Big age gap in relationship - experiences wanted

Threebabes

I wouldnt worry what anyone else thinks. Let them stare.

Life is short, it passes so quickly. Grab it with both hands and let everyone else get on with it for as long as it lasts.

Heard some sad news today, you being happy regardless of age is whats important. X

justme111

VestanPance wrote: »

Neither of those examples are anything to do with age. They're personality attributes.

I've met people in their 60's of both sexes who regularly compete in marathons and triathlons etc.

Statistically chances of one having artritic knee are higher at 60 than at 30. May be about 20 times higher actually. So you saying " ah it is not age related" is not right

VestanPance

justme111 wrote: »

Statistically chances of one having artritic knee are higher at 60 than at 30. May be about 20 times higher actually. So you saying " ah it is not age related" is not right

Neither of those examples given had anything to do with age though. Statistically yes, many instances of ill health increase as we age, but then that doesn't mean they can't happen in youth particularly with poor lifestyle choices.

System

My dad is nine years older than my mum though to be honest out of the two of them she's the one with some health problems. They've been married for 22 years now and still going strong.

raven83

What is age when you are in love.

When I was younger I always went for older men, maybe it was the whole father figure thing, I just found them much more mature than boys my own age. Now I am younger I do prefer men around my sort of age, only because I think when I am say in my 40s, having a partner that is pushing 60 might be seem a bit much, but saying that, it really depends on the person, some older people are quite young at heart and some younger people are older for their years.

So for me really it wouldn't be a major issue at all. Do what makes you happy OP, if you are happy then that is all that matters, don't let anyone try and put you off or criticise you!

comeandgo

My husband is the same age as my mum but light years different. Only time any one has sort of queried our marriage was when he was taken seriously ill. The hospital staff kept querying that I was Mrs x, Mr x,s wife and checking on our address. I don't think he minds that his wife was not born when he left university. It makes me laugh reading some of the replies on here, age has very little to do with sexual performance, weight or grumpiness.

ognum

OP, you had a relationship with someone of your own age and you ended up unhappy.

There is no way anyone here can tell if you will be happy for a year, 10 years or 30 years but that is nothing to do with age!

Enjoy wha you have, don't try to over analyse, enjoy your relationship if it's right for you both then it is nothing to do with anyone else.

Many times we sacrifice good things because they don't neatly fit into what we consider normal. Life is short, take any joy you can get with both hands and work with it. The future is down the line and may be a long one or a short one but we can tell you.

Enjoy life!

princess_loki

I was glad that you posted this OP as I am 37 and seeing someone who has just turned 55.

We have been seeing each other on and off for around 10 years but decided over Christmas that really we should either call it a day or make a go of it!

I don't have children but he does - they don't have any problem with the age gap and are happy for us.

We were joking over valentines about coffins and funerals but then we always have. At the end of the day if we are happy now then we should make the most of it! Who knows what the future holds??

rocketqueen

Thanks everyone for the interesting and varied replies.

I am not imagining all the stares as one couple actually saw him kiss me on the cheek in a bar and then proceeded to point us out to their friends! I have also been referred to as his daughter on several occasions . It doesn't bother me though and we just find it funny most of the time. Our friends and work colleagues weren't a problem at all and the majority of them had "seen" our relationship coming before we did.

For whoever asked I'm 33 and he'll be 55 on Saturday and no he's not rich at all!

I have thought about what the future may hold, but none of us knows what's round the next corner - I certainly didn't see my husband cheating on me less then 2 years after we'd got married coming!

We have similar interests and enjoy the same things in life, even down to the same music.

Think I just need to tell my family and get it done, as I'm sure my mother will come round in the end.

Thank you for all your input.

raven83

rocketqueen wrote: »

Thanks everyone for the interesting and varied replies.

I am not imagining all the stares as one couple actually saw him kiss me on the cheek in a bar and then proceeded to point us out to their friends! I have also been referred to as his daughter on several occasions . It doesn't bother me though and we just find it funny most of the time. Our friends and work colleagues weren't a problem at all and the majority of them had "seen" our relationship coming before we did.

For whoever asked I'm 33 and he'll be 55 on Saturday and no he's not rich at all!

I have thought about what the future may hold, but none of us knows what's round the next corner - I certainly didn't see my husband cheating on me less then 2 years after we'd got married coming!

We have similar interests and enjoy the same things in life, even down to the same music.

Think I just need to tell my family and get it done, as I'm sure my mother will come round in the end.

Thank you for all your input.

I think if that was me then I would just play up to it, given them something to really gawp at, some people are just very ignorant!

Well the fact you have so much in common says it all, it isn't about age, it is about having similar interest, you might find someone who is the same age to you and have zero in common with.

And your mum will be fine, once she sees you are happy then she will come around to it