38 and Single :o(

purpleshoes_2

I don't believe that there is someone out there for everyone. If there were there wouldn't be so many people all looking for a partner but not finding the one that's a match for them.

So much of it is down to sheer luck, chance. Many people give up looking in the end, I wouldn't blame them.

Sinhanada

Purpleshoes - I can completely understand your reticence over dating websites. I did send quite a few messages and got very few responses. Eventually I did meet someone who I'm still seeing and incredibly happy with. I think the wait was worth it!


Neartheyc as well, it is a lottery really. The ones you like tend to not reply and it does knock your confidence. What I did (And hopefully it does help...) was to look at their profile and pictures and then try and compose a message which asked them questions about themselves \ hobbies or something in their picture. Ok, I admit I had person call me a *** weirdo (No I wasn't sending them anything rude!), and the majority of the ones who did reply tended to switch onto "sex" talk very quickly which did put me off (I'm no prude but I wanted to get to know someone first!). All I can say is it's trial and error and perseverance that will get you where you want to be!

Have you tried Tinder and Zoosk too? Both are free - I did use them but didn't get much response Zoosk. Tinder seemed to work better, but watch out for the typical Spam messages that come through saying: "You'll do - look at my website".

Good luck though, and I hope to read a message from you on here soon saying you've found someone!

purpleshoes_2

I also think some people in relationships have unrealistic expectations of what single people should be doing to fund a partner. I saw a post a few months back where someone in their 40s was asked why have you been single for so long.

It's possible to have a job, thriving social life and no partner.

Much easier to meet people in your 20s and even 30s I think dating wise just by being out and about.

Ive actually been involved with my local political party for some time, but the chances of it finding me a partner are zero.

VestanPance

I would severely doubt a political party would be a good idea if you're intention is to meet someone for dating!

Gloomendoom

purpleshoes wrote: »

Ive actually been involved with my local political party for some time, but the chances of it finding me a partner are zero.

Be patient, there must be some other single monster raving loonies out there.

purpleshoes_2

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Be patient, there must be some other single monster raving loonies out there.

Well I'm crying into my snp flyer that you are married and off the market.

Not :rotfl:

heavenfire

tea_lover wrote: »

I realise I sound like a right Luddite but how do you meet people via facebook? I often hear about relationships starting on there but I don't get it. Do you just hit on your friends?? :rotfl:

I've gone out with guys I've met on FB even had a two year relationship with one of them.

You can meet people from the pages or groups you like or some of the apps such as Social Central or Taggalicious on there. My only words of warning would be check when their page was "born", how many friends they have and if they are all female or male. I'm sure you'll all know it's a big warning flag that it's secondary FB page for "extra curricular" activities :eek:

Can't guarantee quality but there are definitely a few good 'uns about

System

purpleshoes wrote: »

I don't believe that there is someone out there for everyone. If there were there wouldn't be so many people all looking for a partner but not finding the one that's a match for them.

So much of it is down to sheer luck, chance. Many people give up looking in the end, I wouldn't blame them.

When you take into account the unequal amounts of men and women, then throw in various sexualities, realistically i'm not sure there is someone for everyone. Not that i don't till hope i'll be one of the lucky ones (touch wood if this pan out i might be)

NWOIHTS

heavenfire wrote: »

I've gone out with guys I've met on FB even had a two year relationship with one of them.

You can meet people from the pages or groups you like or some of the apps such as Social Central or Taggalicious on there. My only words of warning would be check when their page was "born", how many friends they have and if they are all female or male. I'm sure you'll all know it's a big warning flag that it's secondary FB page for "extra curricular" activities :eek:

Can't guarantee quality but there are definitely a few good 'uns about

How do you actually do that? I mean I just wouldn't start hitting strangers up on FB it's creepy?

morocha

Where are the girls that were queuing up for the OP. Call me naive but I want to see a happy ending:)