Mediation

Guest101

I kid you not! She's cancelled mediation.

!!!!!!, who is this person?!

ecgirl07

Guest101 wrote: »

I kid you not! She's cancelled mediation.

!!!!!!, who is this person?!

Make a note in your diary. Might be long term gain if you still up with your list, because it shows you are willing and because maybe she didnt cancel but you didnt turn up? Unless mediators have cancelled officially with you please attend.

Next time you think about the good times remember this feeling....

Guest101

ecgirl07 wrote: »

Make a note in your diary. Might be long term gain if you still up with your list, because it shows you are willing and because maybe she didnt cancel but you didnt turn up? Unless mediators have cancelled officially with you please attend.

Next time you think about the good times remember this feeling....

Cancelled via mediators. So I have the letter.

Going to get county court forms tomorrow.

I'm genuinely shocked and seriously !!!!ed off. She was adamant it had to be mediation

bouicca21

I think you include Xmas from the start, sew her up so it is totally clear, no room for wriggle, or potential for revisiting the arrangement/order.

Consider adding in Father's Day (and she gets Mother's Day). Think about school holidays - do you want to split them? What about his birthday?

Keep a paper trail showing how child centred you are, and her failures to be reasonable - this is about his right to have a relationship with both parents, not about your right to see him.

Guest101

No I know. That's what's shocking he was so happy to see me.

Can't believe her.

Guest101

Ran into her today, on the way to work.

I tried to speak to her about the mediation, but she was having none of it.

I'm sure her parents have been on at her this weekend and she's listened.

Anyway I tried to speak to her, but she walked away, so I decided to go to the county court.

I get there and she's outside the jobsentre (pretty much next door), I just walked into the court offices and got the forms. Coming out and she's waiting at the entrance (i think checking if i had actually got the forms).

One final time I asked her, do you want to go to court or do you want to sort this amicably. She silently walked away again.

So then I went to mediation centre, I needed them to give me an amended letter (the date on the cancellation letter was wrong, dated June something), they said she'd been advised to cancel by someone.

Without being funny, I know how hard it is to get a solicitors appointment around here. On friday evening she was adamant it was mediation, on monday she's cancelling. Hence the above statement regarding her parents being on to her about it.

The stupid thing is, they're all being selfish, thinking about her to hurt me. But no-one is thinking of DS.

Again, organisation epitomised. Lunch time im going to get a diary, everything ebing noted now.

Pixie5740

Guest, if you see her in the street, don't stop and talk to her. Smile and say hello at the absolute most but don't strike up a conversation with her. She might twist anything you say and use it against you.

Don't bake your noodle trying to work out her motivation for doing anything, including cancelling mediation. In the grand scheme of things it doesn't really matter why she cancelled or who she's getting advice from. You just need to demonstrate that you are working towards and amicable solution that is best for everyone, especially DS.

Guest101

Pixie5740 wrote: »

Guest, if you see her in the street, don't stop and talk to her. Smile and say hello at the absolute most but don't strike up a conversation with her. She might twist anything you say and use it against you.

Don't bake your noodle trying to work out her motivation for doing anything, including cancelling mediation. In the grand scheme of things it doesn't really matter why she cancelled or who she's getting advice from. You just need to demonstrate that you are working towards and amicable solution that is best for everyone, especially DS.

I wont try speak to her again.

I've downloaded a family court pack, written a short letter, offering mediation one last time.

Got the forms for the court application for if it gets to that stage.

Dropping off the pack and letter today after work, I doubt it'll work, but in truth half the reason is that i can show the court i've exhausted all avenues.

I'm not going to be caught out. I'm even filming myself dropping off the pack so she cant claim im hounding her.

There's a small chance that once she reads the pack, which goes into quite a bit of detail into the duty to make arrangements, she'll see sense.

Pixie5740

Do you have to hand deliver the pack? Could you post it instead?

Guest101

Pixie5740 wrote: »

Do you have to hand deliver the pack? Could you post it instead?

I could do, but if she then claimed to not recieve it. I know i could retain proof of postage, but also concerned that this would not be delivered until Friday.