sexless marriage :(

itsanne

Mojisola wrote: »

Like you, I would think this is more likely to be real if the OP had reacted differently to his wife's words. Despite having the letter to read over and over, it doesn't seem to have sunk in just how close to divorce he is.

All it will take is for his wife to realise that she could manage financially if she left him for it all to fall apart.

If the posts are for real, I don't think anything can save the relationship because he just can't see that the way he's been behaving isn't acceptable.

Unfortunately I do think this is real, and also that additional problems continue to influence his reactions / ability to respond more appropriately. Having posted with one problem, he's likely to be somewhat shell-shocked at the unanimous response of 'it's all your fault' when he hadn't a clue about just how badly he was treating his wife.

The saddest thing is that it might indeed be too late, but I think he genuinely wants to improve the situation.

Mojisola

itsanne wrote: »

Unfortunately I do think this is real, and also that additional problems continue to influence his reactions / ability to respond more appropriately. Having posted with one problem, he's likely to be somewhat shell-shocked at the unanimous response of 'it's all your fault' when he hadn't a clue about just how badly he was treating his wife.

The saddest thing is that it might indeed be too late, but I think he genuinely wants to improve the situation.

If it's true, it's very sad. It's not good for children to grow up in an environment like this.

itsanne

Mojisola wrote: »

If the problem was Aspergers, he would always have been like this whereas his wife obviously thinks he was different previously.

I think he has a problem, not necessarily that it's Aspergers. There's more 'oddness' than just the lack of effort going on here.

He could always have been like this without it being so obvious until they were living together, had a child and his wife stopped working.

seven-day-weekend

Mojisola wrote: »

If the problem was Aspergers, he would always have been like this whereas his wife obviously thinks he was different previously.

Agreed, but I was replying to a poster who was talking about someone with Aspergers

j.e.j.

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I am having a party tonight. He does not want to share it with me, he does not even want to come but I've threatened him and he is coming. He rang me up at about nine in the evening on my birthday and said 'I suppose I have to say Happy Birthday'

oh that's charming! :eek:

j.e.j.

itsanne wrote: »

If the mould is in the silicone you will not be able to remove it without completely removing the silicone and replacing it (not a fun job!). If it's in the grout it can be removed.

And OP, just in case it doesn't occur to you, whatever you do DO NOT remove the grouting/silicone and use the shower/bath before you've replaced it. I'm sure you wouldn't be so clueless as to do that :whistle: but just to save you from flooding your downstairs rooms..

itsanne

j.e.j. wrote: »

And OP, just in case it doesn't occur to you, whatever you do DO NOT remove the grouting/silicone and use the shower/bath before you've replaced it. I'm sure you wouldn't be so clueless as to do that :whistle: but just to save you from flooding your downstairs rooms..

I should have included that! :doh:

ecgirl07

j.e.j. wrote: »

oh that's charming! :eek:

Actually in the context it sounds pretty charming to me.

tooties

I think this may a joke and we should all stop feeding into it.

regards

seven-day-weekend

j.e.j. wrote: »

oh that's charming! :eek:

Because he has Aspergers, he doesn't actually understand why he has to say Happy Birthday, when both he and I know that he wishes me to have a Happy Birthday. He realises since he's got older that that is what he has to do, but he doesn't feel it or understand it.

He came to my party and socialised and was generally very personable, he can be when necessary