Revenge !!!!!! - have you experienced it or have your children?

janninew

Might that be the problem though Tropez, you share intimate pictures with the women you married and love. Is everybody as careful or are they sharing before they get to know a person and know they are trustworthy?

I've never sent pictures to my husband, I see him everyday so no need. However I wouldn't have sent him pictures before I knew and trusted him entirely.

Tropez

janninew wrote: »

Might that be the problem though Tropez, you share intimate pictures with the women you married and love. Is everybody as careful or are they sharing before they get to know a person and know they are trustworthy?

I've never sent pictures to my husband, I see him everyday so no need. However I wouldn't have sent him pictures before I knew and trusted him entirely.

In a lot of cases, yes. In fact, the other day I read about a woman who shared intimate pictures with her husband. They divorced and those pictures ended up online. It utterly ruined her life. She would actually take the "don't do it" stance now because of her experiences. She had to relocate from the United States to Canada to get away from the mess this created. But again, I'd argue she is blameless. She married the guy so presumably at some point he had managed to deceive her into believing he was a nice guy. Just like all those people who post here about their abusive spouses at some point must have been deceived into believing they were nice.

Despite what some people have said on this thread, it isn't usually people sharing naked pictures of themselves with someone they've known a very short amount of time. I'm sure that does happen. Mostly, it is people in long-term relationships or even marriages who believed that their partners loved them and would never hurt them.

Yes, my wife could do this to me in the future. I have to believe though for the future of our relationship that she isn't that type of person.

dandelionclock30

Just make sure you have some good photos of her as well.
Anybody could be that type of person if they were hurt, angry or depressed enough.People can be many different things and I've found its best not to underestimate anyone.

Tropez

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

Just make sure you have some good photos of her as well.
Anybody could be that type of person if they were hurt, angry or depressed enough.People can be many different things and I've found its best not to underestimate anyone.

Yeah, I'm not that type of person and I certainly wouldn't involve myself in some ridiculous image upload game - particularly since it'll be very clearly illegal very soon.

Ronaldo_Mconaldo

I do wonder though, why would someone like Judi think that her partner is interested in naked photos of her when he can click a few buttons and see naked photos of females from around the world showing everything and getting up to all kinds of things.

For me it's the reality that does it for me. Years ago you could watch some disease ridden prostitute 'acting' with a fake pizza delivery boy. Nowadays, thanks to the wonderful world of the internet you can see reql people with real lives taking photos of themselves in front of the bathroom mirror. The thought that these are real people who then went on to feel real shame, emrassassment, maybe tears, maybe more than that. That's what does it for me.

j.e.j.

I think age might come into it, too?

As far as I know the 'revenge !!!!!!' tends to happen among younger people, perhaps in their teens and 20s, rather than older people who are married or in a serious relationship.

Gloomendoom

Ronaldo_Mconaldo wrote: »

I do wonder though, why would someone like Judi think that her partner is interested in naked photos of her when he can click a few buttons and see naked photos of females from around the world showing everything and getting up to all kinds of things.

For me it's the reality that does it for me. Years ago you could watch some disease ridden prostitute 'acting' with a fake pizza delivery boy. Nowadays, thanks to the wonderful world of the internet you can see reql people with real lives taking photos of themselves in front of the bathroom mirror. The thought that these are real people who then went on to feel real shame, emrassassment, maybe tears, maybe more than that. That's what does it for me.

I think that I would rather look at a picture of my wife than some stranger standing in front of the bathroom mirror.

It''s not something we go in for though.

fairy_lights

Ronaldo_Mconaldo wrote: »

I do wonder though, why would someone like Judi think that her partner is interested in naked photos of her when he can click a few buttons and see naked photos of females from around the world showing everything and getting up to all kinds of things.

Presumably because if you are in a long term relationship with someone you find them incredibly sexually attractive, and would rather look at pictures of them than a random stranger?

supersaver2

fairy_lights wrote: »

Presumably because if you are in a long term relationship with someone you find them incredibly sexually attractive, and would rather look at pictures of them than a random stranger?

They do say variety is the spice of life. I can see where Ronaldo is coming from as a man. I enjoy, like most men looking at the female form, though obviously not as much as seeing my own wife naked! I'm sure these men look at the naked pictures they they receive from their wife, but I'm sure they are looking at other naked ladies as well!

BJV

Tropez wrote: »

It wasn't your fault but it is the fault of revenge !!!!!! victims? Because that is what you're arguing.


No not once have I said it is their fault so please do not put words in my mouth.

I was discussing this last night with my OH.

If I give you a diamond ring to show my affection it is yours to do as your see fit. So if I send you a picture and my affection stops when does the diamond ring or the picture no longer become yours? When do you no longer have access or rights to view?

I could not answer it because I would never send the image in the first place but perhaps you can answer it for me?

I am not saying it is right, but why leave yourself exposed?

I work in the digital word and an image is not just for today it is forever. Schools, communities recognise this and are starting to education pupils into how not to leave yourself in this position and how to protect yourself. Not me schools and education boards. they are not advocating that it is right instead they are encouraging people to take control.

And by "take control" you mean not do something that is completely legal because there's any chance that some c-word will use that to exact revenge on you in the future (and in doing so, they will be breaking the law)?



Sorry take control = take control nothing more and nothing less


That didn't answer the question. You said it is your fault if you leave your door unlocked and get burgled. Therefore, since it is your fault, do you agree that we should not prosecute the thief?

Also, I work in the security industry. I'm pretty up to date on the actions of thieves.


I do not know the day to day lives of thieves perhaps because I do not let myself become an easy option and leave my doors unlocked.


Did you know that insurance companies "take control " encourage people to be responsible for their own actions in that they will not settle an insurance claim if you have not taken reasonable care and attention? Eg car stolen, door wide open keys left in the ignition.

I'm not asking you to do that and to be quite honest, even if I did add you on Facebook (which i wouldn't) you wouldn't see a single picture of me anyway.

And that's the point. I share what I want to share.


mmmm sorry sounds to me like taking control and limiting what people in the digital world can see. !!!




People who are victims of revenge !!!!!! are not sharing what they want to share. Somebody is taking the liberty of sharing what were private images, breaching their trust and doing so for nothing more than a malicious revenge. But for whatever reason, people would rather blame the victim saying he or she should just never have taken a picture, than seek the prosecution of the person who has violated the victim in such a manner. It's ridiculous.

Again for the avoidance out doubt sharing images for the purpose of revenge !!!!!! is wrong. It is not the victims fault but why even put yourself in the position.


An image lasts for years and can even then still resurface.