We all need to be heard for a little while.

calleyw

Pyxis wrote: »

Hello Calleyw and welcome! Of course you can joi! And you don't have to have mental health issues to be on the thread!

Regarding the change in your mindset, have you had any major changes in your life in the past couple of years? Sometimes a series of events can alter the way you perceive things.

Just remember, the worriers on here aren't worriers, we're warriors!

Hi,

I have always been a worrier most of my life and not been very confident. I am always worrying about what I say and if its is offended someone.

Yes massive life events

8 yrs my husband had a stroke
3 years ago we split and he moved out
And in the last 3 yrs tried to a relationship with someone who was suffering there own mental health issues.
1 year ago could not longer cope with work so jacked it in and temp as and when. But I am in what I call a melt down phase. The last two temp assignments I have just attended one day and then walked away from.

With the courier thing. I am 99% sure I have not ordered anything. Not entered any competitions for months and months. Got in my head its something bad !!!

Yours

Calley

Pyxis

Well, with all that happening in your life, I'm not surprised you're in meltdown. You are allowed, you know, to melt. You are allowed to have some time out to get your strength back.
You are allowed to cry. And cry, and cry.
You are allowed to feel like carp even if, on paper, there's nothing at the moment to feel carp about.

You are worrying about the delivery because so many horrid things have happened, so this must be a horrid thing, too, right?
And it's made worse by having to wait for your neighbour to return.

Do you have any idea when they'll be back?
How about popping a note through their door asking them to let you know when they're back so you can get the parcel? Then at least you'll feel you're doing something.

In the meantime, rest assured that we know how you feel.....have felt like it myself. Have a hug. ((((((((((Calleyw))))))))))))) and jump into the duvet fort. Hope you like dogs and biscuits!

calleyw

Pyxis wrote: »

Well, with all that happening in your life, I'm not surprised you're in meltdown. You are allowed, you know, to melt. You are allowed to have some time out to get your strength back.
You are allowed to cry. And cry, and cry.
You are allowed to feel like carp even if, on paper, there's nothing at the moment to feel carp about.

You are worrying about the delivery because so many horrid things have happened, so this must be a horrid thing, too, right?
And it's made worse by having to wait for your neighbour to return.

In the meantime, rest assured that we know how you feel.....have felt like it myself. Have a hug. ((((((((((Calleyw))))))))))))) and jump into the duvet fort. Hope you like dogs and biscuits!

Thank you so much. You made me cry. As I feel most of the time people don't understand. And feel so alone.

It was really dumb it was a sample of a product. How silly to get so worked up.

I do have days like that were I don't get out of bed apart from the loo and something to eat. Just can't face the world. The only reason I got up today was to get this parcel.

Yours

Calley

Pyxis

We do understand.
And you aren't alone.

I've been there. I've done that.

Do you feel that it warrants talking to your GP about? I know that isn't always the answer, but it might help to get some options.

Do you have a trusted friend whom you could ask to help you with stuff? Even if it's just calling on you, to go out for a walk, or some such.
Is part of the problem that you are unhappy with the work you do? If so, could you use your melt time to investigate some retraining?

But if all that is too much at the moment, don't worry about it, just melt and sleep.

And we're here if you can't sleep!

What was the free sample? Hope it was something pampery and not washing-up liquid!

Georgiegirl256

Welcome Calley! I'm another relative newbie, and I have to say, they're all a lovely bunch, great listeners and offer good advice too.

Like Pyxis says, everyone understands, and you aren't alone. As the title of the thread says, 'we all need to be heard for a little while', and that's what drew me to it, things built up and I just needed somewhere to get it all out and it seems like you need to too.

I was going to suggest that it might be a free sample! Hope it's something nice!

calleyw

Pyxis wrote: »

Do you feel that it warrants talking to your GP about? I know that isn't always the answer, but it might help to get some options.

I did have an emergency appointment on thursday. The GP was running an hour late :eek: so it was very rushed. We agreed that tabs was not the answer. So starting counseling week after next via the gp. But that is only 6 sessions.

It was nothing exciting sadly LOL!!!

Yours

Calley

Pyxis

Counselling is good, though!
Never mind only 6 sessions! Better than nil! Also, if you find they've been helpful, it'd be worth asking your GP if you could have more.
That's an encouraging start! :A

And the free sample was.........?



Have a fruit salad!.......

calleyw

Pyxis wrote: »

Counselling is good, though!
Never mind only 6 sessions! Better than nil! Also, if you find they've been helpful, it'd be worth asking your GP if you could have more.
That's an encouraging start! :A

And the free sample was.........?

I was having private counseling but at £35 a session and not working had to stop. I found it very hard work and would feel exhausted at the end of every session.

It was fabric conditioner LOL!!!!

Yours

Calley

Pyxis

Oh well! At least your clothes will be pampered! :rotfl:


When you start this next lot of counselling, how about preparing a 'me' tray for when you get back.
For example, get your cosy jimjams ready, and the bed turned down, or the cushions on your favourite armchair plumped up, with your TV/CD/MP3player ready and primed with your favourite prog/music, or a book or magazine on the side plus a tray with cup/glass/treats at the ready, kettle filled, plate and fork on standby, all your favourite bits. Perhaps even a bath ready to be filled, with bubbles etc, and maybe a glass of something on the edge of it, and a cosy robe ready to step into when you get out.

Then when you get home exhausted, you won't have to think about anything, it'd all be ready and waiting for you. :A

calleyw

Pyxis wrote: »

When you start this next lot of counselling, how about preparing a 'me' tray for when you get back.
For example, get your cosy jimjams ready, and the bed turned down, or the cushions on your favourite armchair plumped up, with your TV/CD/MP3player ready and primed with your favourite prog/music, or a book or magazine on the side plus a tray with cup/glass/treats at the ready, kettle filled, plate and fork on standby, all your favourite bits. Perhaps even a bath ready to be filled, with bubbles etc, and maybe a glass of something on the edge of it, and a cosy robe ready to step into when you get out.

Then when you get home exhausted, you won't have to think about anything, it'd all be ready and waiting for you. :A

Sounds like a good idea. I will probably just crawl in to bed and sleep LOL:rotfl:

Yours

Calley