Here we can all be heard for a little while

calleyw

I am going to bid you good night.

Hope everyone gets the sleep them need.

Lets hope tomorrow is a better day for all.

Take care.

Night

Yours

Calley

Flybaby

Giant squishes to all who need.


I am with WaS at the moment - sleep deprivation and constant worrying and guilt, so doing my own head in. On top of that, I really want to get healthy and have lot of weight to lose but the lack of sleep and constant tiredness make it impossible and that is really starting to get to me. I have been off work for nearly 6 months now and have not done a thing towards making myself healthier. **Sigh** In my own head, my justification for taking time off work was that I would get healthier and put myself in a better position to handle stuff - so feeling like a lazy liar at the moment - thinking I might actually write out a pros/cons/strategy list this week to try and jump start myself.


Calley - great sideboard!


I missed the spider conversation, but you all have nothing to fear in the fort as I really quite like spiders and insects etc, so I will always collect and release well away from the fort! Unless it's dragonflies - have a god awful fear of dragonflies due to a childhood experience! **shivers**

Pyxis

Morning Flybaby! Have a morning ~~~~~ !

With regard to your 6months of 'nothing'.........well, you obviously need that 6 months to rest and take stock and allow thoughts to gel.

It's all too easy to think that if we're not physically doing stuff, then we're lazy, but sometimes we need to stand and stare.

When I first stopped working, (I hadn't yet made the decision to retire), it was after several years of working hard, lots of traumas, lots of horrendous family conflicts, and bereavement, and for over a year I did nothing. I was burnt out, physically, mentally and emotionally.

It took over a year, and then I started going to various classes and thinking about what I wanted to do. But it did take over a year. Looking back, it might seem that I had a very unproductive year, but in fact I was healing, resting my brain and taking stock.

So, it sounds like you've had a good rest and now might be the time for plans to be formulated! And possibly even acted upon! Slowly slowly catchee monkey!



Edit. P.S. Note my signature!



Edit edit. Are you able to say what the horrendous dragonfly experience was? Don't if you don't want to.

Wellyboots6

Morning flybaby,
I will join you on the health kick. Now I'm not at work I can't justify needing chocolate to get me through the day, so I think today might be a day to start being a bit more health conscious. Got to go food shopping later so will write a list so I don't get distracted by food villains.
Going to make sure I do some exercises on my gym ball today too, once I heave myself out of bed!

Got myself in a tizz yesterday, so will have a go at penguining. It's regarding animals and people being mean

Penguin:

Got woken up Friday night at about half two by a bloke walking his dog down the road yelling at it. He was yelling at it to walk to heel and then hitting it. I could hear the dog yelping, the man yelling and the hitting. I felt so sick, but by the time I had rolled out of bed and got to the window he had gone. It didn't sound like anyone local I recognise.
I then couldn't sleep as I felt so guilty at not intervening.
Also, yesterday we were at a fête for hubbys charity thing. There were various stalls and one was throwing darts to win goldfish. We were both surprised as didn't think live animals were allowed as prizes any more. Anyway, I felt sorry for the fish and hubby won me one so I could help it escape. Only now I feel awful that we left the others there. And I feel awful that we funded those stall holders to keep doing it.
I keep crying thinking about making the wrong decisions and making things worse, and all the other horrible things that go on which I can't stop.
People being deliberately cruel to animals or people is something I really struggle to deal with and fills me with so much guilt for not doing more to stop it.

End penguin

Pyxis

Katy.
People who walk about shouting at 2.30 in the morning are quite likely to be drunk or on drugs or both. If you had intervened you would likely have either got a earful of foul abuse, or put yourself in physical danger.
So please do not recriminate yourself for that.


With regard to the fish, you could do something pro-active. Could you find out from, ?Trading Standards or the RSPCA, what the policy on fish at fairs is? It might be ok. But at least you'll know. If it isn't allowed, at least you will have alerted the authorities to it, and then perhaps they can stop it.

However, it may be ok......
A long time ago when my children were young, they went to a fair with a relative and came back with a goldfish in a bag. I was livid, as like you, I was anti that practice.
Also, I thought that it was bound to be sickly and probably wouldn't live for very long.
However, a couple of weeks later, to my amazement, it was still alive, and so I felt obliged to get it a little tank etc.
It lived for a few years! so it can't have been sickly and must have had a good start in life!

Wellyboots6

Good plan pyxis, it will be my mission for today! My gran had a fair fish that lived for 20 years!!!

I volunteer for a dog rescue charity and do transport runs for them, home checks and fostered dogs pre-bump. It just doesn't feel like enough.

I think fbook makes me feel guilty. As I follow a lot of rescue pages I hear a lot of horrible stories that make me wonder how people can be so mean.

I saw a video yesterday of a group of girls bullying another girl and had to stop it quickly when I realised what it was. It was one of those 'share if you think this is awful' things. Why would you share something you think is awful?! It doesn't practically help the girl in the video, so I'm not sure of the point of sharing it? And why film it rather than stopping it?

Right, positive things to do today instead of getting glum! Fish research, tidying for a friend visiting later, take Little Sod out for a play on the park, give him a brush (if he is in a good mood), work through my mountain of laundry.

Wellyboots6

Hmm fish at fairs is legal although down to local councils to ban it. The same with animals in circuses. Unfortunately, our council won't ban either ��
I've found various petitions to sign, but doesn't look like things will change any time soon.

I knew about the circus, as we had a poster for the circus delivered to the shop the other day to display, and knew they had animals performing. The poster might have got 'lost' rather than displayed...

Pyxis

I don't think I object to performing animals if the animals used are domesticated ones, eg dogs, cats, horses etc. and providing the training methods use reward rather than punishment to train.

Don't like to see wild animals used though.

Georgiegirl256

Calley, I love that sideboard, and well done on putting it together! This is going to sound really sad, but I love getting new furniture... I went through a phase of buying stuff off eBay, putting it in it's relevant place, and then I'd wait and see how long it took D to realise we had a new sideboard, corner unit, telephone table etc! :rotfl:

He has no vision on how things will look sometimes that you've just got to buy the relevant item and then he'll either go "oh yeah, that looks good there" or "what the hell have you been buying now! :eek: "

Georgiegirl256

Flybaby, sorry to hear you're struggling abit atm. But, exactly what Pyxis said (she has a wonderful way with words and making things seem right ), it hasn't been wasted time, it's been time that you've needed to have off, and you'll start to work on things when the time is right. X x

Katy, I absolutely hate cruelty to animals too. We seem to have had a lot of circuses round here lately, so I guess they're still popular, but I wouldn't go to one.

When we were in Vegas, there was a Pet Comedy Show that used dogs, cats, birds and probably other animals too, but they were the main ones. All animals were rescued from Animal Shelters and this Circus troup had toured, been on all the American chat shows and Americas Got Talent, but something still didn't sit right with me and I didn't want to go. I watched a video of them and there were dogs giving cats piggy backs, and cats swinging from parallel bars over flames :eek: I've no doubt they are well looked after, and it sounds cute, but I still think it's cruel.

I don't mind the dancing dogs like pudsey etc, as a lot of dogs really enjoy been trained. But cats? I know it can obviously be done, but in the main cats are very in dependant creatures....I'd like to try and see anyone train Physco Cat!