Teenager help needed

tea_lover

Flumina wrote: »

Without going into too much cod psychology, I wonder if OP's disability has affected the girl, growing up? Was she resentful, and is now rebelling?

My mum's disabled and I would never have dreamed of behaving like this. Her attitude stinks, and if I had a child needing nursing care I wouldn't want her anywhere near.

Grumpelstiltskin

Going off at a tangent, I have always wondered why nursing needs a degree.


Looking at Southbank, one of the universities the OP mentioned, this is their maths test.


http://www.lsbu.ac.uk/__data/assets/pdf_file/0020/41546/Sample-Numeracy-Paper-2014.pdf


Now I was never considered cleaver enough to take GCE maths at O level and I could do that test in my head in a couple of minutes.


So now you need to stay at school until the age of 18 or 19 to pass exams and be able to answer maths questions as simple as these.


Then do another 3 years at university to be able to work as a nurse. All I can say is it's no wonder this country is laughed at educationally wise by many countries.

Horace

merlin68 wrote: »

I've always given her the child benefit which will stop when she finishes.

I am speechless. When I was a similar age (despite my name on here I am a woman), boyfriends were not allowed to stay over and I had to get myself a Saturday job to fund my way through college and out of that pay rent. The child benefit money that mum received - I didn't see but she did put it in a bank account for me that I didn't have access to. If I decided to see my boyfriend on a college night I had to be home by 10pm but on a Friday night that time was extended - I was always conscious that I needed to be up for work the next day.

Your daughter is behaving like a child and needs to grow up. You need to lay down some ground rules, if she wants pocket money she gets a job, her boyfriend doesn't stay over and she pays rent and does her own washing. TV blaring at 2am - simple remove it from her room and if needs be cut the plug off. If she doesn't like it then she can find her own place to rent. Make it clear to her that you won't be paying for any more resits of exams and that if she wants to be treated like an adult then she starts behaving like one. Paying rent etc gives a teenager the idea of what life is like in the big wide world - something that will happen if she goes to university.

RAS

merlin68 wrote: »

shes applied to Cambridge, Greenwich and southbank. she has passed the maths and English tests and been called back to all for interviews.

So her personal statement must be spot on. Having a mum and sister with diabilities may well be helping.

Just for reference they are probably the ones with the lowest A level requirements (CCC to BBC) but that does not mean that they will be any less demanding at interview.

You might point out that she will have to be on placement at 7am if she is on earlies, in the deepest darkest winter.

merlin68

omg that test is so easy only one I couldn't do is areas and I could never understand them and I got told of for not congratulating her on passing it before id even had a chance to. and I haven't been to school for 30 years.

merlin68

Cambridge was 3 cs don't about others but bear in mind I had to pay for resits on both gcse and as levels and shes done even less work this year.

tea_lover

It is ridiculously easy isn't it? Let's hope the actual nursing course include tougher maths than that! I'd be worried about someone at that maths level working out drug doses etc.

Buzzybee90

merlin68 wrote: »

Cambridge was 3 cs don't about others but bear in mind I had to pay for resits on both gcse and as levels and shes done even less work this year.

I'm going to take a punt and say this wasn't actually Cambridge you meant.

merlin68

They have to travel up to an hour and a quarter to get to placements on public transport she cant even get home from town lol. when I say she needs to learn for uni I get but that isn't till next year.

Buzzybee90

Grumpelstiltskin wrote: »

Going off at a tangent, I have always wondered why nursing needs a degree.


Looking at Southbank, one of the universities the OP mentioned, this is their maths test.


http://www.lsbu.ac.uk/__data/assets/pdf_file/0020/41546/Sample-Numeracy-Paper-2014.pdf


Now I was never considered cleaver enough to take GCE maths at O level and I could do that test in my head in a couple of minutes.


So now you need to stay at school until the age of 18 or 19 to pass exams and be able to answer maths questions as simple as these.


Then do another 3 years at university to be able to work as a nurse. All I can say is it's no wonder this country is laughed at educationally wise by many countries.

Wow, how is that even a test?