38 and Single :o(

aileth

Good luck, OP.

I met my husband through Match. I had to go through an awful lot of terrible ones to get to him through.

The ones that stand out the most (to make you laugh!) were a guy who thought gin and tonic was posh, talked the whole evening about how his dad owns the biggest taxi firm in the city, and then when I was leaving was absolutely desperate for me to try out one of his dad's taxis (I refused!!!).
The other was a guy who was 40 years older than me, his profile picture was him holding a bouquet of roses and a bottle of cava, leaving against an old Jag. His first message was talking about my t*ts and the second was a picture of his penis.

My sister tried PoF and had an endless stream of weirdos!

Wishing you all the luck, you've had some great advice here!

neatheyc

Oh my god! That is hilarious! I really feel for you girls as you get all sorts of weirdos. Messaging you for one thing too.

It does kind of make it harder for us genuine blokes who just want to meet someone for a relationship.

Jagraf

tea_lover wrote: »

*joins orderly queue*

36, single, BTW

Is that you in the pic

harrys_nan

Jagraf wrote: »

Is that you in the pic

He said it is;)

I cannot believe with the flirting that was going on here, that NOBODY has sent him a message, come on girls, get your fingers out and do something about it. I would but I'm to old and already have kids :rotfl:

neatheyc

Yep that's me and I didn't get one single PM

purpleshoes_2

Its how you view being single that matters. Im in my mid 40s and single and I have been quite some time, years instead of months. I think its important to realise that you are much better of single than in an unhappy relationship, I know a few couples who are thoroughly miserable but have no intention of splitting.

Sinhanada

I tried POF for a while after I split, but the amount of messages I sent and didn't get a reply was really deflating - especially when you try your best to make it unique!

After a month or so of this (I went on one date but no spark at all) I decided to take the plunge and join match.com. I took out a six month subscription and within the first week met a lovely lady who I'm now still seeing. Even better when I emailed Match.com to ask for a refund on the remaining 5 months they refunded the whole lot! I don't know if it was just luck for me on the meeting, or if there really is a better class of people on the paid sites but hey I'm not complaining.

As for being 38 and no kids - you have plenty of time, and it's always better to have a child with someone you love than someone who is just there (Bitter voice of experience!).

I wish you the best of luck! :-)

neatheyc

Cheers guys. Some good advice there. I tried Match for a few days but found that the amount of women close to me was quite minimal.

I shall carry on using POF for a while and see how it goes. No point rushing or trying to hard. If it happens, it happens.

Primrose

Are you politically motivated or interested in one particular political party? We are nine days away from a General Election which only happens once every few years. All the political parties are looking for helpers doing all kinds of volunteering things like stuffing envelopes, etc. Why not contact the constituency office of your political inclination and offer some help It's only for nine days and you might meet some interesting new people to help give your social life a kick start. And after the election you can walk away, at least having had one new experience.

uk_american

Late to join your thread but just took a quite peek at your profile. I met my other half (together 2 years) on POF after trying POF, match and eharmony.

One quick comment, your profile and photos are lovely! Whilst you describe yourself well, as a female on these sites, I really liked when someone would say what type of lady they were seeking. For example, you say that you're half Dutch and family/friends are important to you. Does that mean you go back to Holland and would like a lady who likes to visit other places? A homebody might be hesitant if so, or someone who's also a cultural mix will completely understand if your home is both places...but it's not clear.

Personally, I found a lot of POF profiles featured drink, so I'd swap your 1st pic with one of your other two. Whilst I like a drink, I'd put it in the second photo. And personally I loved ones who featured pets or nieces/nephews, so maybe a further marketing idea. ;-)

I found it helpful to ask questions in my profile like, 'Do you like running in the forests on a sunny day? Will you visit a garden centre with me on the first weekend in November?' Whilst your profile says that you like to do these things, it needs to be more female oriented, so that you're engaging her, from her perspective.

Hope this helps! As I'm 5.5 and don't wear heels, you're the type of profile that I was searching for so have read many similar profiles. I think yours is quite interesting!