sexless marriage :(

DSmiffy

Sell the playstation immediately.

Box it up and get shut of it now.

Use the money to treat your wife and buy a bedtime reading book to read to your child.

I should imagine that your wife is wondering if she would ever have time to spend playing a video at any point during her day!! She will hate you everytime you are caught playing it.

arbrighton

valk_scot wrote: »

Go and clean the bathroom. Use elbow grease and a scrubbing brush and any detergent you can tolerate (you must be able to use shampoo or body wash presumably otherwise you'd have mentioned it.)

You do realise that elbow grease will set off this asthma he has right?

anotheruser

dontwannabecelibate wrote: »

...i said jokingly 'there's a lot more of you than there was before'...

Ha ha.
Seriously, you can gleen advice from here but sounds like you have a lot to work through.

Start with asking yourself questions like:

Why are you together?
What is your aim in life?
Why are you with HER rather than any other woman?

Don't post the answers here, these are for YOU to think about.

Have we decided if this is a troll post yet?

eskimo26

peace-maker wrote: »

Hi OP,

3, look at the things to do board, draw a line through one thing, and start doing it immediately. (I'd favour either putting your name in brackets after each chore you've written on the board, or removing it altogether)

Ye gods no, she'll think your being passive aggressive in a l'ook this is what i've done' kind of way.

I also love the playstation hate. Classic women rage. Getting jealous of a box hogging all your mans time. :mad: P:

supermassive

The nerve of her! Tell her she'd better do everything you say or you're cutting her off financially and you'll boot her out of the house, too!

How dare she not bathe in mould? The cheek.

j.e.j.

supermassive wrote: »

How dare she not bathe in mould? The cheek.

:rotfl::rotfl:

But I'm concerned if there's mould on the bath and they're bathing the kid in there. Those spores can be really bad for you.

Manchee

To the OP:
Dear god man, you should be crawling to her on your hands and knees for another chance. This woman sounds like a saint for not having left you already. She's put up with your bull-poo for, what, 14 years did you say? This woman who you've treated as a slave, no, worse - a sex and cleaning and childcare dispenser. You've forgotten her birthday, didnt get her anything for xmas, and seem to spend your free time sat on your bum, watching and criticising, while she skivvies away late in to the evening. I have no problem with you playing computer games (I'm a gamer myself) but you're being selfish to the extreme. Your poor wife, I feel deeply sorry for her.

You need to take a weeks annual leave. During this week you need to take on the role of your wife and do everything she does (and everything you expect her to do); it doesn't sound like she would trust you enough for her to go anywhere during that week, but she shouldn't lift a finger, it should be as if she wasn't there. Firstly this would give her a break (which sounds far more than deserved), secondly it would help you empathise with your wife, thirdly it would help you connect with your child. From what you said it doesn't sound like you have any issues identifying what needs to be done around the house (after all you make lists of chores for her!) and if it seems so simple to be able to do everything during the day then why not do it yourself for a while? You need to consider the fact that if you were single and on your own you would have to look after yourself and do all the day to day household stuff yourself. You have created another person with your wife, this means theres even more to be done each day - you need to be pulling your weight and then some to accommodate this fact.

You need to stop and think, your wife has only one life and every day part of it disapears, gone forever. She is spending this precious time miserable and being treated like poo by the one person in the world who should be protecting her and cherishing her the most. She's never going to be able to get this time back.

Maybe it would also be a good idea to show her this thread (assuming she's still around?), it would either show her how serious you are about getting your marriage on track, or make her realise how bad her situation is and perhaps encourage her to make changes for the better.

Hopefully she will see this and if she does...


To the OP's wife:
You are not alone.
There is help out there if you want it. Decide what you want from your current situation, what would make you happy. If thats leaving and you're worried about the finances, there are ways of making a good life independently.

millysg1

eskimo26 wrote: »

Ye gods no, she'll think your being passive aggressive in a l'ook this is what i've done' kind of way.

I also love the playstation hate. Classic women rage. Getting jealous of a box hogging all your mans time. :mad: P:

I was the first to say get rid of the playstatyion. But I have no problem with Playstations.

My OH probably plays games most nights and I have no problem with that. But he always does it after all the chores are complete, kids in bed and sorted etc.

If there was a mountain of washing to be done, kids to put to bed and he was moaning to me about the stuff that hadn't been done yet, while playing games, I would through that Playstation out the window and tell him to do it himself!

duchy

eskimo26 wrote: »

Ye gods no, she'll think your being passive aggressive in a l'ook this is what i've done' kind of way.

I also love the playstation hate. Classic women rage. Getting jealous of a box hogging all your mans time. :mad: P:

Spot the single bloke :rotfl::rotfl:

stu20vt

duchy wrote: »

Spot the single bloke :rotfl::rotfl:

And what's wrong with being single?..seriously you make a joke about it with the daft :rotfl: A bit childish?
Rather be single and happy (with our without a PlayStation thing) than live in a sexless relationship.