What to do if CM constantly complains about 'grumpy' 18 month old?

Counting_Pennies_2

The childcare you choose for you and your family should feel right for all of you.


If not you need to look around.


Maybe a CM is not the right setting for your little one. I would suggest looking at nurseries as well

Crabapple

I think it is perfectly normal for your child to be clingy to the people that she knows and wary of strangers, especially at her age.

That the CM is saying to her that she caused a load of drama etc is imo unacceptable. If she's also calling her things like 'drama queen' that's also wrong.

I wouldn't talk to her about it, especially as she seems to brush it off if you apologise, and doesn't mention it to your hubby (also a little odd), I'd just look for some other childcare and move her as soon as you can.

If it doesn't feel right to you as her mum, go with your gut and try something else.

bagpussbear

I think you should look for another childminder.

You could be being a little oversensitive to some things, but I agree that some of what she has said (drama queen etc) isn't on. Either way, this CM is just not right for you and your child.

Start looking for another one!

whitewing

I also say trust you gut and this doesn't sound right to me.

Turtle

Me too, I don't have children but your post made me feel really uncomfortable.

northerntwo1

It's quite possible you have a daughter exactly as she says but it's cerainly not her job to tell you or say a word and certainly not to your DD.

Do you think she's just being over familiar and jokey or do you have concerns as OFSTED should be informed if it's the latter. Either way I think you know you can't continue to use her given the u professionalism.

kingfisherblue

I have five year old Rainbows who are clingy - it certainly isn't unusual for a toddler to be clingy. In addition, the CM should not be discussing or commenting on the moods of other children with you. It's very unprofessional, and if she is saying things to you about other children, then she will be saying things about your child to other parents. Do you really want your child to be with a woman like that?


Name calling, even in jest, should not be happening. At her age, the CM should know better!


As for the negative comments on a constant drip, I know how that feels. My youngest son used to attend a Young Carer's group, and one staff member always had something to say about him, and none of it was praise. I know my son can be difficult at times - he was approaching puberty, has a disabled brother who needs a large amount of care, and was also having problems with pressure at school (Year 6 at the time). I ended up complaining to the manager and withdrawing him from the group (at his request - he had reached the stage where he dreaded going). I know that I made the right decision, and my son is so much happier now.


Your daughter is too young to tell you how she feels, but you can obviously read her emotions. I think you know that finding alternative childcare is the answer, but I also know that it can be a difficult decision to make.


If you do have any concerns about your child's development, including her clinginess, moods, or general behaviour, please think about speaking to your Health Visitor. Obviously nobody on this forum can say whether there is a problem with your child, but you seem to have described a toddler who is acting quite normally, and an adult who is unprofessional and insensitive.

whitewing

It is a good idea to speak to your Health Visitor. You could also speak to her confidentially about the CM situation. It may help you clarify your thoughts, especially if you and your husband can speak to her together.

meritaten

You don't seem to like or trust this CM - change CMs. There HAS to be trust on your side and on hers. personally, I think she sounds very negative - I would be concerned too. talk about starting the day on a 'low' note!

TBeckett100

Sack the CM. You are paying her to be professional. Drip drip negativity will do more harm to your child than good. What is she saying to the child when you aren't there?