Tired of arguments

steveouk

rooobee13 you are so right.


I must get on my brother and his partner are coming to visit so got to pull myself together and get ready.


Thank you for the advice. all of you xxx

millysg1

steveouk wrote: »

She has just text to say I am a petulant child and that she is prepared to reach compromise and given me the dictionary definition!
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this makes HER sound like a child! or more like a teenager!

steveouk

I cant walk away.


yes we do communicate when I am away but on her terms.


yes I do look forward to coming home sometimes but depends how the communication has been.


I have compromised being with her I suppose.

sulphate

If I remember this correctly from a previous thread of yours, you work away for long periods, when you are at home you are not working but she presumably works full time? Is that correct?

What is the state of the house the day you come home?

To be honest, the days you are home not working when she is at work, you should be doing the majority of the housework anyway.

steveouk

trying to talk to her it like talking to a robot as I try to be reasonable she shouts back then I try to explain why I am asking something and she wont listen.

steveouk

accept that I should do the majority of the chores but for her to spend the entire evening on the sofa grates on me!

CH27

If you can't talk to her then you can't fix it.

Conversation is a two way thing. Each partner should listen to the other as well as speak.

steveouk

I suppose there are good things but they are hard to see right now.


funny thing is that when we were at her mums house and around the diner table we had an argument and she walked off and her mum said it is not like her. then later on she was writing something out and I asked her to add something onto an order she was doing so I could order an item I wanted and she said no. her mum said don't be so unreasonable!! her mum sees it all the time how unreasonable she is and often just so she can be in charge of me.

millysg1

You are in partnership! You should be able to discuss your wants and upsets in life, even if its about each other. the other person may not like it but as partner you have to listen to each other.

sulphate

steveouk wrote: »

accept that I should do the majority of the chores but for her to spend the entire evening on the sofa grates on me!

I'm not surprised it grates on you if you have been home most of the day and want to do something a bit more interesting than sit on the sofa. Your wife however may well be tired from work.

Like it or not, sitting on the sofa all evening is what a lot of full time workers do, and they may want to spend time at home at the weekends too rather than go out all the time.