How much to give as wedding present?

juicygirl

Looking for some advice.

Sister in Law getting married and requesting money towards honeymoon instead of presents. So how much do we give?

Background:

Us: me, husband and son ( who is only 2 but has been given pageboy title). I'm pregnant and about to go off on unpaid mat leave.

Husbands family think we are well off because of my job ( I don't earn nearly as much as they think and now only part time since had son) and because we go on a coue of holidays a year ( we save hard for this and rarely go out/buy clothes etc in between).

When we got married SIL was our bridesmaid and didn't get us a thing. She was a bit of a layabout at the time and not working ( although still managed to go out every weekend). However, this was 9 years ago and she has changed a lot ....but it still bugs me!

Maybe none of the above is relevant and doesn't matter when making a decision but I thought I'd give a full background.

At the end of the day I want what we do to be appropriate!

Thanks for your opinions!

j.e.j.

That's a tricky one. I HATE giving money as a present and try to avoid it if possible.

Whereabouts do they want to go on honeymoon?

juicygirl

They have already booked it. Going to Mecico. I think it's all inclusive do can't imagine they'll need money from everyone for it. More likely it will be used back home. They have a very good social life!

j.e.j.

I think I'd give them the same amount that I would have spent on a present, if that makes sense?

fierystormcloud

juicygirl wrote: »

They have already booked it. Going to Mecico. I think it's all inclusive do can't imagine they'll need money from everyone for it. More likely it will be used back home. They have a very good social life!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Sorry, but all I can picture when I read that, is this;



Say £75 for a BIL and SIL.

That is my suggestion anyway.

But whatever you can afford.

Errata

Nothing gets my goat more than people dictating they want money for a wedding present.
Give her a doormat, it will remind her of the way she treats people.

Tixy

I think a lot of people refuse/ignore money wedding gift requests and give gifts instead.

If you had been presented with a traditional wedding list from them how much would you have looked to spend?

Buzzybee90

fierystormcloud wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Sorry, but all I can picture when I read that, is this;



Say £75 for a BIL and SIL.

That is my suggestion anyway.

But whatever you can afford.

Me too! I'd probably give my brother £100.

juicygirl

I think my question would have been the same either way, how much should I spend on gift or how much money.

We usually spend around £80 on friends weddings, £100 if very close friends, cousins etc. So I should give more than this I think. But how much more?

The money thing doesn't really bother me, othe than its then completely obvious what you have spent!

fierystormcloud

Ummm it's up to you hun. I would personally give about £75. But if you give £80 to £100 to a pal or cousin? I dunno, say £125 to £150?

Nobody on here can tell you. Only you can know.

MX5huggy

£50, in the form of a mint uncirculated £50 note. For most people it would at least get noticed as it is spent.

Or a £10 gold coin they are currently £100 ish, just make sure they know it's worth a lot more than a tenner. They are about the size of a 5p from http://www.royalmintbullion.com/Launch/Products/#Gold-Lunar-Year-of-the-Sheep-2015-Gold-Lunar-Year-of-the-Sheep-2015-UK-1/10-oz-Gold-Bullion-Coin_