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Suggs

grannynise wrote: »

In reverse order ....

....yes it did .... very clearly.

....a mainstream first school (means Nursery to year 3 or aged 3 to 8 in old money) about 330 children and 60 staff, not all the staff are full time. Very mixed sort of school, additionally resourced for children with physical disabilites, good reputation for special needs generally so lots of other needy children too.

....yes I am. Sorry if it shows. But I love it, wouldn't do anything else.

No need to be sorry, glad you enjoy it, always interested to hear, especially as OH works as office and finance manager in a 'School for children with Moderate Learning Difficulties with an attached unit for 12 Social, Emotional, Behaviour Difficulty Pupils' (I had to ask her) or as I call it. "The war zone" :rotfl::rotfl:

Brighton_belle

grannynise wrote: »

Bbelle -- if you put them in the freezer they'll still call you. And then you'll feel sorry for them becuase they're cold and shivery so you'll get them out and eat them - frozen - even if you hurt your teeth doing it.

BELIEVE ME this is the voice of experience (only it was doughnuts). Quite a few doughnuts actually.

Smash them up and throw them in the garden for the birds! NOW!![/quote]

So much good advice: thanks Grannynise, petrichore (well, more threats than advice ), newlywed, katiepc and seren.

Temptations on hold as weigh in at 5.30 but their existence in the kitchen is killing me. Torn between the 'cutting them up and freezing' idea of kpc and the probable realities of a grannynise experience if I don't bin, and a sobbing OH if I do.
Great word 'ructions'. Perhaps half a ruction wouldn't be so very bad...:D

bb

victory

I have lost another 3lb this week so that is 6 lb in 2 weeks and supposed to be maintaining, need to address it, fear of weight gain stops me from enjoying food now as I used to (to excess then but at least I enjoyed it!!) I spend ages in the kitchen cooking from the time to eat WW book and the cook yourself thin one and I am either doing that or thinking about food, huge row with H this morning as he says I have lost my spark that it was better when I weighed more (cruel thing to say but see where he is coming from) as I was not so food orientated and how to eat food with the ones that have the least points/calories...

I just keep thinking of future things like we have 2 xmas do's to go to and all I can think of is will I be the same weight then as now? Can I buy the dress now or am I just living in hope?

Finding it hard as I have never been slim for long, old habits creep back, things increase in portions, have no trust in me, my handlings of foods, so always buy the least calorie/sugar/fat etc ones and have not one thing in the house that can be used to cheat and eaten with pleasure.

My self confidence has nose-dived, H having a go makes me want to reach for the bacon but have not done so as it will only affect me, H came home early from work to take me out to the harvester (good diet choice) I wrangled out of it and did not go because I can't face thinking of what to wear (I am very lucky get bags of brand new clothes off the boot fair each week for silly money all top brands so have plenty to wear) what to talk about,etc however hard I try I cannot seem to align my confidence, even though many a person has said I look younger, slimmer etc but not happier.

My mother coming for a week has put a huge pressure on me as we don't get on(in Spain I only saw her for maybe 1/2 hours a day and she managed to complain about my hair, weight loss, nails, clothes, my face looked unhappy!!,we just don't get on, I don't like her and the feeling is probably mutual, my boss at work ( I have 2) is a b£$%^ and she will make me leave if I cannot even get a base line relationship going with her and I resent her for that, then H is not happy (not that I did this for him but he says that he suffers because it is all food) I am getting out of my depth

Brighton_belle

[quote=victory;6316235]I am getting out of my depth[/quote]

Oh victory I am sad to read this :grouphug: . You sounded like you were having so much fun wih the new recipes -it sounded a very positive thing. And the trouble is, meal planning and prep has to be done, so it's not exactly easy to get away from is it. And as we know, good plannng is the key to sucessful weight loss/maintenance.
You sound really down. Your OH does come out with some corkers, but like you, I can also see it must have been frustrating for him to come home specially to take you out and you wouldn't go.
Has this all suddenly got worse becasue of your mum coming ?(that seems to be the impression). Remember , there is no law that say one must like one's mother, particularly when she appears to be emotionally manipulative: she sounds what is called 'passive aggressive' - lots of nasty barbs but if challenged she'd say you were being over sensitive. Being a mother doesn't bestow you with some automatic right to be venerated.
Is there no way you can cancel the stay. Be frank, or tell her you are not well. She won't take it well of course, but self preservation is paramount. This is not 'selfishness', this is pro-active self cherishing. You cope with enough as it is Victory - you are in constant physical pain plus other health problems. You are entitled to be able to feel safe behind your own front door.
Do not have her to stay.
As for your fears of blowing it food wise. Is it possible to try a little blow out and then get back on track - to prove to your self you can do it? Handle that, then try another one. I'm sure others will have much more to offer on this.
bb
x

