Here we can all be heard for a little while

Wellyboots6

There you go Calley, you hit the nail on the head. It is easier for you to use dating sites because you are shy. I am the same, online is easier than face to face.

Now turn that on its head... The blokes who have been flakey may well be the same as us. They find it easier to talk online than face to face. So they say all the right things and they do genuinely mean it, but when talk moves on to actually meeting it could be just one step further than they are comfortable with.

You say you are shy, but you come across as quite confident and knowing your own mind. There will be blokes out there who are not quite that far ahead yet in real life. It is no bad reflection on you at all, it just means you haven't yet found someone on the same level as you.

A lot easier said than done, but try not to let other people's issues drag you down. You must be a lovely person because we all talk to you! Ask any one of us to meet face to face however and I bet most people would be somewhere on the scale from nervous to terrified! Again, our issues, not yours

Congrats on the smear results, 2018 will be a doddle now compared to this!

I am totally in the dog house at the moment. Bathed Little Sod....
He doesn't actually mind it, he will jump in the bath when you tell him and will stand while you bath him and then jump out again at the end. I think he sulks out of principle more than anything.
And he jumped out the bath and pegged it a bit too quick so I couldn't catch him with the towel. He shook ALL OVER bearded ones bookcase... Lots of soggy books... Nobody now speaking to me!

geminilady

I tried internet dating but it did not work for me,they were never like I expected them to be,I don't mean looks but when you chat to someone you build up a picture of them in your mind and when I met them it never matched.The saddest thing was I had a friend I chatted to for two years he really was my best friend we could talk about anything it was just friendship there was never going to be a relationship but when we eventually met it was awful.We just could not connect like we did on line the friendship did not last long after that and it made me so sad.I have never had anyone before or since that I could talk to like that.:sad:

Pyxis

Katy...word of advice......shut the bathroom door before commencing dog bath! :rotfl:





Geminilady, that's so sad. I don't know what the answer is. Maybe you both really wanted more than friendship, deep down, and meeting up proved it was not meant to be. Then you couldn't go back to being just friends.

Mind you, how many times did you meet up? If it was just the once, then maybe there should have been more meets. Even though you'd been chatting for two years, and think you know someone, a conversation online lacks the spontaneity of a face-to-face conversation, because there's more time to think about what you're saying, and how to phrase it, and come up with the witty repartee! So face to face, one may not seem so interesting! But a few more meets might reveal the personality underneath.
I dunno! Never done it! But just a thought!

calleyw

katy721 wrote: »

There you go Calley, you hit the nail on the head. It is easier for you to use dating sites because you are shy. I am the same, online is easier than face to face.

Now turn that on its head... The blokes who have been flakey may well be the same as us. They find it easier to talk online than face to face. So they say all the right things and they do genuinely mean it, but when talk moves on to actually meeting it could be just one step further than they are comfortable with.

Maybe and I do understand. But he claimed to have a job in sales.
But why not say well I don't want to rush it lets chat a while longer. And I would have been yeah fine as long as you want. Not just delete himself with out a word.

katy721 wrote: »

You say you are shy, but you come across as quite confident and knowing your own mind. There will be blokes out there who are not quite that far ahead yet in real life. It is no bad reflection on you at all, it just means you haven't yet found someone on the same level as you.

Wish I was that confident :rotfl: I talk the talk but not walk the walk.

I know deep down its not me but I just feel that I attract users, wasters, messers and losers. And it just knocks what little confidence I have. And leaves me feeling vulnerable and useless, fat and ugly.

katy721 wrote: »

A lot easier said than done, but try not to let other people's issues drag you down. You must be a lovely person because we all talk to you! Ask any one of us to meet face to face however and I bet most people would be somewhere on the scale from nervous to terrified! Again, our issues, not yours

I did my hypnosis and feel asleep too it :rotfl: woke up feeling a little better.

I think its the sleep issues that is causing the problems.

Oh I get nervous when I got out to meet people I don't know.

Yours

Calley

calleyw

The more I think about it the more I think that now I am too scared to have a relationship.

As I don't know whats "normal" in a relationship. How often you see each, contact each etc etc.

Perhaps I am better off pretending I having a relationship then I can see them as often as I like. Do what I want when I want and no arguments :rotfl:

Yours

Calley

oldestgnome

Katy, that's a great analysis. Your dog bathing story made me smile!

Calley, others are right better to find out now than after ou had met. We can all speculate as to why he deleted his account. Itis scary online dating and trying to remain positive if things donot go how you expect or the person is not who you expect like geminilady experienced (sorry it didn't work out for you).

I have just set up a new online dating profile and am currently wondering what I have put on there to deserve such pointless messages with guys who are completely different to me who it should be obvious to we have nothing in common! Sorry if i sound harsh, a bit frustrated with it. Fingers crossed someone interesting comes along

Thinking of you MessedUp, tealover, Lostinrates. And al other lurkers.

~~squishes·~~ all round .

Wellyboots6

No point shutting the bathroom door, he can flippin well open it!
We have to make sure the front door is always locked otherwise he would be toddling off down the road whenever he felt like it.
Too clever for his own good that dog.

I'm trying photobucket again. Do I need to put anything in front of or at the end of the HTML link on here to make it work? Just copy and pasting the link doesn't work.

Pyxis

katy721 wrote: »

No point shutting the bathroom door, he can flippin well open it!
We have to make sure the front door is always locked otherwise he would be toddling off down the road whenever he felt like it.
Too clever for his own good that dog.

I'm trying photobucket again. Do I need to put anything in front of or at the end of the HTML link on here to make it work? Just copy and pasting the link doesn't work.

Oh dear! I only know how to do it from an iPad!

jobbingmusician

Just photobucket.com works fine for me

elsien

I just use photo bucket and copy/past the link in the box. Have you got the settings as public?