Is she an auntie?

lulu_92

All of my aunties and uncles got married when I was older than 5 so it was strange, but their partners are still my aunties and uncles. The only one I don't really think of as an auntie but still call her my auntie is my uncle's fiance as she's 12 years older than me and is more of a friend.

jaylee3

Arthien wrote: »

I had a similar thing when my nephew was born. I wasn't married to my husband at the time but we were engaged. I posted on FB about being a soppy aunty after my first cuddles with him, and a 'friend' of mine decided to post along the lines of 'aww... although you're not really his aunty are you? Not yet, anyway!'. I honestly felt annoyed at the idea that I was any less of an aunty to my nephew just because I wasn't yet married to his uncle!

Now although the couple talked about in the OP may not have meant this maliciously, or meant to cause hurt; your 'friend' on facebook sounds like a spiteful cow IMO. Any partner/wife of someone's brother would be the childrens aunt as far as I am concerned, whether the couple are married or not.

And the OP's friend IS an aunt to this child. What a strange thing for the parents of the child to say, that she is not the child's aunt. :huh:

I think I would have to ask them why they think I am not the child's aunt, if I am married to the child's uncle!!!

pinkshoes

Buy the child a dictionary as a birth gift, and highlight the page with the definition of "aunty" on!

My brother is uncle to my son, and his GF is aunty.

They are either mean or thick!

I would ask the brother why she thought this person wouldn't be aunty.

lindsaygalaxy

Yes - aunty! I think its a bid strange they would think she was anything but.

meritaten

unbelievable! When you marry 'into a family' you become part of that family! I think its even a legal definition of an 'uncle or aunt'.
What a strange thing to say!
and very hurtful. although my nephews and nieces don't actually call me 'Auntie Carol', its because its known in the family I don't mind just being called by my name. I am still their Aunt. whether they are nephews and nieces from my side or my OHs side. (oh and their cards always have 'Aunt' on the front of them!)

Ivana_Tinkle

Of course she's an aunt. Otherwise you could never have a married couple known as "Uncle X and Auntie Y" unless they were also brother and sister!

But plenty of people go utterly bonkers for a bit when they have their first child. Your friend should try not to be too offended.

scottishminnie

It's hurtful, petty minded and nasty however sadly there are families who think like this. My husband and I had been married a few years when his sister announced her pregnancy. I remarked that i was looking forward to being an auntie to which my mother in law replied that I'd better hope my own sister got pregnant soon then as I was a "nothing" to this baby.

I've never forgotten how hurtful that was- then again our Christmas cards from hubby's parents are titled " to our son and his partner". She once said she refused to accept me as her daughter in law because she thought the marriage would be over quickly. We had our 25th wedding anniversary earlier this year - I'm sure she thinks I've only stuck around to spite her:D

Anyway buzzy bee, unfortunately some people seem to regard their new offspring as objects to give them some sort of power and superiority over others. We really should pity such pathetic individuals. I hope your friend will rise above it and not let it get her down.

jaylee3

^^^ Wow Minnie, your MIL sounds like a bit of a cow as well. What is wrong with some people?! Such spite! No need for it!

System

ive got an Auntie who isn't related to my Mom or Dad. She's an 'honoury' Auntie and I love her very much.... Unlike my Moms sister who is a spiteful moo.

lulu_92

scottishminnie wrote: »

It's hurtful, petty minded and nasty however sadly there are families who think like this. My husband and I had been married a few years when his sister announced her pregnancy. I remarked that i was looking forward to being an auntie to which my mother in law replied that I'd better hope my own sister got pregnant soon then as I was a "nothing" to this baby.

I've never forgotten how hurtful that was- then again our Christmas cards from hubby's parents are titled " to our son and his partner". She once said she refused to accept me as her daughter in law because she thought the marriage would be over quickly. We had our 25th wedding anniversary earlier this year - I'm sure she thinks I've only stuck around to spite her:D

Anyway buzzy bee, unfortunately some people seem to regard their new offspring as objects to give them some sort of power and superiority over others. We really should pity such pathetic individuals. I hope your friend will rise above it and not let it get her down.

:O!!!! That is despicable!