Having a baby aged 35 or over

Arizonalinda

I was 36 when i had my son and nearly 42 when I had my daughter. No problems with pregnancy in either. Worked as a chef up to 4 weeks before i had them without one day off sick during pregnancy.

bluelass

pinkshoes wrote: »

My aunt had her 2nd at 42 and 3rd at 44.

Both conceived naturally with no problems, and no issues with either boys (who are now teenagers!)

You would be best speaking to your mum and gran about family fertility, menopause age etc...

We are currently trying for our 2nd (i am 35) and i am now on my 2nd miscarriage.

My gran my mums mum sadly departed had twins at 43.

VeronicaMars

Thanks all for the stories! These help!

I'm 31 and think we are going to start trying later this year (when my job will pay some maternity leave and also as we have just moved abroad and I want a good solid year "experiencing it"). We were originally going to wait until I was 35 but have fast tracked this plan This thread is making me feel much better about this decision!

Almost all my friends have kids, so I'm the last!!! They all tell me not to be an "old mum" but even before we had children they spent their time in the house, pub or shops whilst I ran marathons and hiked up munros, so regardless of age, I believe you are as old as you feel (and act!).

I will be joining the officially trying to conceive thread in a couple of months...!!! Exciting!!!

xxx

WIN79

Same as WorryWart. I am 35 and i have a younger boyfriend (31) he isn't ready, or lets rephrase that, he wasn't ready last September when i mentioned it, but i feel the need to raise it again. I have been having some pelvic issues, pain etc and doc thinks i may have a cyst. I have a scan on Friday and whatever the outcome i am going to tell him i am coming off the pill. Not to give him an ultimatum but i feel uncomfortable taking something that is preventing a pregnancy. I am more than happy to use other forms of contraception that doesn't involve hormones. Ideally i would like to try before the end of the year as im 36 in July and he will be 32 in December so its hardly young for him either!

Icey77

My DD was born when I was 34 and my DS when I was 36, both were easy pregnancies but both went almost 2 weeks overdue and I had to be induced in each occasion which was disappointing.

First birth was long and eventually had to have assistance with epidurals and forceps and then lots of pain relief afterwards. Second was a piece of cake, gas and air only and in the labour ward for 45 minutes before my son was born and no pain killers required afterwards.

I believe the "geriatric" term relates to mothers who are over 35 when pregnant, not the kindest definition is it

Each pregnancy was quick to catch, my DH is particularly proud that he hit the gong with DS in our first attempt after coming off the pill :rotfl:

Metranil_Vavin

I haven't had time to read the whole thread as am at work, but I had my son at 37 and my daughter at 40.


I had a few miscarriages in between and one before my son, but both pregnancies were straightforward. My son's birth was arduous and took 28 hours culminating in an assisted delivery which wasn't nice, wheras my daughter shot out in 40 mins with no drugs and just a few puffs on the G&A.


I remember my midwife telling me that it is less to do with chronological age and more to do with your insides and you can have a trouble free pregnancy at 40 and a horrible complicated one at 20. Luck of the draw unfortunately.


Obviously the later you leave it though, the more things can potentially go wrong.

Worry_Wart

Rachylou1981 wrote: »

Do you mean that you will leave boyfriend if he doesn't come round to your way of thinking? :eek:

You're brave with the contraception issue, I just couldn't risk our relationship like that when I know my BF is less ready than me. We are very strong but a baby changes the dynamics in a relationship and when you are not ready then I think it's a recipe for disaster. That said, a lot of people get pregnant by accident and deal with it and are fine. After all, we know that each time we sleep together, there's a risk of making a baby

No, I wouldn't leave him, he'd have to leave! If he's still here by the agreed date, that means he consents to trying. He seems happy enough with that - gives him time to think and means he has to be the active one in leaving, so it's pretty unlikely he will. Most men I know just take the path of least resistance (sorry for the generalisation but it seems to be true of my male friends).

And with regards to the contraception, he knows I'm not on the pill, and want kids, so it's up to him to prevent that, not me. I'm just removing the responsibility from my shoulders.

There have been no arguments about this. Just me stating some facts and him mulling it over.

Marisco

Worry_Wart wrote: »

No, I wouldn't leave him, he'd have to leave! If he's still here by the agreed date, that means he consents to trying. He seems happy enough with that - gives him time to think and means he has to be the active one in leaving, so it's pretty unlikely he will. Most men I know just take the path of least resistance (sorry for the generalisation but it seems to be true of my male friends).

And with regards to the contraception, he knows I'm not on the pill, and want kids, so it's up to him to prevent that, not me. I'm just removing the responsibility from my shoulders.

There have been no arguments about this. Just me stating some facts and him mulling it over.

Ah, my way or no way then. So you are happy about that, he's just going along with it 'cos he cannot be arsed to leave? Have you discussed it at all? Or is it a case I want a baby, and if it's with you fine, if not take a hike?

Worry_Wart

Yep, pretty much.

Marisco

Who said love is dead.