Photos at funerals and Facebook

tea_lover

It wasn't even her mother! Your SIL is so far out of order here, I don't even know what to say.

How on earth could she think it was ok to take photos inside the church?? Your brother really needs to man up and get her to remove the photos and apologise - although sadly it doesn't seem like that will happen.

It was my grandad's funeral in Jan and I went back the next day and took some photos of the flowers. I haven't done anything with them, just thought I'd keep them for later. Even that felt a bit weird!

Sounds like she took more photos of her MIL's funeral than most people have at their own wedding.

I have nothing useful to say (clearly!) but just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss, and that I'm fuming on your behalf - not that that helps I realise.

Take care xx.

System

I'd be livid. :mad:

stir_crazy

Oh that is so wrong. What on earth makes someone think that it is appropriate to take pictures at a funeral at all? And then posting them on a social media site! I'm furious for you at the thought.

I'm sure you can report her whole album, assuming she has putt them in an album rather than on her timeline. If she has put them on individually they will need to be reported individually.

I'd have a word with her - and your brother since he also does not seem to know what is appropriate behaviour.

Mojisola

Judi wrote: »

I'd be livid. :mad:

And for two reasons - one, that she was insensitive enough to take all the photos and two, that she didn't pull them off Facebook as soon as she knew the OP was upset by them.

She's not someone I'd want around me.

Gloomendoom

I've taken photos at funerals, but discretely. I've kept them to myself unless anybody has asked to see them, and they have, usually some time (years) after the event though.

tea_lover

If she won't remove the photos I'd be tempted to add a comment (in capitals) on each one... something along the lines of "I HAVE REPEATEDLY ASKED JANE AND PETER* TO REMOVE THESE HIGHLY DISRESPECTFUL PHOTOS. HOPEFULLY COMMON DECENCY WILL KICK IN SOON."

* names made up, obviously - no offense to any lovely Peters and Janes out there.

pinkteapot

This is one of the worst things about Facebook. If you're over 18, you can't have pictures of yourself removed, unless they violate privacy laws in your country of residence. Facebook's view is that the copyright is owned by the person who took the image, and it's up to them what they post.

See here for information: https://www.facebook.com/help/428478523862899

OP, I'm utterly disgusted. I have never come across anyone taking photos at a funeral.

I would phone SIL and ask her to delete the particular photos that upset you (she should delete the lot frankly!). If you can't do that, email or send her a Facebook message, the latter probably being the quickest way to get a response. Don't get angry or abusive, just explain it as you've done here. And then have as little to do with her as you possibly can in the future.

fairy_lights

Your SIL is an absolute !!!.
If she won't take down the photos of you then definitely contact facebook and request that they are removed. I'm actually struggling to think of anything more inappropriate than taking hundreds of photos at someone else's mothers funeral, and posting them on facebook despite knowing they are causing distress. I'd delete her off facebook too so you don't have to witness any more of her hurtful behaviour.

proffLucy

Thank you all. It actually makes me feel a bit better to know that people agree with me that its just wrong....so thank you x

I have just come to the conclusion that my siblings are the ones that are weird. My oldest brother (who's wife took the photos) is now angry with me because he probably thinks I'm being a prima donna.

My other brother isn't bothered...

and my sister thins its wrong but she just wants to keep the peace and not fall out with older brother.

I will go the the ashes scattering tonight but I wont feel comfortable, even if no photos are taken.

AmyTurtle

That's appalling behaviour, and I'm mystified that the rest of your family don't agree.