I've let myself go apparently!

Alias_Omega

I said to Mrs AO a few years back..

If her Belly gets bigger than her (.)(.) then were through...

2 Children later, just about and I mean just about..if she sucks her stomach in, were okay...

thank god for EE's..

DUTR

flossy_splodge wrote: »

OP refers to him as her boyfriend, NOT her HUSBAND. Sorry but I think that makes a difference in the feeling secure after giving birth stakes.
Just a thought.
Interesting that those that have said take it as a joke have all referred to being married.
If hormones are still playing up as they probably are, knowing someone can easily walk out is not helpful. Knowing there are consequences if they did walk out helps with the security.
And these particular words are simply NOT FUNNY in any way shape or form, they stay with you and play on your mind.

You may have missed the subsequent post from the OP where they (OP and partner) have resolved the episode.

Either party should be at ease to leave a relationship if they wish.

FBaby

OP refers to him as her boyfriend, NOT her HUSBAND. Sorry but I think that makes a difference in the feeling secure after giving birth stakes.

Surely if insecurities arise from the status of commitment, then why have a child with such person? I felt just the same about my OH comments when we were just girlfriend/boyfriend. It was never about the status of our relationship but about the confidence that he truly loved me, and that he proved in many different ways.

What surprises me about OP's reaction is that one would assume it is the first time he has said something similar. They clearly have been together for 9 months at least, so odd that he would out of the blue show a playful side of him, or that OP would suddenly take his banter seriously.

maman

flossy_splodge wrote: »

OP refers to him as her boyfriend, NOT her HUSBAND. Sorry but I think that makes a difference in the feeling secure after giving birth stakes.
Just a thought.
Interesting that those that have said take it as a joke have all referred to being married.
If hormones are still playing up as they probably are, knowing someone can easily walk out is not helpful. Knowing there are consequences if they did walk out helps with the security.
And these particular words are simply NOT FUNNY in any way shape or form, they stay with you and play on your mind.:(

I can see the point about potentially feeling insecure if not married but for me that's not the issue. Whether I was married or not, the fact that my partner was so tactless and apparently careless of my feelings would worry me. I've been married for many years but we're still as polite and caring of each other as the day we met. Someone who said such tactless things as a joke wouldn't share my sense of humour.


I have to say though that I would check to be absolutely sure that I hadn't 'let myself go'.

Orlando_Virgin

To be fair by the time I got to the end of the thread, the boyfriend had pulled it out of the bag and sorted it out to be honest. But some of the comments early on were a bit scary, they guy just made an ill timed joke about a sore subject.

I'd be absolutely screwed with some of the women who post on here. It was refreshing to read that some can have a bit of banter and not take as anything other than that. I remember a cracking story that my Mum told me. For their 30th wedding anniversary, my Mum and Dad went to the Dominican Republic for an all inclusive, they were on the beach and a topless woman went past who must have been "top loaded".

My Mum said, "Have I to get mine out?", and my Dad said "no, you'll make dints in the sand". She said she laughed for about 20 minutes. Younger people spend too much time reading social media these days telling them how a relationship should be and battling over who is happier via check ins and selfies.

Pollycat

Orate wrote: »

I feel silly reading this back. On Friday when I wrote this I had wound myself up over his comment and it is an over reaction as many have stated. I'm a bit insecure with my appearance of late. I feel tired all the time and the stretch marks across my tummy have made me not feel comfortable with my body. Then to be told I've let myself go really hurt.

He did however realise he upset me and came home with a nice bottle of rose wine and very nice box of chocs from hotel chocolat which are my fav! He also spent the night in with me, instead of going out to an xmas party. That earned him major brownie points because I was feeling a bit left out and to know he picked up on that, it cheered me right up.

This is exactly how I expected things to turn out.

Glad it's sorted.

burlington6

There's plenty of women on her who don't mind giving someone a bit of stick but can't take it back.

I pitty the poor hen pecked blokes who don't have a backbone

jobbingmusician

So glad it's sorted. However, it did occur to me to wonder about his relationship with the baby. In a postive way I bet he is sooo besotted with both of you that it never occurred to him that you would doubt his fidelity for the rest of your lives

robotrobo

hollydays wrote: »

Now that's what I call ugly...

hows that?, Do you know her:rotfl: