Did you live with your husband/wife before marriage?

DD265

I think my parents lived together for a couple of weeks/months prior to their wedding.

OH and I are now living together but we've been a couple for 10 years (met at school, now 27). And to be quite honest, if anybody insisted on us being married first I'd be asking when they were going to write the cheque to pay for the wedding :rotfl:

Georgiegirl256

Yes, I did. My Mam was like yours. Her very words were "you haven't even got a ring on your finger yet", my Dad was very laid back about it all though.

She wasn't particularly happy, but soon came round to the idea. I think the reason she was like she was is that she comes from a generation where the majority of people got married first before living together, and she was worried what everyone would think. I told her that I didn't care what her friends and various family members thought, and that nowadays it's the done thing to live together before marriage.

Gloomendoom

Southernman wrote: »

So my question is, what was your approach and if you could go back would you change anything?

Mrs G didn't move in with me until after we were married. That was in the naughties.

olgadapolga

Lived with my DH for nine years before we married; our 18th wedding anniversary is next month. Our parents disapproved but got used to the idea. They didn't get a choice really. I wouldn't have done it any differently.

I only know if one couple who didn't live together before they were married and that was more to do with their parents' opinions than anything else.

74jax

We had been together for 6 years when I asked him to marry me. He said no as he didn't know if we could live together. I wouldn't live with him and not be married so we were at stalemate.

We decided to live together for year, and if we survived we'd get engaged. But no longer than one year.

Guest101

Southernman wrote: »

the reason I ask is because my parents 'courted' in the 1980s and prior to marriage had not stayed over a single night at each other's houses. They married within 15 months of meeting.

My friends who also have parents in their late 50s, none of them lived together before marriage either.

Now as my boyfriend and I are looking to move in together, my mum is hesitant as I'm not engaged to him. I shouldn't just make it easy for him as he could get complacent.

So I'm more curious really. As a 26 year old it's not often that you hear of people my age not living together before marriage.

So my question is, what was your approach and if you could go back would you change anything?

I shouldn't just make it easy for him as he could get complacent.

:rotfl:

Ye, let's hope he comes to his senses and runs a mile

trixie73

I met my oh when I was 16 and he was 18. We moved in together practically straight away. We only got married 2 years ago after being together for 23 years.

clairec79

I'm 36 and we lived together first for about 2 years, although we were engaged when we brought our house

Torry_Quine

When we bought our first flat I lived in it on my own at first and he moved in when we married. I can still remember my neighbours watching for him leaving as they wouldn't believe he visited but never stayed overnight. :rotfl::rotfl:

Teddi

In a relationship for a year and a half, got engaged and moved in together at the same time. Another year and a half and we got married, its now 2 years after that.


In this day and age, live together but keep financials completely separate. As my great aunt told me, there are more things to think about now, in her day it didn't matter if he didn't wash up or put his clothes away as that was her job, he made the money. Now, as most couples are both at work, not doing the washing up is a big issue as you don't need that on top of your job.


Living together is entirely necessary now.