Should I give my children money when I sell their things?

Jagraf

onlyroz wrote: »

I don't recall my kids ever receiving an unwanted present, although it was a close thing with the tub of slime that my brother bought my son for Christmas this year :eek:. When the time comes for the annual toy cull I ask both kids which things they no longer use and are consulted on whether the new destination should be the tip, charity shop or ebay.

I remember kids parties. Recycled presents, which are then recycled again, and again, and again. Saves a parent a fortune. Do you go out and buy presents especially for every party your child attends? At one point all kids went to all the other kids parties in the class. That's 20 odd parties a year :eek:. Do you let your kids have all those presents, even though they have probably been pulled out of a storage box?

Prothet_of_Doom

Use it for more toys and stuff. I suggested to my grown up kids a number of things they could sell, if they wanted. But they CBA'd so when I sell them to make space the money is mine.

Jagraf

onlyroz wrote: »

There is of course a difference between a toddler and a child who can walk, talk and express an opinion.

So are you now saying you will sell a two year old's toy and keep the money? Or just give it away to charity? It's still their possession, as you see it.

onlyroz

Jagraf wrote: »

I remember kids parties. Recycled presents, which are then recycled again, and again, and again. Saves a parent a fortune. Do you go out and buy presents especially for every party your child attends? At one point all kids went to all the other kids parties in the class. That's 20 odd parties a year :eek:. Do you let your kids have all those presents, even though they have probably been pulled out of a storage box?

20 parties a year? :eek: My kids have probably attended 10-20 parties between them. I usually spend around £5-£10 on a present for the birthday child, often some sort of craft item which has always been gratefully received. And I've only ever organised one party for my son. There were 10 guests and he received a mixture of toys, clothes and money for presents, which he was of course allowed to keep.

onlyroz

Jagraf wrote: »

So are you now saying you will sell a two year old's toy and keep the money? Or just give it away to charity? It's still their possession, as you see it.

If I had a toddler with an unwanted possession that was valuable enough to be sold then I'd sell it and spend the money on the child or put it into their money box/savings account. Obviously a two-year-old won't be able to discuss the merits of charity shops vs. jumble sales for less valuable items.

Jagraf

onlyroz wrote: »

20 parties a year? :eek: My kids have probably attended 10-20 parties between them. I usually spend around £5-£10 on a present for the birthday child, often some sort of craft item which has always been gratefully received. And I've only ever organised one party for my son. There were 10 guests and he received a mixture of toys, clothes and money for presents, which he was of course allowed to keep.

Wait till you get one of your presents back! Yes one year it was everyone inviting everyone to everyone's party. Glad that's all over.

My mum, in her 70s, has a wardrobe full of unwanted gifts which she uses every christmas. She did moan this year that her memory wasn't quite what it used to be and that she was unsure who had bought her what.

She even has stuff in there that I bought her, which she told me I could have back and sell if I want to (nice couple of digital photo frames she never got to grips with).

quidsy

Jagraf wrote: »

I remember kids parties. Recycled presents, which are then recycled again, and again, and again. Saves a parent a fortune. Do you go out and buy presents especially for every party your child attends? At one point all kids went to all the other kids parties in the class. That's 20 odd parties a year :eek:. Do you let your kids have all those presents, even though they have probably been pulled out of a storage box?

Yup, mine goes to at minimum 18 per year & has 20-30 kids at his bday every year. He's a well liked boy & his duplicate or unwanted gifts get re gifted to other kids. Saves a fortune.

quidsy

Ignore it, it was an attempted dig at me. They are still in the "poor onlyroz" show cause I called them on the judgmental posts. hence my grow up comment. boo hoo.

onlyroz

Jagraf wrote: »

No, not too !!!!. Just not wanted or needed. It saves all parents money. It's something lots of parents do.

If your child is given something that isn't wanted or needed then why would you think another child would want it? Presumably you assume that they won't if you're perfectly happy to perpetuate the cycle of gifts being passed around from child to child. I'd prefer to buy something that I thought had a good chance of being wanted by the child (seeking advice if necessary - often as simple as asking my son/daughter "find out what sort of things X likes").

Your proposal of saving money by expecting parents to pass around a collection of cr*p toys from child to child in an endless cycle just sounds utterly bizarre and a thorough waste of money.

Jagraf

onlyroz wrote: »

If your child is given something that isn't wanted or needed then why would you think another child would want it? Presumably you assume that they won't if you're perfectly happy to perpetuate the cycle of gifts being passed around from child to child. I'd prefer to buy something that I thought had a good chance of being wanted by the child (seeking advice if necessary - often as simple as asking my son/daughter "find out what sort of things X likes").

Your proposal of saving money by expecting parents to pass around a collection of cr*p toys from child to child in an endless cycle just sounds utterly bizarre and a thorough waste of money.

I don't expect them to do it. They do it. I don't tell them to. Incidentally, all children have different tastes, so what might not suit my child, may suit another. They are all individuals, something I am sure you agree with.

You are truly naive if you think every parent goes out and purchases a toy for every little boy or girl's party. They tend to see what they have at home first.

Maybe its just experience of going through that age group.