Big age gap in relationship - experiences wanted

onlyroz

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Mrs G is using the same argument to badger me into retiring early.

Why the resistance?

Randomjargon

My wife is 9 months older than me. I mock her all the time about me being her toyboy. If you can mock and laugh about the situation I'm sure you'll be fine

System

Randomjargon wrote: »

My wife is 9 months older than me. I mock her all the time about me being her toyboy. If you can mock and laugh about the situation I'm sure you'll be fine

9 months isn't really a lot though is it?

Gloomendoom

onlyroz wrote: »

Why the resistance?

Because I don't think I/we are quite ready for it yet. In my opinion, we need to build up more of a financial buffer and, all things considered, I actually enjoy my job at the moment.

catkins

I personally only really go for younger men (OH is a few years younger than me). Only one of my boyfriends was older than me and I found him incredibly boring, although obviously that is not true of all older men.


I do know a couple of woman who married men much older (from 15 years to 22 years) and whilst they all seemed happy for quite a few years once the women got to around 45 problems started.


I think as you get older the difference can start to show. If the woman is 45 and the man 65 she may well still want to go out and be active and he may well not. 50 to 70 seems a massive gap to me and 60 to 80 even more so. I am 60 and I know I would never be interested in a man of 80 even if he were fit and healthy

Morglin

Perhaps it depends on individual personalities? :think:

I'm nearly 60 and DH is nearly 74, but we gel together perfectly. I suppose it may be because neither of us like traditional 'old person' pursuits, such as Wallace Arnold coach tours, Bingo etc., lol:eek:

With the large 'meshed' family we have, we are always surrounded by younger people, and all of our friends tend to be young at heart, which keeps us young, if exasperated at times!

He's my soulmate, and has been my 'rock' through some of the most painful times in my life.

We talk, laugh and love together, which is the secret of any happy marriage, regardless of ages.:beer:

I wouldn't swop him for any toy boy or all the tea in China lol:rotfl:

Lin

dottymrsp

Mr P is 12 years older than me, but I'm very young looking and he's *cough* quite mature (#silverfox) - it has been asked in the past if I'm his daughter, which made us practically wet ourselves with laughter

If you can giggle about it - you'll be fine

catkins

Morglin wrote: »

Perhaps it depends on individual personalities? :think:

I'm nearly 60 and DH is nearly 74, but we gel together perfectly. I suppose it may be because neither of us like traditional 'old person' pursuits, such as Wallace Arnold coach tours, Bingo etc., lol:eek:

With the large 'meshed' family we have, we are always surrounded by younger people, and all of our friends tend to be young at heart, which keeps us young, if exasperated at times!

He's my soulmate, and has been my 'rock' through some of the most painful times in my life.

We talk, laugh and love together, which is the secret of any happy marriage, regardless of ages.:beer:

I wouldn't swop him for any toy boy or all the tea in China lol:rotfl:

Lin

Yes an age difference relationship can work and I am sure many do. I think it can depend obviously on shared interests etc.


The women I know who had older husbands all seemed to stay young at heart and want to go out at least occasionally whereas their husbands seemed to suddenly age and, on the whole, not want to go out anywhere. Also a couple of the husbands became quite ill and the wives became their carers. I do realise of course that illness can hit anyone at any age.


I don't think 14 years is a really big difference. I would say 20 years plus is more likely to cause problems.

bylromarha

My dad was 30 years older than my mum.

Happily married for 11 years before he died.

And there's the downside. Mum was a widow in her 30s and I was dadless from the age of 3. Pretty big downside from my perspective.

Bizarrely, in 2010 my sister married a man 18 years her junior. They don't have kids together and won't either as snips and cuts have seen to that. Her 20 year old daughter still gets her moments where she realises her step dad is only 7 years older than her.

Frankiesphone

Now call me a cynic but, there was an interview only a few weeks ago on This Morning - she was 23 and he was 82 ... (oh, and also a millionaire) ;);) however, they were 'very much in love' (until he stroked her hair, she winced and pulled her head away!) :eek:

My DH ex wife was 26 and her now husband was 52 at the time of their affair.