Suggs

Victory, :grouphug: just wrote you a nice long message and the bloomin thing vanished :mad:

In short though, while I remember, at my age,

1. You have archived a fantasic weight loss, you must be proud of yourself and your body.
2. I know how you feel, I hit a target a few weeks ago, like yourself, then chose to continue. So I am scared of gaining too
3. To me, maintianing is harder than losing, we have found a foruma that works for weightloss, we now have to find a new formula to maintian the fantasic loss. I have said I will decrease the gym by 10% as a start point.
4. Go out for dinner, chose a low fat option, enjoy the meal, make sure you dress well and you become a 'head turner'. Once you have eaten the meal, see what happens as one meal does not a pound in weight make.
5. This is difficult to say, but our actions, whether we diet, follow a eating plan effects many other people, family and friends, At times I feel really guilty for asking my OH to cook a certain way, and I am extermely grateful for her support, but at times we have to remember the other people in our lives too. sometimes they can get fed up, and sometimes thay are just pointing out that all this hard work is taking its toll. I get told I look shattered by 2 people, mum and OH
6. I argee with BrightonBelle about mother issues, as you know mine does the same thing
7. Have a hug
8. Have another hug
9. Have yet another hug
10. Smile loads - you deserve it

Skint_Catt

victory ((((HUGS)))) to you girl. I know how tought this thing can be. My mum is also extremely harsh on me. I lost 3.5 stone a few years ago and she still wasn't happy - it just became other things. I put 5.5 stone on comfort eating and am just losing it again and moving out (I live with her!).

I'm hoping that escaping from her will make me feel happier about things as my OH is extremely supportive and only wants me to lose weight for my health and so we can have kids.

Are you doing your diet alone or going to a group? If alone, a group can be extremely supportive.

C xxx

consultant31

redmel1621 wrote: »

Hi

I am desperate to lose weight (need to lose 4st ish) and I am finding it all very confusing, I have looked about on here but there seems to be so many posts and clubs and recipe threads, but I can't seem to get them into any order.........

One main question of mine is.....Is there anywhere I can find out about or get hold of a book etc. for the guidelines/ins an outs of Slimming World, I think I might like this one but I can't really afford to join and attend meetings

Mel x

Hi Mel. I've pm'd you, If you want anything else, let me know.

Skint_Catt

http://www.slimmingworld.com/healthy_eating/food_optimising.asp This explains the guidlines, though if you buy any slimming world book from eBay it'll go through the basics in the front like this one http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/Slimming-World-Free-Foods-Recipe-Book-NEW_W0QQitemZ250165949234QQihZ015QQcategoryZ274QQssPageNameZWDVWQQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem

I'm doing SW and it works great for me. I've lost a stone in 4 weeks. I need to lose 6 stone :eek: I lost 3.5stone a few years ago on it and it's the best thing I've ever done.

C xx

katiepoppycat

wwwaaggghhh! the boot!

I hope that has got you sorted BB! rofl at grannynise's 'feeling all cold and shivery'.

victory, I am so so sorry that you aren't happy - therehave been hints of it, you've mentioned a few times that it's been remarked that you look gaunt. How do you think you look? Honestly? Suggs is probably the best qualified of all of us as he has similar experience to you. I suppose it's like learning to stop using food as a comfort eating tool, now you have to learn to relax and not see it as a bundle of fat and calories. FWIW i think you are going he right way by going for healthy versions of foods. You can do this Victory, we are all here to support you however we can.xxx

starlight_xx

ftbworried wrote: »

Hmmmm, I don't know how much I have lost this week. I have a pair of WW scales (silver ones) and you can either just stand on them to get your weight, or press the program button before you stand on to get your weight, and body fat percentage, BMI etc.

On the first reading I was 10st12 (a 2lb loss) and on the 'program' reading I was 10st4!!! I have NO WAY lost 10 pounds in a week, so I'm more inclined to assume that 10st12 is nearer the mark. Trouble is, I've lost all confidence in the scales now- they are obviously not working properly. Anyone else have the same prob with these WW scales....am I doing something wrong?

Love WW diet HATE their scales. I had a set which were about a stone out, and Ive heard of numerous people with the same problem. I gave up on mine and bought another non WW set