Age gaps

System

My best friend is nearly 30, with a child, and still plays computer games. That said he also has a masters in game design and works for a small gaming company so i can understand it

I don't think its sad. To me its just another hobby. No worse than watching telly or reading a book. People find enjoyment in different ways. As long as its not detrimental to the relationship i don;t see why it would be a problem.

j.e.j.

depends on the game, I suppose.

But this is all going a bit off topic

bylromarha

AubreyMac wrote: »

Sorry to hear that.

Now 30 years is a massive gap.

Thanks.

If you go by the general consensus of the thread though, they were happy & very much in love before dad's death 11 years into their marriage. Dad had a young outlook, mum had had to grow up quickly at a young age. They eloped in the 60s to get wed as grandad greatly disapproved. The 30 year age gap worked for them as they were in love.

My point is, just because it worked for them, it sucked for my sister and I. You're much more likely to lose a father young when he is 58 years old when you're conceived. Not rocket science.

milliemonster

My husband is 7 years older than me and we've been together 20 years, the age difference has never been an issue for us apart from all our friends have toyboys, my close friend is 50 and met her husband who is 34 when he was 18 and she was 34, married with 2 kids!, they've been married now for 14 years, all of my other female friends who are in their early forties like me are married to much younger men (late twenties early thirties) so I think my poor hubby feels quite old

mshappy

I have a friend who's partner was 40 years older then her. He recently died from MS and his decline happened very quickly. She was late 20s he was in his 60s.

They were together over 10 years. Who are we to judge?

VestanPance

j.e.j. wrote: »

I must admit, having just googled it, I'm surprised that the average age of a gamer is 30. I'd have thought it was younger than that.

The average age is also rising, because certain people (ahem) play games while they're in their teens but don't grow out of it, so those who were gaming back in the 80s may well be about 50 by now.

Not sure what video games your husband is playing, but I associate people being addicted to WarCrack and playing GTA with the immaturity of youth. If they're aged 50+ that's even sadder!

I'm in my 40's and most guys I know of that age still play computer games regularly. Anything from Nintendo games to MMO's on their PC's.

Many of them have their own mancave to escape to avoid the drudgery of having to watch soaps and reality TV that their wife wants to watch.

onlyroz

j.e.j. wrote: »

I must admit, having just googled it, I'm surprised that the average age of a gamer is 30. I'd have thought it was younger than that.

The average age is also rising, because certain people (ahem) play games while they're in their teens but don't grow out of it, so those who were gaming back in the 80s may well be about 50 by now.

Not sure what video games your husband is playing, but I associate people being addicted to WarCrack and playing GTA with the immaturity of youth. If they're aged 50+ that's even sadder!

Why is gaming any "sadder" than watching TV? At least it's an interactive form of entertainment which requires engaging your brain. I've never heard of WarCrack, and I think GTA is despicable. But each to their own.

Lunar_Eclipse

I have cousins the same age as me & my sister. My uncle is 10 years older than his wife, which is 15 years older than my dad. He was closer to my Grandad in age so I've always thought this 10 year age gap was a large one and it is the biggest I've known in real life.

Age gaps also become much more noticeable as we age. A twenty year gap at 25/45 wouldn't necessarily be noticeable, but it becomes more so at 45/65, 55/75 etc.

danih

I was reading the gravestones at a family funeral a few weeks ago, always find them really interesting.

One man was buried with his first and second wives, and one adult child from each marriage.

Going by dates on the grave stone, it looked like first wife had died very young, he had remarried a woman approx 30 years younger, who then outlived him.

I wonder how the first wife felt about the grave arrangements.

stir_crazy

I think it all depends on the outlook of both partners in the relationship rather than the age gap. DH and I have an age gap of 7.5 years but we have a similar outlook on life.

DH's sister and her husband have a 17 year age gap (he is older), which I wouldnt normally class as a massive age gap. However, they have such different outlooks on life that I often wonder what attracted them to each other in the first place. He acts older than her parents who are in their 60s and apparently he always has done.

They've been together for almost 20 years though so it must work for them!