My OH is in hospital in intensive care

victory

harrys_nan wrote: »

Hi victory, I second the suggestion about having a day off from the hospital, They will ring if your needed and all of you need to recharge your batteries. Just let the ward know your not going in. The inlaws sound as though they need a day off and you most certainly do, just all of you put your feet up and relax.
Sending you my very best wishes, keep strong xx

Yes you are right, the inlaws stayed at home today and I went , hours round trip for maybe 5 minutes and most of that was high ramblings, no change, inlaws coming tomorrow and leaving Sunday, they can't do it anymore, were going all tomorrow, sit in the room waiting more than we see him, all night up worrying and to see him is the most fantastic thing but then he must be able to hear us but is so surrounded by all the medical staff that need to get to him it is , no one can relax we are just all waiting.

I asked today and heard the words ' no change' and that just made me loose my emotions, I went and found the chapel in the hospital, very beautiful place and there I prayed and was prayed for, it was very moving, from there dried eyes and waited for OH to have his curtain open to sit next to him.

Had to have a word with eldest as he was under the impression it was nothing more than a night or two in hospital and out comes OH well before xmas dinner, he is on nil by mouth, he won't be coming out for a long time, how long is a piece of string, no idea, took pen and paper and wrote things down this time to relay to inlaws who spent the day in the house trying to sleep/recharge/relax/not worry but by the look of nan that never happened.

dancingfairy

Victory, please try and take some time for yourself. I know you want to be there for your husband and your family but the road to recovery could be long and you don't want to burn out. You need to make sure you look after yourself so you can be there for your family.
Try and take 5 or so minutes out. Even if it's having a nice cup of tea/hot chocolate/soaking in the bath etc. Try and eat well and get some rest.
Thinking of you x
df

victory

mum2one wrote: »

As for the rambling, from what dad said he felt like an elastic ball that he couldn't get out of and cocooned in, my guessing is that mixed with sedation it happens to everyone in different ways.

I agree with the poster (apologies useless with names) about having a day off, ur be shattered, uve got the boys, inlaws, the house, more importantly YOU, let the inlaws go and u catch up on some rest,

Hope the operation goes alright and it gives you some way forward xxxx

There was talk of an operation but nothing yet as the epidural not yet or the induced coma, past the window on that one I think, everything changes from one consultant to the next.

victory

dancingfairy wrote: »

Victory, please try and take some time for yourself. I know you want to be there for your husband and your family but the road to recovery could be long and you don't want to burn out. You need to make sure you look after yourself so you can be there for your family.
Try and take 5 or so minutes out. Even if it's having a nice cup of tea/hot chocolate/soaking in the bath etc. Try and eat well and get some rest.
Thinking of you x
df

I know, my eyeballs hurt they are that shattered, not equipped for this as no one is the inlaws just can't take it anymore and that is perfectly understandable would never have expected anymore from them but I have to, I can't sleep, I eat and drink, have a shower, function, get youngest ready for school, pack his lunch box, talk to eldest, have a coffee, try to put the washing machine on or the empty the dishwasher, I just can't settle

victory

I know he is in the absolute best place, his critical care team have been faultless, they are so brilliant, calm, patient, just caring and will answer anything just so professional and wonderful

j.e.j.

Try and get some rest tonight victory.
Easier said than done, I know.

Errata

It's hard for you to settle because adrenaline is pumping round at a rate of knots. Could you try lying down somewhere with the curtains closed and starting at your toes clench and relax and work your way up and around your body? That would help you to rest physically even when your head's spinning.
Hang in there, it's perhaps going to be a long haul, but you're doing well.

Noonar

My continued thoughts are with you and your family Victory.

Noonar
x

northerntwo1

Victory can you arrange a massage? Also try meditation, allow 5 mins a day (ideally in a bath or dark room), do this at a time you have people to field calls. Cliche but true you need to look after yourself. If able to exercise do so, take that adrenaline out in a brisk walk.

The positive is he's not had emergency surgery, he's stable, he's not induced. Small things given his condition but large things too.

kingfisherblue

I just wanted to say that my thoughts are with you and your family. I hope that your OH makes a full recovery. You're in my prayers x