Debt Free - am I

Just2Ashamed

*gentle hugs* sorry yesterday was a bad one, hope today is much brighter for you. eBay can be frustrating, but stick with it - you'll be surprised what sells and everything helps I normally just start everything at 99p to avoid some of the fees and get people bidding, but it really depends what you're selling xx

Knitting_Nora

I've sat and caught up with your diary, and if it's ok with you I'm just going to sidle over for a hug.


I know you don't always feel it, but to me (and many others I'm sure), you really are the most amazing person. Your strength, even on days when life is throwing rotten fruit at you, just astounds me. And I was thinking all that before your dogs decided money was edible.

Aaleigha wrote: »

Not by any means the only one:D

Well yesterday was a really bad one and started when I woke up just made my head spin

So hear is how it went
I over slept
I came down stairs to find the purse with the money in from changing coins was on the floor open and a £20 note was chomped on buy a dog can't find some bits and NO way will I try to find it with six dogs
I realise the money I spent on jeans from my allowance was not spare money but was supposed to be for my hair next week - hubby says I can have his allowance
Had a letter from son to say a mate who was sending money into prison Has now stopped and still owes him over four grand
Then my lap top dies on me and I can't afford a new one
Somthevstressedvequalled a few tears of frustration it's like I take a couple of steps forward and about ten back

So today I am off to sort all my belts the good ones I don't want will be ebayed as will really good clothes not done it before but we all have to start somewhere

So any tips gratefully received
Off to do sorting

I have such sympathy with this entire post. I accidentally spent part of the rent last month. I've never done anything so stupid in my life - I'm definitely a bit flaky at times, but spending the rent money?! Thankfully I was able to earn it back before the rent was officially due (I pay it a fortnight early), but it really shook me.


On an aside, do you mind if I mention something I've noticed about your son's communication with you? *shuffles feet awkwardly* It seems like he's telling you an awful lot of stories about people owing him money and no longer sending it to him in prison. And it all started around the time you made it clear to him that you weren't going into debt for him etc. I just wanted to say that you've been amazing standing up to him while still being supportive of him, so please don't let his tales of woe wear you down. *hugs*


As for your two steps forward and ten back - sure. I mean, that's life, right? But at least you're going those two steps forward now - under your own steam, and in fluffy socks, nice knickers and a posh bra! :rotfl:


Ebay is really simple provided you remember to treat people how you'd like to be treated - and take into account the seller fees involved (otherwise you'll have spent your money by the time the bill comes in!).


Nora.xx

RosaBernicia

Knitting_Nora wrote: »

As for your two steps forward and ten back - sure. I mean, that's life, right? But at least you're going those two steps forward now - under your own steam, and in fluffy socks, nice knickers and a posh bra! :rotfl:

^ What she said. Plus 'nother hug and cake.

I'm not impressed with your son's story either - he should be bl**dy cross about still being owed money and getting onto the guy not moaning to you! (and besides, who has four grand to lend to people who won't give it back?)

I've just got my copy of Kondo yesterday so will be reading it this evening.

And Nora's also right about Ebay - I've sold about 8 things and already had one who wouldn't pay and one who complained about something that was made completely clear in the TITLE... but both have been very easily sorted and Ebay's processes seem very fair. (When the non-payer didn't respond to several messages and phone calls I recorded it as an unpaid item case, and I sent the silly complainer a very polite message saying 'I'm not quite sure what you wish me to do, this was the title and description given, please get back to me' and she hasn't - probably because she knows if it's referred to Ebay they will obviously agree with me!).


Rosa xx

Aaleigha

Thanks ladies the hugs are so welcome
I do find that you both seem to read my son the same as you do
On a good note though I managed to read his letter without someone else reading it first an telling which bits I want to or should read
I think I have come to terms with he has done I don't like it and I don't understand why and I doubt he ever will
But he is my son and I do send the odd vitriolic email - he says if I need to send them then it's nothing less than he deserves

Last week I started well but went down hill mid week everything happens at once and I crumple
So clothes nearly sorted all my shoes are on the bed
But do I really need about 50pais not including walking boots cat boot and dm's I think not
So I will keep all of the above all of the irregular choice shoes five pairs
And try to pair the winter shoes to 6pairs and the same for summer ones we will see

We have been working on tidying the garden and putting up new rotary line in new place I have done a LOT of washing putting it on hangers to dry and popping it on the rack over the bath to finish off the drying now I need to sort into what brings me joy and what doesn't iron and put away
I will then get theories makers mannequin out to photo each item then fold with tissue and pop into mailing bag to weigh for approximate postage
Before doing my first listings
So a long todo list for next week

Aaleigha

Todo list
I will come and edit as I make progress
Finish de cluttering the clothing
Hanging items hanging items are all on the bed and some that don't bring joy are waiting to be laundered ready for ebay some to be rehung and some will go to charity shop
Bags
Shoes all shoes sorted problem with me and shoes is -if the shoe fit buy it in every colour
Scarves
Iron clothing in progress
Put away what I want to keep in progress
Find mannequin found just need hubby to carry it for me
Take photos
Take measurement of each item
Find tissue found
Fold each item
Weigh
List on eBay
Cooking for the week
Fish pie to feed three people two days
Batch cook chilli and spaghetti Bol and keep one of each portion out take one to dd for her bf (she is away so he is dog sitting and is really late back on Thursday so he will have a meal all done eaten frozen and delivered as necessary
Baked goodies and breadso today I made peanut butter and chocolate cookies

House work
What I can do

Oh and my russian toy terrier needs to see vet on Monday re retained decidous teeth and castration (and get quote). Been to the vets he has six decidous teeth to be removed so he is booked in to have his mouth de cluttered tomorrow and that will also declutter the bank account
And the car tax is due at end of month
Expensive month but all within bank balance so all is well(is)

I willed inthe post during the week what I don't get done will just sart next weeks list

i have to say I am happy with my achievements this week still got the weekend to go

Aaleigha

a day where I feel disappointed with things
I have been doing really well in decluttering the clothing
I have been doing the laundry but came to a stop due to weather
Can't photo anything due to lap top dying on me (it is with a computer geeky person) I won't be able to list on eBay due to that so no ironing yet as i won't want to be doing it again
Although I did get Mishka to the vets and he is in tomorrow to have his teeth out - I will be worried sick tomorrow so might set to and do some baking biscuits I think some for vets and some for us

Today if I had to describe me it would be a woman who feels empty

in_need_of_direction

If you hadn't decluttered, there may have been more laundry.

RosaBernicia

Well done for decluttering and laundry - and if Ebay has to wait then I'd say just enjoy the break.

Hope vets goes OK


RB xx

Aaleigha

in_need_of_direction wrote: »

If you hadn't decluttered, there may have been more laundry.

Thank you and yes as three bin bags have gone that is a mountain that does not need laundering

RosaBernicia wrote: »

Well done for decluttering and laundry - and if Ebay has to wait then I'd say just enjoy the break.

Hope vets goes OK


RB xx

Vets has gone well he has had his mouth decluttered by 7 decidous teeth I fetch him in about an hor

While being worried I did get out all the baking stuff and made some chocolate and peanut butter cookies enough for hubby to take to work tomorrow and some to take up the vets

As far as washing is concerned I have not done any today
And I have to wait for the doctor to phone as I have a phone consult today
Hope you are all doing well I bet some of you have a no spend day I won't big vets bill to pay today but that will be my only spend

MuffinTops

Yay! I found you. I haven't read through yet, but I have subscribed and am now going to make myself a nice hot drink and sit and have a read through what I can. MTx