Did you live with your husband/wife before marriage?

Maddybee33

Your grandparents/ parents marrying that fast is a bit anecdotal. Plenty of people do that and it doesn't work out, but you don't hear about those ones so much because the idea of two old people that found each other at 18, got married within 3 months and have been together for 60 years is a lot sweeter and a more 'feel good' story all around.

At 22, I am a bit younger than you, but my SO and I have been together for 6 years, I moved in with him last year, and although we don't have any immediate plans to get hitched, we have talked about it in recent years, but we're just seeing how things go.

I shouldn't just make it easy for him as he could get complacent.

In my opinion, that's not a healthy reason to start a marriage. You should feel that he'll propose when he's ready, and get married on YOUR terms not your family's. I think that, in this day and age, rushing anything is a bit of a mistake. Financial times are tough, marriage and divorce are two very expensive things- if you're not over 100% sure then wait, it's only a bit of paper.

flora48

Attitudes have changed so much in my lifetime. When I was first married in the 1960's it was convention all the way, engagement, wedding, moving into our own house on return from honeymoon. Like most folk at that time.

Second time around after being widowed I threw caution to the wind, lived with this man who is now my husband. Talk about tables being turned my kids both respectably married and mum doing the " living with".

Gloomendoom

Maddybee33 wrote: »

In my opinion, that's not a healthy reason to start a marriage. You should feel that he'll propose when he's ready, and get married on YOUR terms not your family's. I think that, in this day and age, rushing anything is a bit of a mistake. Financial times are tough, marriage and divorce are two very expensive things- if you're not over 100% sure then wait, it's only a bit of paper.

If it's only a bit of paper, then why bother at all? You can find bits of paper blowing about in the street.

themull1

First husband - married within 7 months, lived together approx 4 weeks prior wedding - lasted 7 years.

Second Husband - lived with for 12 years, got married, lasted 18 months.

Third husband - he moved in within 7 weeks,married two and a bit years later, been married 18 months so far...

themull1

lostinrates wrote: »

. We went back and got her sister, so we got two in the end. :rotfl: its been far more rewarding than a ring. Though probably more expensive too. . They are getting older now and I can hardly cope thinking of life without them:o.

I've been engaged four times - first one didnt work out - i would have had four kittens by now......

WorkFromHome

I moved in with my man after just 6 months of dating. I already lived on my own though and was getting into some bad debt. It was sink or swim and luckily we swam x