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Pyxis

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Calley, I love that sideboard, and well done on putting it together! This is going to sound really sad, but I love getting new furniture... I went through a phase of buying stuff off eBay, putting it in it's relevant place, and then I'd wait and see how long it took D to realise we had a new sideboard, corner unit, telephone table etc! :rotfl:

He has no vision on how things will look sometimes that you've just got to buy the relevant item and then he'll either go "oh yeah, that looks good there" or "what the hell have you been buying now! :eek: "

What was the average length of time?
Was the time taken in inverse proportion to the size of the new piece of furniture?

There's a Ph.D in there somewhere!

calleyw

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Calley, I love that sideboard, and well done on putting it together!

Thanks I love it too.

I did not put it together. But it said on the instructions it would take 60 mins yeah my big fat backside.

I got help from a male friend and it took him an hour and half to finish off what had been started :rotfl:


Yours

Calley

Pyxis

calleyw wrote: »

Thanks I love it too.

I did not put it together. But it said on the instructions it would take 60 mins yeah my big fat backside.

I got help from a male friend and it took him an hour and half to finish off what had been started :rotfl:


Yours

Calley

What was the result of the screw A and screw C dilemma?

Georgiegirl256

Pyxis wrote: »

What was the average length of time?
Was the time taken in inverse proportion to the size of the new piece of furniture?

There's a Ph.D in there somewhere!

:rotfl: The sideboard he couldn't help but notice, as even he is not that unobservant! It's a genuine 1950's one, so like me, he loved it as he loves retro things. This is it http://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/Vintage-G-Plan-Gold-Stamp-Small-Tola-Black-Dresser-Sideboard-1950s-Retro-/261879550398?pt=LH_DefaultDomain_3&hash=item3cf93cd1be although I didn't pay anywhere near that! :eek:

The telephone table he walked past about 5 times before finally saying "how long has that been there?" :rotfl:

The little chest of drawers in the living room....could have been a whole day, maybe more!

I moved things around in the kitchen yesterday as I got a pestle and motar (always wanted one of those) from the charity shop when I went to register for the run. Let's just say that if I hadn't have pointed it out, he still wouldn't have noticed!

It's both annoying and amusing at the same time!

calleyw

Pyxis wrote: »

What was the result of the screw A and screw C dilemma?

No. We ran out of C screws and had to use A screws so ran out of them so had too many of P had to use them :rotfl:

I just think 60 mins was not realistic. Fine if you are in a workshop and have plenty of space to lay everything out. But in real life never.

Yours

Calley

faerielight

hi guys, I've never posted on this thread before.. i am in a dark place so I thought I'd reach out.. if you are feeling really fragile, maybe don't read this,, I should prob put a "trigger" on here..
I have BPD and PTSD, and I have so much on my plate.. 4 years ago, due to my diagnosis of BPD, my bowel had perforated but the hospital disbelieved me, said the pain and illness was all in my head, they refuused me a belly scan for 5 days and only realised when I vomitted poo .. they ran me into surgery and to save my life they gave me a colostomy.which was beyond horrific .

I was in a coma on life support fighting for me life for weeks, but I pulled through and 3 months in hospital and then put in a rehab nursing home to learn how to walk.. because they left me so long with a bowel perf and sepsis I have so much damage in my belly..I managed to get the bag reversed after 3 years living with a bag, which for someone with mental health issues, was so horrific.but I'm left incontinant if i cant get to a loo in 30 seconds,due to my bowel being so short now and I'm missing a set of nerves I've had 4 major bowel surgeries countless hernias and in 2 weeks,

I have to go in again for my 5th major surgery and have to go back to the same hospital with the same surgeon/ consultant that disbilieved me initially..They wrecked my health so badly, I have to have carers twice a day which i hate , they also damaged the nerves to my sexual function so they ruined my chance of finding a relationship..I am in constant pain as my belly is a wall of deep scar tissue, I am now on my 3rd 4th and 5 th hernias and all my organs are stuck together.

also 5 years ago I had a terrible abusive psychiatrist, who I recorded shouting down to phone to me shouting go and kill myself.. I tried to make a compaint against him and change mental health teams, but he had so much power, he threatended to get me arrested for taping him without my consent and made me destroy the tape.He blocked me for the last 3 years from getting an assessment for PTSD for the trauma from the hospital trauma when i almost died from the medical negligence from refusing me that belly scan, I fought this with my mind advocate, and last december, I was finally allowed an assessment from another psyc and I was dignosed with the most severe end of the PTSD spectrum, by then it was past the 3 years staturary of limitations to sue the hospital for the medical negligence.
he has also blocked me from accessing any mental health support for 5 years now..
My GP, my mind advocate and I have fought relentlessly but this psyc has all the power.. so I'm now in a really bad place, my mental health is the worst it's ever been..
I am so unwell, and I honestly don't know how I'm going to make myself go through another difficult and brutal bowel surgery in 2 weeks.. my mind is broken and my body is broken..I'be been smoking , I'm so run down , I have insomnia and nightmares when I sleep, I've not been looking after myself.

I feel so utterly hopeless about my future.. I'm so lonley and lost , depressed and anxious.. I'm on a lot of meds but this trauma is too big for meds alone.. I feel ike I'm just surviving and exisiting, my quality of life is so low.. I'm so exhausted from all the fighting, I now have M.E caused by glanduar fever and widespread arthritis.. I feel like I'm 80 and I'm only 44.. This forum had given me a hobby, doing competitions and getting freebies, but I'm not even getting enjoyment out of that due to the depression.

