38 and Single :o(

wishus

My 72-year-old dad just married a lady he met on Match and instantly gained another 2 children!!!

Hope you're doing okay, Neatheyc. Good luck out there!

heavenfire

NWOIHTS wrote: »

How do you actually do that? I mean I just wouldn't start hitting strangers up on FB it's creepy?

HA that made me laugh! I didn't join any single and on the pull groups nor did I join the apps to find a relationship. I just have a normal conversation with someone and on the odd occasion it turns into something more, you know like in real life

dating_thoughts

Hiya I'm sorry to hear that. I wonder if updating or improving your dating profile on the free dating websites may be a help to help you find someone special. This online dating profile tips articles may be of help http://www.datingallhours.com/online-dating-profile-tips.aspx I've found it difficult in the past writing my online dating profile and the concept of having to 'sell myself' was a bit out of my comfort zone but once I got the hang of it it seemed to improve things. I know it can be really difficult to find someone you like although definitely keep trying and I'm sure you'll find someone. Good luck with it.

neatheyc wrote: »

Hi all,

Anyone got any advice on how to cheer myself up?

38 year old male and have been single again since the beginning of the year. Live alone in my flat. No children.

Feel depressed as I feel I would really would like to have been married and have my own children by now. Feels like I have missed the boat and will be single for every. Too old for children.

Have tried POF but not having much luck on their. Can't really afford Match.com or Zoosk and not even sure they would be any better.

Need to get out and meet people but most of my friends are settled down now.

tea_lover

morocha wrote: »

Where are the girls that were queuing up for the OP. Call me naive but I want to see a happy ending

There are specialist websites for that sort of thing!

mattyprice4004

Bah, enjoy being single.
Being able to do what you want, when you want, being able to leave the toilet seat up, and being able to use Tesco Value toilet roll and shower gel without being judged.

morocha

Hahah Tealover, good one.

Op go back to the start of this thread and PM all those girls...

1940sGal

I've just read this post after feeling completely hopeless as far as dating's concerned.

I'm 32 next month and I've been single for three years. For a good chunk of that I wasn't remotely interested in being in a relationship. I was busy finishing uni then trying to find a job then I was getting for and joining the Army.

Now i'm back on civvy street after being MD'd, about to start a new job on Monday and for the first time in 3 years I want a relationship. At the mo I can't afford dating sites that require a subscription so i've tried the free ones; PoF, OkCupid and Tinder mainly.

Not only is it mostly the same people on them all (which is to be expected i suppose) but I can count on 1 hand the amount of guys I've found that a, i have something in common with and b, find attractive. I don't focus on looks alone but lets be honest, on these things looks is what's going to make you want to find out more about the person.

I don't really drink and clubbing is my idea of hell. I don't go out often or have a wide circle of friends so it's hard to meet guys any other way. And when i do find a guy I like and get talking to them (like i have done recently on 2 occasions) something pops up that is an instant turn off, like one guys a heavy smoker (i really hate smoking, it's vile).

I'm really in a state of despair here tbh. I'm really beginning to believe i'll spend the rest of my life alone and lonely and it's starting to really get me down.

I do believe there must be someone out there, just because i can't find him using online dating. But if that's the case, how do i find him?!

heavenfire

1940sGal there have been quite a few good suggestions about how to meet a potential partner on this thread. I already do some of the things suggested myself.

You have said that you have been single for 3 yrs and mostly because you wanted to be. You don't say how long you have been looking but it doesn't sound very long. You need to put in the leg work unfortunately and no that doesn't mean clubbing and pubbing but just talking to others when you go out - shop, travelling to work, at work whatever. They might not be potential partners but new friends who have friends and who knows.

Hope this helps and good luck

1940sGal

heavenfire wrote: »

1940sGal there have been quite a few good suggestions about how to meet a potential partner on this thread. I already do some of the things suggested myself.

You have said that you have been single for 3 yrs and mostly because you wanted to be. You don't say how long you have been looking but it doesn't sound very long. You need to put in the leg work unfortunately and no that doesn't mean clubbing and pubbing but just talking to others when you go out - shop, travelling to work, at work whatever. They might not be potential partners but new friends who have friends and who knows.

Hope this helps and good luck

I've been looking about 6 months now. It doesn't help that I'm quite shy either. Approaching a stranger is pretty much a no no. If I saw a guy out and about shopping or in a coffee shop who i found really attractive I'd never ask him out. I just don't have the ability to do that. This is why I wish online dating would work, I'm ok messaging people beforehand and getting to know them a bit that way, it puts me at ease.

Ladyshopper

I'm 39 and been single for 14 years. :eek:

My kids were only 2 and 3 when I split up with my husband, and I'd just got into the police, so a combination of young kids and shift work and nightmare of an ex-husband with regards childcare meant that I didn't really have chance to go out much.

I did try online dating, probably about 8 years ago, but didn't really get on with it. I'm quite shy, and although I forced myself to go out on a couple of dates, I just found it excrutiatingly hard work if I'm honest.

Been quite happy all these years, don't mind my own company and kids are great company. However, they're 16 and 17 now, so probably not long before they'll be off doing exciting things and leaving home, and I've realised that I could end up being quite lonely when they're gone.

Confidence and self-esteem are rock bottom, and I've been out the dating game so long I'm not sure if I'll ever find anyone to be honest.