Revenge !!!!!! - have you experienced it or have your children?

Gloomendoom

Baked pics?

Mojisola

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

You are only thinking this way because you're older, if you were younger you'd understand more. Nothing is like it was when you were young. I never said it was "good".

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

You started work in the 50s making you, what, 70 something? It's impossible for you to understand how it is to be a young person in the 21st century because things have changed so much.

Has there ever been a generation that didn't say similar things to their parents' generation?

You youngsters would be shocked if you heard some of the things we oldies got up to when we were your age!

System

Judi wrote: »

Really? I thought maybe it was a way of expressing my love and stiring their desire.... silly me.

Still, if some people want to send pictures of their bits to people they don't care about .... more fool them.

God forbid we express ourselves sexually :rotfl:

Buzzybee90

Mojisola wrote: »

Has there ever been a generation that didn't say similar things to their parents' generation?

You youngsters would be shocked if you heard some of the things we oldies got up to when we were your age!

70s is my grandparents generation, I'd say the same about my parents too though - purely because (as said above) they didn't have the digitial lives we have now. No doubt there will be some new technology that makes us vulnerable to things like this in my children's generation.

Georgiegirl256

Tropez wrote: »

What is accountable then?

Because what is happening is that some people are finding these private images online, finding people leering over them and making grossly perverted comments about what they'd like to do to them. In some cases, the uploaders have even included identifiable information, including names, home addresses, links to Facebook pages and other profiles. (Have a Google for a parasite named Hunter Moore and look at the damage he did, and the way he's proud of what he did).

Several suicides have been linked to this crime (again, Google revenge !!!!!! suicides). Others have reported the inability to trust anyone, profound feelings of anxiety, panic, distress. Fear of being sexually intimate. Being forced to leave their jobs, even relocate to other cities.

Is this the type of accountability they should face?

At most, they made a mistake. An error of judgement, born out of naivety and misplaced trust. People make those mistakes quite commonly.

It is just as heinous to me that someone should suggest that they deserve to be blamed in any way for it, as it would be to most people here if someone suggested that a victim of domestic violence who stayed with their abuser for months was to blame for their situation. In both scenarios, the victim placed their trust in the wrong person.

I do agree with you that it is a truely awful crime, and to do that to another human being is disgusting, it makes my skin crawl that one human being could do such a thing to another human being, it really does. Like you say, it can destroy lives.

But as Buzzybee has pointed out, young girl after young girl (and maybe some not so young) has done it just so they can 'fit in with the crowd'. I still wouldn't call it the norm, but it's a sad reflection on society today.

Maybe blame is a strong word to use regarding the victim? But there's no denying IMO that people should be accountable for their own actions. If you send nude photos in the first place, no matter how much you trust that person at the time, trust can be broken and you should know that those photos which were once for their eyes only could now be up for view to god knows how many other people. If you find that idea horrifying(which I do) then don't do it in the first place.

Georgiegirl256

Judi wrote: »

Really? I thought maybe it was a way of expressing my love and stiring their desire.... silly me.

Expressing your love? :rotfl: I can express my love to my husband and him to me without having to send each other photos of our bits!

I'd agree with the last bit of your sentence. People send them to stir desire, but to express their love? "I love you so much darling, here have a photo of my t*ts!"

Catcherupper14

I think people here are focusing on the "!!!!!!" aspect of the situation.


For me it is the revenge element that is of concern.


Revenge for what? Generally it is because the girl has split up with a boy and he doesn't like it.


It is the same kind of thinking that we see every day in the newspapers - the girl/woman has broken up off a relationship and the person she split with attacks her or her new boyfriend, stalks her or sometimes even kills her. (forgive me for using the male/female example this way round, but it is most common).


However such a mindset is expressed, whether with physical violence or with publishing intimate pictures, it is the work of a nasty and wrongheaded person.


The victim is not to blame in either circumstance.

lostinrates

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Expressing your love? :rotfl: I can express my love to my husband and him to me without having to send each other photos of our bits!

I'd agree with the last bit of your sentence. People send them to stir desire, but to express their love? "I love you so much darling, here have a photo of my t*ts!"

Lots of people are not in conventional situations where 'expressing love' ( not how I'd describe it fwiw) is as simple and where desire cannot be stirred as 'normal' domestic situations might expect. For example, if your partner works away a lot, or is posted away from home for long periods of time. Its one thing to suggest its unwise not to trust a teenager you met five nights ago or via facebook, but a partner in a long term relationship?

tyllwyd

I wonder if it's not going to be such an issue for future generations - now that digital cameras are so widespread, maybe most people are going to have intimate pictures existing somewhere, so people won't be so bothered if they are published - I'm not saying it's going to go away, but maybe people will be more inclined to just shrug it off, and it won't be that big a deal.

dandelionclock30

I personally dont see how a nude photo is expressing love, even if the person works away. I think its naff .
Long term relationships are not immune to break up and basically nude photos are just blackmail material there to be used.