How much to give as wedding present?

nearlyrich

How about some currency for the honeymoon spends..less obvious than ££££s I don't disagree with people asking for cash towards the honeymoon better than loads of stuff that doesn't go with their style.

Tixy

£100 seems a reasonable amount (if you can afford it). Especially with your circumstances and imminent reduction in income.

I wouldn't give more than £150. Perhaps £100 and a gift (bottle of champagne or something 'romantic')?

fierystormcloud

Tixy wrote: »

I think a lot of people refuse/ignore money wedding gift requests and give gifts instead.

If you had been presented with a traditional wedding list from them how much would you have looked to spend?

Errata wrote: »

Nothing gets my goat more than people dictating they want money for a wedding present.
Give her a doormat, it will remind her of the way she treats people.

Hmmm, I have to say it annoys me a bit. One of my husband's cousins said they didn't want gifts (as they had lived together 10 months when they got wed.) So they requested a minimum £50 cash gift. It was on the invitation and everything! What a cheek! :rotfl:

We were invited, but were unfortunately on holiday in America for the wedding (shame.) It actually felt like people were having to pay to go to the wedding!

Buzzybee90

nearlyrich wrote: »

How about some currency for the honeymoon spends..less obvious than ££££s I don't disagree with people asking for cash towards the honeymoon better than loads of stuff that doesn't go with their style.

I'd agree normally but it's an AI so not too much use for spending money.

Buzzybee90

fierystormcloud wrote: »

Hmmm, I have to say it annoys me a bit. One of my husband's cousins said they didn't want gifts (as they had lived together 10 months when they got wed.) So they requested a minimum £50 cash gift. It was on the invitation and everything! What a cheek! :rotfl:

We were invited, but were unfortunately on holiday in America for the wedding (shame.) It actually felt like people were having to pay to go to the wedding!

How do they do that? I'm cringing just reading it!

Tixy

fierystormcloud wrote: »

So they requested a minimum £50 cash gift. It was on the invitation and everything! What a cheek! :rotfl:

It actually said minimum? Wow, just wow.

I can tell you if I got that invitation there is no chance at all that I'd have given a £50 gift even if I would normally have spent double that on them. Well I might have considered boxing up £50 worth of 2p pieces.......

fierystormcloud

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

How do they do that? I'm cringing just reading it!

Tixy wrote: »

It actually said minimum? Wow, just wow.

I can tell you if I got that invitation there is no chance at all that I'd have given a £50 gift even if I would normally have spent double that on them. Well I might have considered boxing up £50 worth of 2p pieces.......

I know right! :rotfl: Some people just have a different moral compass to others.

These are the same people who will turn up at a funeral to see if they have anything in the will, rather than to pay their respects, and it's usually people who have not seen the deceased in 2 decades! :rotfl:

Happier_Me

I think £100 is fine...I personally wouldn't give any more considering you are about to go on maternity leave and this is what you would gift a close friend.

Getting this in holiday currency is a nice touch, they can always cash this in if they don't spend it on their honeymoon.

MX5huggy

fierystormcloud wrote: »

I know right! :rotfl: Some people just have a different moral compass to others.

These are the same people who will turn up at a funeral to see if they have anything in the will, rather than to pay their respects, and it's usually people who have not seen the deceased in 2 decades! :rotfl:

Do wills actually get it presented at funerals? Never seen it and I've been to more than my fair share of funerals

JustStartingOut

I'm getting married in October, I have put a little poem in asking for a donation to our honeymoon because all my family keep asking me what I want, and I have everything I need for the house so presents would just go to waste. Haven't had a holiday abroad since I was 18 so would love to have a decent honeymoon!

To be honest I don't think you should feel obliged to give any money at all. I don't want my family and friends to think they should.

I know my Auntie will be giving me £40 because that's what she has given all my cousins she says, equal amounts.

Lol I'm rambling, if I feel I HAVE to give something then I would be inclined to give them nothing or very little :rotfl: I never do as I'm told!
If they consider what you give them a 'low' amount then let them have that problem. It's your money, spend it how you like.