How much to give as wedding present?

goggle

In your circumstances, and assuming that you can afford to do so, I would give somewhere around £50 for a sibling's wedding - BUT as they have specified for the honeymoon I would give it in the currency of the honeymoon & make it a nice round number
A quick check suggests that 1000 Mexican Pesos would be about £42.50 - which sounds absolutely perfect

Errata

This has been an interesting thread and what it all seems to boil down to is "This is an invitation to our wedding, and by the way, there's an entry fee"

nicegirl

We gave £100 for a sibling birthday and I am going to the wedding of a close friend next month and giving £50. I'd give £30 for a less close friend.

I don't mind giving cash for weddings. I'd prefer to do that than give them a gift that they don't want or need. I know that some people don't like it at all, funny that it's normal in some cultures!

We are getting married abroad, just the two of us, next month. We've having a party for friends and family when we get back and we have not asked or made any reference to gifts on the invitation. (And don't expect them!) For friends and family who have approached us and said that they would like to give us a gift, we have said cash would be useful as we're buying a house and have lots to buy. (As in big things like a sofa, white goods, not the type of thing you'd get as a wedding present!:p )

GBNI

I would give between £50-£100 but I would get it changed into the local currency for them to use on their honeymoon.

OH and his sister gave £1,000 between them to their brother. I thought that was a lot.

anotheruser

We asked for money.

Although we specifically asked for dollars, I sort of wished we'd said other gifts (from either of our Amazon wish lists) would have been okay too. Or put the "your gift is your presence but feel free to contribute to honeymoon..."

It's difficult as we'd been living together for over 5 years so had everything we needed for the house. I wouldn't want someone to buy us something that we don't actually want or need. And buying a Blu-ray or whatever isn't exactly a lasting wedding gift.

However, enabling us to have a fantastic honeymoon that would create so many good memories for us would be the best gift anyone could ever give us.

I guess it's all proportionate to what you earn.
To some people, £500 as a wedding gift is "deserved" (it's their wedding for goodness sake!), yet to others, that's half a months wages!

I expected no more than £100 from anyone. I personally would give between £50 and £100 to family members; gifts to anyone else - and yes, get it changed in to local currency. Then it's harder for them to see how much you really gave, and with some currencies, it'll look like you're giving a lot more than you really are.

snow_ball

There are a number of other threads that are exactly the same, some people thinks it's inappropriate to give money as a gift and others think it's the most appropriate gift.

I've been to a few weddings over the last couple of years and there has been no gift list and no request for anything with the invitation, so we always gave cash. The tradition of giving gifts is outdated because most people are already 'shacked up' as one poster so nicely put it, so giving a sum of money you would have spent on a gift so that they can have an extra nice time on honeymoon (or however they want to spend it!) seems like a lovely gesture to me. I'll never understand why some people get so worked up about it! :rotfl:

southoftheriver

I too don't get why people get their knickers in a twist about giving money in exchange of a gift. It's not necessarily costing you any more, and times have changed. Being obstinate and buying an item when you have no idea whether or not it will be used seems wasteful.

I'm getting married in September and I don't mind if people give us anything. I haven't made a gift list yet (may do) and definitely haven't asked for money. I am inviting people because I want to share the day with them and it isn't dependent on giving gifts or money. However if I had everything I needed it would seems silly to make a list of material items. Experiences (like a honeymoon) can be much more significant than a chopping board.

anotheruser

I wonder if those who don't like giving money as a wedding gift, give money for birthday presents...

19lottie82

JustStartingOut wrote: »

I'm getting married in October, I have put a little poem in asking for a donation to our honeymoon

I'm sorry, and it's only my opinion, but there's nothing more cringey than a poem asking for money. Just the thought of it makes my toes curl (again, sorry).

There's no need to ask for money. 90% of people will give money anyway.

ceh209

I'm getting married soon and we have asked for money (as in, said on the invitations, you don't have to get us anything, but if you do...)


HOWEVER I'd warn against changing into the local currency of the honeymoon. We're going all inclusive and have booked one excursion in advance, so the actual currency we'll need is very minimal. If we get currency, we'll just be changing it back at silly rates afterwards.