Age gaps

AubreyMac

My last partner was 10 years older than me.

It really made no difference to us.

I was in my early 20's when we were together the relationship lasted 9 years.

So, do you think age gaps matter? and what to you is a big gap?

onlyroz

17 years between us. It does make a difference but those differences are not necessarily insurmountable. I had children earlier than I might have done otherwise, and I do worry about health problems in the future, or perhaps spending my "best" years as a carer, but ultimately you can't help who you fall in love with.

bylromarha

The 30 years between my mum and dad made a massive difference to me when my dad died when I was 3 years old.

penguin83

19 years between OH and I (he is older). We have been together for over 13 years. Works for us!

AubreyMac

My friends parents is 10 years difference (dad is older).

She believes the age gap is showing a difference now that all the kids have flown the nest. Her mum is enjoying her new found freedom and is becoming more outgoing whereas her dad has been retired for a few year isn't so bothered and wants to stay in all the time.

Though I don't mind an older guy, I'm not sure how I would take to him retiring way ahead of me.

AubreyMac

bylromarha wrote: »

The 30 years between my mum and dad made a massive difference to me when my dad died when I was 3 years old.

Sorry to hear that.

Now 30 years is a massive gap.

alanalea

17 Years between OH & I, he is older. I feel exactly the same as Onlyroz- I too had children younger than I had planned and have some worry about the future. We've been together 12 years now & are very happy.

jfdi

My OH is 65 this month and has chosen to retire properly.

I'm 56 nearly 57 so have about 12 years till I can claim my State Pension.

That to me seems an awful lot (8 years more than it was when we married), so I think age gaps will become much more noticeable with the ongoing changes to pension ages.

I'm fortunately in a position where I can consider retiring very shortly, just waiting for OH to finalise all his figures before I make the decision - but what happens if people can't choose that???

purpleshoes_2

Has this topic not already been done to death on here?

seven-day-weekend

AubreyMac wrote: »

My last partner was 10 years older than me.

It really made no difference to us.

I was in my early 20's when we were together the relationship lasted 9 years.

So, do you think age gaps matter? and what to you is a big gap?

I don't think any age gap matters as long as both partners are aware of the issues that may come with it.

I have a friend who is eighteen years older than his 22-year-old wife. He has teenage children from his first marriage. He and his wife are very happy together and his children like her as well. They make a lovely couple, and as others have said, you can't chose who you fall in love with.

However.....I have thought, what happens in (say) eight year's time if she wants children and he is nearly fifty and his children are in their twenties? He can't really say no, can he? I just hope they have addressed these issues and others that might arise from the age gap.

My son is 8 1/2 years older than his partner, it doesn't seem to cause them any problems at all.

comeandgo

My husband is same age as my mum. Problems? No, but I can't ignore the fact he is getting bloody grumpy in his old age, and I can tell them both to be nice to me as it will be me who will choose their old folks home. I could put them in the same home and it would save me having two to visit.