My OH is in hospital in intensive care

RuthnJasper

Thanks for updating the thread, Victory.

KEEP GOING sweetie. xxxx

tea_lover

Nothing useful to say but wanted to add my good wishes to you and your family. Hope things are improving each day, take care xx.

mum2one

victory wrote: »

Morning, went to bed last night at 8.30, it is all about seeing if the internal injuries heal otherwise operation or epidural or induced coma, there is a lot of things bandied around at the moment.

I do agree he is in the best place, they are doing a fantastic job, they keep coming back to the relatives room and letting us know what next.

We were in the relatives room when another family were told their relative had passed away and youngest was so freaked out he could not stand up so I had to move him out, in the corridor a covered coffin box was being wheeled along youngest knows what is happening, how serious it is.

youngest at school and eldest at work, trying to keep it as normal as possible, people have stopped talking to me about xmas which is good.

I have a few people I am in charge of keeping up to date , in laws others and eldest others so that is some sort of help and less repetative.

OH was out of it with the meds, docs said he was very aggresive and screaming, to be expected. He kept asking where he was and what was happening.

mum2one thank you beyond words for your post.

We have had the wires explained, a booklet given which everyone has read here in the house including youngest who asked the nurse a lot of questions.

Some friends/neighbours/family/acquaintances have mumbled a platitude and never seen again, others that I barely know have been knocking the door down to help.

Nan is taking over the cooking, grandad is practical, a listener and an observer, youngest desperate to get back to school and in with his mates and is hoping his dad will be back when he gets back but that has been explained to him.

Eldest has gone into his shell, people just take it as they can.

Everything has imploded, nothing is the same.

Thank you xxx

So glad that the network in place it sounds daft but with everyone having a responsibility it takes some pressure off you.

Sorry you've experinced the situ we had those ud expect to help etc, for us acquaintes we're amazing, even people we had only met once, just how the cookie crumbles.

It's gd that your sons are back at work / school it's hard to keep normality but everyone copes differently, for us my mum was upset 24/7, my daughter went into her shell when she let go it was floods, me I had to be the strong one as it went the whole lot would have crumbled, as I was the only driver, doing shopping, I went into super organised mode, be ready for this time, it was my way of coping.

Your find a strategy that fits, people found it odd that we'd make a day of it, as he was 70miles away seaside area, we'd go mid morning, get lunch, off to see dad, call back for snack, then pop to the amusement arcade, but it was our way of coping, I ended up having this coping mechanism of buying scarves, mad but I ended with about 15, wear them now wouldn't have thought to get them before.

My heart went out to your son re the coffin, the same happened to us, in a way it was good it happened ( not for the family), it was a double sided event, on one hand we were lucky that dad was still with us, on the other we didn't know at the time it was ur by ur then morning, night etc, on the other hand if anything had of happened we would have been slightly more prepared.

Glad you got some sleep, make sure you eat, drink and rest, I joke were the female we can multitask, but we're still human xxxx

serena

I was so sorry to see this, and am sending my very warmest wishes to you all.

Jagraf

You must be in such a muddle. Keep strong and thinking of you x

harrys_nan

Sending you and your family, hugs and very best wishes. Stay strong you are doing all you can so don't forget to look after your self.

meritaten

Thanks for the update victory. don't think the doctors are proscratinating for the fun of it. very often its best to 'wait and see' how the patient is healing on their own. it probably seems a lifetime to you victory - but it is early days yet!
its horrible being in the waiting room if the staff are giving bad news to others - personally I think this is wrong - it should be done in private. the first time it happened to me I just sat there, but the second time I just got up and left. a caf! visit seemed called for.
rough on your son to see the coffin being taken out though.
glad that the 'duties at home' are being somewhat delegated. this did need sorting and as time goes on you WILL somehow get into a sensible routine. doesn't seem like it now, but it will happen.
my thoughts are with you, your family and of course your husband.

victory

Jagraf wrote: »

You must be in such a muddle. Keep strong and thinking of you x

Yes that is one word for it a foggy fuzzy muddle.

We went again today 3 hour round trip for less than 45 mins, still critical, still surrounded by every conceivable piping and nurses/docs/consultants, no change, still talking about epidural, induced coma, still critical, they wheeled OH off for more tests and so we left hoping to get ahead of the traffic, we rode straight into it and got home now, nan cooking, youngest day at school normal and full of questions about his dad, more calls to make, OH out of it, keeps asking where he is, what is happening and then goes back off

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

I may be saying the wrong thing, if I am, I apologise, but if your OH is speaking, albeit confused - surely that's a good thing to hold onto, compared to being fully unconscious as a result of his injuries?

dancingfairy

Gosh, Victory, what a shock for you. Like everyone else I'm completely shocked and saddened. Wishing your husband a speedy recovery.
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