Photos at funerals and Facebook

KateBob

This might help you unsubscribe from your SIL's posts without unfriending her.


http://www.popsugar.com/tech/How-Block-Facebook-Posts-Without-Unfriending-22706750#photo-22706750

samanthaknd

proffLucy wrote: »

It was my mums funeral yesterday. My sister in law is obsessed with facebook. I usually just ignore the millions of photos that she puts on but this morning, im feeling very upset already after such a harrowing day yesterday to find that she has put hundreds of photos of the funeral on facebook.

Pictures taken at the meal afterwards I'm fine with, and even outside the church etc

But shes put pictures of my mums coffin...and the worst one was a picture of me crying, saying my final goodbye to mum, before her coffin was taken away in the crematorium. It just shows my back because she has taken it from behind but it was a very private final moment. I know how much i was hurting in that photograph. Now its all over facebook. She has just shared it with her "friends" but im still not wanting complete strangers to see my final moments of grief with my mum.

I texted my brother to ask him to tell her not to put any more on, and now hes gone in a stop about it, saying there is no harm in it, but now I have looked at all 100-odd of the photos i realised there are some really private ones in which i have described above.

I just dont know what to do. My mum would have hated it. She was a very private person. But no one else in the family seems to have a problem with it so its making me see like a drama queen for getting upset about it.

I'm with you on this one OP, pictures at a funeral is in really bad taste. And no I definitely don't think you are being a drama queen, if I was in your shoes I would be outraged.

piglet25

It might be a long shot but if you report her profile for acting as a business it should vanish, facebook are cracking down on that at the moment. She is one person social media would be better off without and she won't know who reported her.

proffLucy

Oh I wish I had the balls to report her! but she would know it was me...or guess it was me

susancs

It beggars belief that someone could take and post photos of such a sad event on facebook. OP, I and everyone at a funeral of a friend who had sadly, through the grief of losing her husband, committed suicide, were horrified that a work colleague of her came with a camera and took photos. The worst of this, was when the elderly father of the dead person, was so grief striken when her coffin was being lowered into the ground that he half collapsed with grief and had to be supported. She took photos of this. At this point a feisty friend of mine, went over and asked for a quiet word with her. She, in no uncertain terms informed her that her behaviour was very inappropriate and disrespectful to close family and friends and she insisted that she delete all photos of the funeral (which she did). She apparently thought the family would like the moment documented!!!

pollypenny

This is appalling, Lucy and very hurtful.

Does the woman have no sensitivity? Surely she should have occupied ensuring her husband wasn't upset.

As for posting puctures on FB - words fail me!

skintpaul

photos at a funeral? just sounds WRONG.

proffLucy

Just an observation as well. I checked who she has shared the phoitos with and there are 21 people....I dont know who 90% of them are...i presue its her family (she is from a different country) My mum is on the list because she still has her facebook profile. it is still active. So thats another job on the list...totry and contact facebook and get my mums profile taken off.

But how ironic and sick that it has been shared on mums timeline if i can guess her password i can log in as mum and delete everything.

Anyone know how you get a deceased persons profile shut down?

fivetide

If she has a custom share on them, them you commenting shouldn't put the image on your page as that restriction remains. Only those who she has shared with will see it.


Also: "Did you report my Facebook page as a business? It had to be you!"


You: "No"


That simple. I appreciate this has upset you but so far you have had a lot of good suggestions of what to do and an excuse for not doing any of them!


Personally, I'd tell her to her face. Less passive aggression.

rainygreyhound

It's a bit macabre to take photos at such an occasion and shows a lack of class IMO.

Whatever next, hiring someone to video the event? "Come on, let's see those tears".

I despair at humanity sometimes.