do i have to pay for childcare?

arbrighton

bradrock wrote: »

I do have a choice yes and like it said in the post before legally i dont have to so i wont oretty simple really..

So you're choosing not to help look after your daughter then?

You helped create her.....

bradrock

quidsy wrote: »

Well not really cause that is money for the child NOT for additional childcare when you cant be arsed to look after the kid. Your ex has every right to say sorry, I've got plans, find alternative arrangements.

And what about the money she gets in benefits for childcare? Whats that play money?

bradrock

arbrighton wrote: »

So you're choosing not to help look after your daughter then?

You helped create her.....

Lol i look after her loads your post is pathetic i see her loads that was not in question.

quidsy

bradrock wrote: »

And what about the money she gets in benefits for childcare? Whats that play money?

Your share of childcare costs covers the food, roof, gas, elec, treats, clothes etc that your child uses every month. Presumably other benefits top up the money she needs to pay for the rest. What with you paying the bare minimum.

I'm convinced you are a troll, no one can be this ignorant.

Refer to my signature.

notanewuser

bradrock wrote: »

And what about the money she gets in benefits for childcare? Whats that play money?

She'll get 70% of the costs, maximum. Why should she/the state pay for childcare when she's your responsibility?

You're prepared to pay £700+ for a holiday or £200 a month for your new girlfriend's car but not for your daughter's childcare?

missprice

bradrock wrote: »

And what about the money she gets in benefits for childcare? Whats that play money?

But when it your turn to have the child you expect the ex to lay out maybe £70 to. £100 for a days childcare. So if you do that once in a month she is down half what you give her already? Do it twice and she is all out.
When that child is with you, on your days already agreed in advance, then its up to you to sort childcare and pay if necessary. If you can't look after the child its your responsibility.
Will you be back on here in a year or so telling us that your ex wont let you see the child, but it will all be her fault of course.
And if you now say " well ex's mother will have child for free, then the ex gets no money towards childcare and you are messing up two peoples lives for those days. Not clever is it.

tea_lover

If your ex suddenly had to work when she was supposed to be looking after your daugher, would you drop everything and look after her for free?

If not, why on earth are you expecting her to do it for you?

bradrock

missprice wrote: »

But when it your turn to have the child you expect the ex to lay out maybe £70 to. £100 for a days childcare. So if you do that once in a month she is down half what you give her already? Do it twice and she is all out.
When that child is with you, on your days already agreed in advance, then its up to you to sort childcare and pay if necessary. If you can't look after the child its your responsibility.
Will you be back on here in a year or so telling us that your ex wont let you see the child, but it will all be her fault of course.
And if you now say " well ex's mother will have child for free, then the ex gets no money towards childcare and you are messing up two peoples lives for those days. Not clever is it.

She pays nothing for childcare ever her mum has her.

bradrock

tea_lover wrote: »

If your ex suddenly had to work when she was supposed to be looking after your daugher, would you drop everything and look after her for free?

If not, why on earth are you expecting her to do it for you?

She never suddenly has to work she picks her own hours.
And yes i do have her at the drop of a hat if i can when she wants to go out etc.

fairy_lights

bradrock wrote: »

She pays nothing for childcare ever her mum has her.

So it's not just your ex, but also her mum who have to drop their own plans to care for your daughter when you can't have her at the last minute. That must be incredibly frustrating for both of them.