do i have to pay for childcare?

Jagraf

swingaloo wrote: »

But if it goes to court the courts may set a schedule for the days he has his child. If he repeatedly has to work and this makes the schedule impossible to stick to then the court wont look favourably on him and going to court will have been a wasted exercise.

To be fair that scenario isn't any different from any parent who has to work, especially the parent with care. He has to make a choice here as his, and his ex's, personal circumstances will change over time anyway. Contact needs to be constant and regular. That surely is the priority here.

arbrighton

bradrock wrote: »

These answers are laughable i ask a simple question and get a liad of !!!!. Like i said before obviously women answering dont bother i got the answer i thought was right thats all i need . thread closed

sexist bulls*** and you've just admitted that noone is giving the answer you want which is why you tell us we are pathetic or assume our gender

Broadwood

bradrock wrote: »

And what about the money she gets in benefits for childcare? Whats that play money?

Your attitude of "me, me, me.." is what makes the average taxpayer fed up of picking up the bill for "your" problems.

In these days of austerity people need to start being responsible for the consequences of their own actions.

You caused the situation.....you fix it and pay the bills. Not us!

bradrock

Broadwood wrote: »

Your attitude of "me, me, me.." is what makes the average taxpayer fed up of picking up the bill for "your" problems.

In these days of austerity people need to start being responsible for the consequences of their own actions.

You caused the situation.....you fix it and pay the bills. Not us!

What a load of !!!! i have never claimed a penny in my life and pay my fair share of tax haha what an idiot

Broadwood

bradrock wrote: »

What a load of !!!! i have never claimed a penny in my life and pay my fair share of tax haha what an idiot

Are you quite sure you or your ex or child get NO benefits or credits or childcare costs paid whatsoever?

Jagraf

Bradrock. What do you want to happen? You seem to be in a pickle

Broadwood

bradrock wrote: »

And what about the money she gets in benefits for childcare? Whats that play money?

......benefits for YOUR child. Our taxes!

Still sure you've never claimed a penny? :eek:

bradrock

She gets benefits. I get nothing and never have what are u talking about.

bradrock

Jagraf wrote: »

Bradrock. What do you want to happen? You seem to be in a pickle

She certainly gets benefits i definately get my wagew which i work for thats it.

swingaloo

Im not in the position of having to worry about child care, neither am I a 'female' with an axe to grind so this post is not about men bashing.


Look at it this way OP. Clearly there is animosity between you and the mum. But put yourself in the shoes of the ex for a minute. Ive seen this with my sister who is left bringing up 2 children since her husband left her so its just an observation.


When a couple split up and the child stays with the mum or dad (whichever is the resident parent) that parent usually has to make all the sacrifices. We hear repeatedly about the other parent being screwed for maintenance etc but there are 2 sides to the coin.


What the parent left with the children sees is that her ex can come and go as he pleases, never needs to get a babysitter, can go for a drink after work, has freedom to do things spontaneously, etc. Something as simple as nipping to the shop or taking a bath when you have small children is not always easy and to see an ex getting a girlfriend/boyfriend whilst you are having to constantly juggle because the onus to find childcare to go to work or have an evening out now all becomes the responsibility of the parent with care.
Its no wonder some parents become resentful when they see the ex's starting new relationships and developing a social life when that option is being denied to them.


I know my sister said that her ex would pick up the children and talk as if he was doing her a favour actually taking them for 5 or 6 hours, always of course when it was convenient for him. Usually that would be Saturday picking them up at 10 and bringing them back at 4 in the afternoon, if she asked him if he would keep them slightly longer so she could have an afternoon with friends it would be a no because he needed to get home to get ready for his night out.


I can understand that that's the reason a lot of resident parents become awkward about contact times. However much you love your children its still easy to feel quite bitter that your ex has got their freedom back whilst the children you both had and expected to bring up and care for together become the sole responsibility of one parent in terms of care.