Pyxis

Flybaby wrote: »

pyx - joint effort on squish development me thinks!
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I've got several people in RL squishing now!


~~Squish~~ rocks, ok? :rotfl:

calleyw

Oh well a great end to a carp day.

The bloke that was really interested has now deleted himself from the site with no word.

Don't have his mobile number. Knew it was too good to be true.

Oh well.

Yours

Calley

Georgiegirl256

Sorry to hear your Dad upset you Calley, hope you're feeling abit better now though? I'm sure he didn't mean anything by it, some people say things that they think are funny without realising how much they might hurt or upset other people.

Great article on Gregg's WW! :rotfl:

Squishing always reminds me of crushing something, like when you squish a grape or even worse, stand on a slug (by accident of course!) and squish it....I think I'll stick to hugs! :rotfl:

Pyxis

Squish is like a small, localised hug, though, when a full hug isn't appropriate or wanted or welcomed!

Squish is a marshmallow where hug is a feather pillow!

elona

Calley

The guy sounded sweet. Maybe nerves got the better of him and he thought you would be disappointed if you met and then panicked.

To paraphrase - "It is not you - it is him"

It is a shame that you have been let down but maybe a blessing in disguise as one sounds quite careless and unappreciative and the other looks as if he has issues. Hope things improve and you meet someone nice when you least expect it.

calleyw

elona wrote: »

Calley
The guy sounded sweet. Maybe nerves got the better of him and he thought you would be disappointed if you met and then panicked.

To paraphrase - "It is not you - it is him"

It is a shame that you have been let down but maybe a blessing in disguise as one sounds quite careless and unappreciative and the other looks as if he has issues. Hope things improve and you meet someone nice when you least expect it.

I come to the conclusion that its not going to happen and I got to get use to having a crap family and its not my destiny to have or be in another relationship again.

I didn't expect him to be the one. But he seemed so keen and was very nice and sweet. And could not wait to meet me and get this relationship started. He did say he wanted to be good enough for me. And then ran off. Story of my life LOL!!!!

I would really like to believe that it's not me. But I do think it is. As I get let down a lot. I can't believe that there are that many people out there that are like that.

Only interested in myself now. My goals are to get better and loose at least 3 stone in weight. Which is going to mean a massive change in the way I deal with food and exercise and my mood. Get the house and garden finished.

I know it a long way away. But I can see another crappy xmas coming. like the last couple of years don't think I will bother and forget about it.

Again not angry, annoyed, just disappointed. And just have to be realistic.

Yours

Calley

Wellyboots6

Calley, I think you can meet someone lovely online it just takes an awful lot of sifting through the frogs!
I met hubby online, and when we were chatting we got on OK but it was nothing amazing. When we went for our first couple of dates, again OK but nothing amazing. I then met someone online who swept me off my feet. It was very short lived however as it was all lies and bravado with him.
Luckily hubby gave me a second chance, and it has been brilliant since.

I realised it was only OK with him to begin with because he was genuine! He was shy, he didn't do all the over the top flattery that a lot of blokes do online. He didn't try to seem like the perfect man, because in real life there are no perfect men, etc etc.
I made the mistake of looking for something unrealistic, and found plenty of unrealistic people!

Once I realised that actually, I just wanted someone genuine and trustworthy, and someone who could be themselves without trying to advertise themselves as the perfect man, I found that hubby was actually amazing after all!

What I am trying to say is that the good ones are out there somewhere, just often overshadowed by those that know all the right things to say from behind a computer screen but are not necessarily able to maintain that facade in real life.

It's like a job interview. Someone can come in with an amazing CV and have all the answers to the interview questions. All that means is that they are good at interviews! You would only know if they are good at the job by actually seeing them do it.

I don't know if any of that made sense at all or helped, its just my observations from far too many years if online dating!

The old saying... If it seems too good to be true, it probably is!
Just then take that a step further and look a bit deeper in to those that don't seem to tick all the right boxes, as they may well be genuine.

A very long winded way of saying keep your chin up, its not you, its them!!!

Pyxis

That's a brilliant analysis, Katy! So useful that you've had online dating experience and one that turned out so well! :T

calleyw wrote: »

Oh well a great end to a carp day.

The bloke that was really interested has now deleted himself from the site with no word.

Don't have his mobile number. Knew it was too good to be true.

Better now, Calley, than after you'd gone to a lot of trouble to meet.
What have you lost? Nothing, really! Just gained another useful bit of experience.

Was this the long distance guy?
Maybe he got scared at having to go such a long way! I can kind of understand that.
I don't know anything about online dating, but it might be good to chat for a lot longer before arranging to meet? Maybe even Skype a lot first? Then all parties can be more relaxed and you can get to know each other better before meeting in person?
I could be way off, though! I don't know how these things work!

I must admit, I do admire you and MessedUp for doing online dating! It would scare me rigid! :rotfl: