How much to give as wedding present?

purpleshoes_2

Ive never heard of give to cover the cost of meals, how would you know how much a meal cost?

Torry_Quine

Old_Git wrote: »

give enough to cover the cost of your meals at the reception .

No way. Any gift, monetary or otherwise is just that. The couple shouldn't book a reception on the basis that guests will give enough to cover the cost, they might as well just invoice the cost!:mad:

JP08

Torry_Quine wrote: »

No way. Any gift, monetary or otherwise is just that. The couple shouldn't book a reception on the basis that guests will give enough to cover the cost, they might as well just invoice the cost!:mad:

Alternatively you could view it as they care enough about you to want you to come to their wedding and are happy to spend that much on you.

After all, you could just have been invited to the also rans at the evening do ...

Lunar_Eclipse

January20 wrote: »

You bought your sister a present because you didn't want to give her money but you don't care whether she appreciated it or not? Is that what you're saying? If this is the case, isn't it just a waste of your money?

I bought her a gift because I wanted to and that's what I always do for someone getting married, not simply because I didn't want to give her money.

And of course I bought her a gift I thought she would love and was meaningful, hence me calling it thoughtful. However I'm accepting of the fact that no-one ever knows whether anyone really appreciates (by which I mean love/like, not appreciating the thought) any gift hence my remark to this effect. I'm confident most people have received gifts others think they'll like when in fact they think 'interesting choice, I'll never use/wear etc this.' So apologies, by saying I wasn't sure if she appreciated it, I didn't mean that, I meant I don't know how much she likes it.

I never said I didn't care whether she appreciated it or not: she is my sister after all so of course I care.

Sinhanada

juicygirl wrote: »

They have already booked it. Going to Mecico. I think it's all inclusive do can't imagine they'll need money from everyone for it. More likely it will be used back home. They have a very good social life!

Maybe they have put their honeymoon on a credit card and will use the wedding gifts to pay this back? I'd suggest £50 as a decent gift.

As for what they got you when you got married, I would say that is immaterial, especially as it was over nine years ago. The rankled feeling will probably stay for much longer (It would for me!) though.

Good luck, and I hope everything goes smoothly with the pregnancy!

Jagraf

I would say that most people would appreciate money, whether they say so or not.

I would therefore give money.

If I was asked to give money, though, I probably would avoid the wedding. It costs a lot to attend a wedding. I mean hundreds of pounds.

Torry_Quine

JP08 wrote: »

Alternatively you could view it as they care enough about you to want you to come to their wedding and are happy to spend that much on you.

After all, you could just have been invited to the also rans at the evening do ...

I do view it that they want me to come to the wedding and spend that much but that wouldn't be the case if I was expected to gift an equivalent amount.

The people I invited to my evening reception weren't also rans and I never feel that way either when invited to the evening only.

Poppops

My son and his girlfriend were invited to a wedding last year. It was DS's gf's brother, who is a lot older and lives at the other end of the country.

They travelled all the way there, paid for a hotel and attended the small wedding. The reception was in a restaurant.

After the meal, the bride asked my son how many glasses of wine he and gf had drunk from the bottles on the table, scuttled away and came back with a bill for their meals and their share of the wine. The only thing they weren't expected to pay for was the champagne toast. They hadn't been warned in advance.

I'd never heard the like. DS and gf regret putting £100 in a card for the present. :rotfl:

purpleshoes_2

Poppops wrote: »

My son and his girlfriend were invited to a wedding last year. It was DS's gf's brother, who is a lot older and lives at the other end of the country.

They travelled all the way there, paid for a hotel and attended the small wedding. The reception was in a restaurant.

After the meal, the bride asked my son how many glasses of wine he and gf had drunk from the bottles on the table, scuttled away and came back with a bill for their meals and their share of the wine. The only thing they weren't expected to pay for was the champagne toast. They hadn't been warned in advance.

I'd never heard the like. DS and gf regret putting £100 in a card for the present. :rotfl:

I bet they do. Ive never heard of the like in my life.

rachiibell

purpleshoes wrote: »

So why is the bride asking for donations towards her honeymoon? I've never been to a wedding with a gift list as I explained above.

Surely if you are getting married you budget for your honeymoon, because if the donations fall short what then?

Weekend in Rhyl?

I wouldn't read it as they can't afford a honeymoon. Just that they could make it a bit more special with some extra money, nice meals out, experiences like scuba diving, ect. Some people prefer to give money knowing it's going to be spent on something special rather than just being eaten up by bills ect.