How much to give as wedding present?

juicygirl

Thanks for all replies!


I can't believe people would ask for a minimum!! This was in the invitation too, but was worded nicely!

I think I will go somewhere around the £100-£120 mark.

Errata

So how does this work? Last couple of weddings I was invited to the presents were on display at the bride's parents or at the reception.
Does the bride blu tack a bit of paper to the wall with a list of money received? Is it split into cheques and cash? Name added to the list as the money comes in? League table?
I think it's either pretty low to ask for cash or the happy couples relatives and friends don't know or care enough about them to give them a present that would give them pleasure for more than 10 minutes on a crappy beach in Mexico.

Diamond_Orchid

Wow I can't believe some of the suggestions, I'd say £50 max, but I am a tight !!!!

Hoipolloi

There is no way on this planet I would give above £50, and I would be inclined to give half of that amount in fact. Surely they will have a box for gifted money/cards and you could put the money in a separate envelope to your congrats wedding card. :beer:

JustStartingOut

Errata wrote: »

So how does this work? Last couple of weddings I was invited to the presents were on display at the bride's parents or at the reception.
Does the bride blu tack a bit of paper to the wall with a list of money received? Is it split into cheques and cash? Name added to the list as the money comes in? League table?
I think it's either pretty low to ask for cash or the happy couples relatives and friends don't know or care enough about them to give them a present that would give them pleasure for more than 10 minutes on a crappy beach in Mexico.

Well 1. it isn't low - why ask for pots and pans if you already have a decent set?
2. My relatives and friends know me well enough that I do not expect anything from them. They are asking ME what I want - money or presents.
3. Gifts were always because newlyweds really did need all the pots and pans as most only just bought houses, or were about to buy houses, not living with each other for years before hand like modern times.

And as for the money, they are put in cards in to a 'post box' for the couples to open in private.

j.e.j.

Errata wrote: »

So how does this work? Last couple of weddings I was invited to the presents were on display at the bride's parents or at the reception.
Does the bride blu tack a bit of paper to the wall with a list of money received? Is it split into cheques and cash? Name added to the list as the money comes in? League table?
I think it's either pretty low to ask for cash or the happy couples relatives and friends don't know or care enough about them to give them a present that would give them pleasure for more than 10 minutes on a crappy beach in Mexico.

The idea of wedding presents was (or is) traditionally to help the bride and groom to furnish their new home and start their life together. These days of course a lot of people have shacked up together and already have the washing machine, pots & pans, duvet covers, etc etc and don't need anything but are probably in debt having paid for all the above and would appreciate some cash towards a honeymoon :rotfl:

I would HOPE the bride and groom are not crass enough to list the individual amounts that people have donated for all and sundry to see!

Loz01

Im stingy :rotfl: so I would give £50, thats still a decent amount! Especially if you think how many guests people invite to weddings... £20/50/75 times a whole room full of people adds up to a LOT! Don't feel bad at giving only what you can afford.

Minty123

I hate giving money at weddings so we often buy a bottle of wine that will be really nice in 5 or 10 (or both years) label them up appropriately.. I.e for the 5th/10th anniversary etc.

A girl I know who is getting married soon recently went to a wedding, gave a gift of £25, then complained regularly as loudly that she didn't think the wedding was worth £25 because the food wasn't worth £25 and she didn't like the table decorations, the bride clearly hadn't spent that much etc etc. Guess I won't be giving a cash gift at her weddings either!!!

gettingtheresometime

I think I would be giving £50

I don't have an issue per se with giving money but I do have an issue with paying for someone's honeymoon.

PenguinOfDeath

Give as much as you want and can afford to. Not how much others might think you should give.

Anyone who judges guests for how much they give as a present isn't worth the friends or family they invited.

If you are giving money, does it matter what the couple want to spend it on? Honeymoon, new kitchen, clothes... It's all going in the same 'pot'. I'd rather give cash or vouchers if requested than give some clutter that might not be used or appreciated.