Also, I posted about how scared I am about the benefit cuts in the disability and dosh forum recently and got got by a troll, and it's made me not feel safe on MSE , because I'm so vulnerable, everything tips me over the edge.. I did fight back but as I said, i am so tired of fighting..
everywhere I look in my life,everything is wrong.. my housing is terrible, I have raw sewage backing up into my patio and shower if i put loo roll down the loo, my landlored refiuses to fix it. I'm trying to get a council flat but having no luck.

I just don't have anwhere to turn to.. no family appart from a violent alcoholic mother who sexually abused me when i was a kid , which caused the BPD I have no contact with her for years.. The only things keeping me going are my cats.. I do have good friends but they all have mental and physical health issues and all have a lot on their plates at the mo too, I don't see them too often and I'm so tired of being here alone trapped in a nightmare I can't wake up from . things are just so bleak for me.. thanks for listening and reading this.. sorry it was long and dark x

Pyxis

Faerielight, welcome to the thread! You are very welcome, and please note, you are most definitely not alone. We are all here for you.

Can I just say I love your username! I love the ancient spelling of faerie! Here......have an Arthur Rackham one! No-one does Faeries quite like A.R.!



You really have been through the mill and back, haven't you. :A

I see your GP and your advocate are on your side. That's good.

Is there no possibility of you going to another hospital for the surgery? Or having another consultant? It may be further away, but as the current situation is so stressful, it may be the better option. But I guess there must be a reason why not.

I'm so sorry you got trolled on another thread. I suppose it was a benefits-type thread? Or a discussion thread? I'm afraid that any discussion about benefits on the internet inevitably brings out the 'hang all scroungers' brigade, so I'm so sorry you were subjected to that. Last thing you needed when you're feeling so worried and vulnerable.
No trolls on here, well, only kindly faerie trolls from Norway!

Your situation needs a bit of thought. There's a lot that you'd like to change, and it must feel like it's a mountain.

What would you say were the priorities?
It might help to list on paper the changes needed in order of priority.
That can sometimes help to focus.
It's somewhere to start, maybe.


Just remember, you're not alone..........and the others will be along soon!

jobbingmusician

Welcome to faerie! Yes, you have found the right place to talk about all your worries and problems. So glad to hear how helpful you find Mind advocacy. This is a great place for exchanging good tips on dealing with all sorts of mental health problems

faerielight

thank you so much Pyxis for your kind reply..yes it was a serial accuser of benefit scrounging "living the benefit lyfestyle" and a bee in his bonett about disabled parking at supermarkets and how everyoe looks healthy and neither ill or disabled! He went through my posts and quoted me saying and found one in Health and Beauty subform about how I like high end makeup and told me to sell my makeup to move to a better place and that he didn't believe I was in povery.. it really affected me and I didn't feel safe on MSE since..
re hospital and surgeon, I tried to get moved to a diff hosptial and surgeon, but was told he was the only one willing to operate on me as I was such a complex case and how I had to go to this hospital as it's the only one for miles with a large ICU, I have to have a bed in the ICU and that had a whole gastro team on site.. so I'm trapped at that hell hole with a surgeon that almost killed me.. he is technically a good surgeon but I will never trust him, or the hospital after what they did to me.. my hospital phobia is so severe and being on a ward is so hard with the pshobia and with mental health issues.. the nurses and opther patients gets so annoyed when I panic or cry, and I've become so dissacociated in there, I've regressed and tried to climb under the table to hide with 65 staples in my belly .. the hospital has a mental health team but they never get me any support.. I have written letters to the hospital before each admission and was promissed support and understanding, but it all goes out of the window as the nurses are so busy, i' m an obsticle and a headache to them, so there is no point in writing another letter as it never makes a difference.. re my lack of mental health support, I am trying to be referred to a day centre for trauma and BPD, they have so many good things.. def therapies, groups courses and distraction and relaxion stuff. The referral has to go via the mental health team.. My gP referrs me, but they block me .. a few weeks ago following another referral, I saw a mental health social worker and he said in his words that he could not stop me getting reffered fo assessment but that him and his team will make it their personal quest to make sure I never receive support from anywhere for the rest of my life.. he said i was Mrs No Life, that I just need to "get a life".. they don't care that i;'m ill, disabled, in and out of surgery and that impacts on being virtually housebound and isolated. My GP and my mind advocate are still fighting them, but to get to this trauma centre, i have to have an authorised referral from the mental health team.. they both have never seen some get blocked like me and it is because i recorded the psyc.. I wish i had never done it now, before that, I had CPN's now , nothing.. it all feels so hopeless and I honestly don't know how I'm going to go and have more surgery, my head is so fried .. thank you for being so caring.. I love the old way of spelling Faeries too I love the idea of Faeries x

Flybaby

Thanks Pyx. Katie and Georgie - kind words much appreciated.
Yes Katy - Lets have a healthy living challenge which involves making one small change at a time. I know I always go overboard and "all in" and I want to try and approach this sensibly and achievably this time.


Faerie - hello, welcome hug and ~~~squish~~~ We all have good ears and as I am sure you know, the blanket fort - in which we are currently setting up the day bed for you to lay in after your surgery where we can bring you biscuits and squishes whenever you need.


My immediate feeling is that you need a new Psychiatrist. The abusive one cannot make you turn up to see him - so I am tempted to say cancel the sessions and stop going - he is causing you more damage than good by the sounds of it - what do others think to this idea?
Sorry if this seems like a really obvious thing and you have already tried it - but then discuss with your GP about a referral to a new one in a different location so you never have to see him and explain clearly why?
Fort occupants - is there a place/organisation/or way that faerie can report the bad psychiatrist anonymously so she can feel empowered to have taken action but without fear of retribution?