My OH is in hospital in intensive care

victory

harrys_nan wrote: »

Thanks for the update, He is going through the mill isn't he?
Lets hope now, once they get him back in, they will sort everything out and he will be well on the road to recovery.
Your nerves must be shattered as well, you must feel helpless to see him so much pain, but you are coping very well, come the summer, I hope you will both look back on this time and just see how far you have both come.
While he is back in hospital, you take time to recharge yourself as well xx

OH looked at me yesterday and said to me 'I'm not well, am I?' bless him no but he will be soon xx

harrys_nan

victory wrote: »

OH looked at me yesterday and said to me 'I'm not well, am I?' bless him no but he will be soon xx

Aww bless him xx

victory

torbrex wrote: »

Thanks for the update victory :T

The blockage does help explain quite a lot, once that is resolved he should be able to digest better and the weight should start to go back on which in turn will give him the energy he needs to heal himself

Can you ask the in-laws to postpone their visit until he is home again so that you can get a bit of a break?

It is looking like it will be in the next few days, the hospital is fine to get to, around maybe 7/8 miles away, won't be a problem at all, it will be likely for a few days only.

The inlaws especially MIL I think it is unfinished business with her, she saw her son in such a state, then stayed until he came out of CCU but when he came back am in the night, a few hours later she was in the car back up to home so feels that she saw him through it but it is not over for her son yet because he has to go back in, albeit local and not CCU she thinks she should come back and see her son back to full health, that is way off yet, so not sure what is best.

I am tired and tired of being tired, have not really had proper sleep in weeks and weeks now,dream of a spa day or a one day holiday :rotfl:

victory

harrys_nan wrote: »

Aww bless him xx

I try to make sure he doesn't look in mirrors:) obviously he passes them (not going to put towels on all of them:rotfl:) when he sees himself all dishevelled, no muscle, no weight on him, ghost like , his eyes are sunken and a strange colour, he gets a bit of a shock

Seanymph

Like many I read, but don't want to clog up your thread with inanities.

Be gentle with yourself, know that many of us are sending all the strength we can.

I'm pleased you are now getting some answers and I hope you see swift progress once this is resolved.

TiddlyPom

victory wrote: »

OH looked at me yesterday and said to me 'I'm not well, am I?' bless him no but he will be soon xx

Yes, he will be soon.
I am rather relieved to hear he is in hospital and even better that it is a local one. Sorry it had to take the blockage for it to happen.
Please take this time when you know he has others looking after him to get as much rest and sleep as possible. Maybe now is the time to take up the offers of support you had? Any neighbours who could drop in a home cooked meal for you?
Nobody will criticise you if you don't visit him every day. Can you bear to take a duvet day?

spirit

victory wrote: »

I try to make sure he doesn't look in mirrors:) obviously he passes them (not going to put towels on all of them:rotfl:) when he sees himself all dishevelled, no muscle, no weight on him, ghost like , his eyes are sunken and a strange colour, he gets a bit of a shock

It must be quite traumatic for him, for you too actually. One minute you are going about your daily life, probably making plans for the Christmas holidays etc and then suddenly, wham!

This must take its toll on you both mentally and physically. Reading through your later posts, It is evident that you are much stronger now that when it all initially happened. :T

I agree though that you need to take respite time whilst he's being looked after in your local hospital. Even if it's meeting up with friends for coffee. It must seem like you have lived and breathed all things OH/accident related for weeks (naturally) and time talking and thinking about something else for a while will be good for you.

Take care

patchwork_cat

I have to agree with Gwynlas and thought maybe I had misunderstood. One minute he is so ill he is in ICU then they bring him home on blues and two emergency in an ambulance! ( How was it an emergency bringing him home) it beggars belief. I felt sure that I had misunderstood as this is just so ridiculous and one has to wonder with the lack of discharge papers too what on earth was going on.


I really feel that this is a serious case for a complaint, because this could have had a very nasty outcome and with another individual treated the same way it might. If this is them following procedure then their procedures need changing and if not then for the sake of the next patient you need to complain.

TiddlyPom

Just as an aside, I do believe that lack of discharge papers is more common than we think. Happened to me after emergency appendectomy and lack of info from everywhere meant I went home with double pneumonia without either myself or my GP being told.

I do agree that this case is far more serious and needs a follow up with the PCT.

Brighton_belle

Making a complaint takes an enormous amount of energy and I suspect Victory doesn't have that at the moment.
(Although I do agree in principle)


Victory, I don't add much as nothing useful to say that doesn't get said better by others. But you remain in my thoughts. So glad DH I getting help via another hospital stay.
Try and prioritise rest for yourself while he is back in.