Having a baby aged 35 or over

22cuddles

Lunar_Eclipse wrote: »

I also agree with all of this.

Additionally, I wouldn't take the contraceptive pill for a year before trying to get pregnant (I'd want to be sure all hormones were out of my body if I had the time) at the same time as starting on folic acid and probably a good multivitamin with iron since even the healthiest diet doesn't seem optimal.

Good plan with the vitamins, just make sure it's one designed for pre-conception or pregnancy once you come off the pill as Vitamin A (found in most general multivitamins) isn't good for baby

Rambosmum

Lunar_Eclipse wrote: »

But I also think most people, and especially men from my experience, are never 100% "ready" for children.

I disagree. My husband is very much 100% ready for kids, even though time isn't 'right' (if such a thing exists) I'm the one suggesting we wait a bit, though not too long as I'm in my 30s now. My cut off was always 30 but he really wants kids and we just weren't in a position to have them younger (relationship wise) so I've agreed to 1 if we can pregnant in the next year, but won't start until June.

LaineyR

I met my OH at 39 and we started trying when I was 40, much of the opinion that I probably wouldn't get pregnant. However within 5 months I was and my son was born when I was 41.

I was very tired for the first year and had a few health issues (but they may have happened anyway), but I appreciated the fantastic support from my friends and family.


My son's now 8 and knows that we're older parents but it doesn't seem to be an issue for him at the moment.

DevilsAdvocate1

Rachylou1981 wrote: »

Hi all

Looking to speak to women who have had children aged 35 or over and their experiences. Because of circumstances, I won't be trying for a baby until at least aged 36 but I am worried about this, especially in terms of the information out there about fertility dropping after 35 and women having trouble conceiving at an older age. I would like more than one child also.

My questions mainly are:

• How old were you when you had your first child?
• How long did it take to conceive?
• Any complications that were age related?
• Did you go on to have more children? (same questions)

I had my first child at 29 and my second when I was 32. We wanted a third baby and at 34 I got pregnant the first month of trying, just as I did with my first two. However, this pregnancy ended in a miscarriage at 8 weeks.

We started trying again straight away, but this time it took nearly 2 years to get pregnant. In fact, we'd given up hope of having another when I found out that it had happened.

We've not used contraception since number 3 was born and I haven't fallen pregnant again.

So in my case at least, fertillity levels dropped from age 34.

I sometimes think that if you wait until the time is right then you will wait forever.