Middle names?

lulu_92

CH27 - it doesn't bother me enough as I can rise above it. They are lovely people and have never said anything bad about me or my family. A lot of people are just like this and I believe it's ignorance on their part.

At the end of the day he said I could pick middle names and they will be whatever I want them to be. I know he doesn't *hate* Pakistani names and he is by no means racist, I think it's the worry that I mentioned earlier.

When the day comes that he has to push the baby out of his penis he will choose the middle name, having had a lot of say on the first name!

Last initial is L so N_L or J_L - can't really find any issues

VJsmum

I like my middle name. I like the fact that I have a middle name. Whilst there may be another VJsmum in the world, there is unlikely to be another VJs "middlename" mum.

Actually my middle name is Carole, because I was born around christmas - my two older brothers chose it.

My two have Elizabeth and William. I am not mad about either, OH chose them and they are family names. DD has a fairly convoluted first name also, but she likes it. I would have called her Kate or Grace , something shorter to go with the longer first name. I wanted Michael as DS middle name but my friend had a child with the exact same name so we changed his middle name.

notanewuser

19lottie82 wrote: »

My personal opinion is I wouldn't give my child a middle name unless it actually means something, like the name of a dear relative or something like that. What's the point otherwise? But as I pointed out, that's just my opinion and I know a lot of people think different.

It has more gravitas if you use it when they're naughty.

notanewuser

lulu_92 wrote: »

My future BIL has three middle names and his last name is also a boys name! I keep telling my sister she needs to continue the tradition as I think his middle names are after his dad, grandfather and great-grandfather. She thinks it would be hilarious but he's against it. I'm not surprised, he can barely fill out forms with his name!

My sister has 3 middle names too (I have 2). Her initials also spell my grandfather's name.

notanewuser

jackieblack wrote: »

We gave our DD my maiden name (which is a girls's first name anyway) as a middle name. She loves it and says it makes her feel more 'connected' to my side of the family to have both maternal and paternal family names included her name.

Snap. Except it's just my name because i didn't change my name after marriage.

I point blank refused any sort of family name or naming after for DD. I wanted her to be her own individual person.

OP, you say your OH won't "let you" choose a name. There's no way I'd be contemplating going through pregnancy, labour, breastfeeding etc with someone so selfish!

We bought 1 baby book and i listed all of the names i liked that went with DH's surname. Then DH crossed out anything his northern family would struggle to pronounce (welsh names) or that he didn't like and we were left with a list we both liked. DD was given to DH when she was born and he asked if we could call her Name1 and Name 2 from the list. I agreed. Almost 4 years on it really suits her.

SailorSam

Don't pick anything that your kids are going to be embarrassed about. I know a couple who named their son Kenny after Kenny Dalglaish. But then they gave him the full names of all the other Liverpool players in that team.

notanewuser

lulu_92 wrote: »

OH is not Catholic, nor was he raised to be one by his parents. We have already said that there will be no christening/confirmation etc as I do not see the point if we are not going to be practising any faith.

Yeah first names were a joint choice as I liked the idea of Irish names, but wasn't keen on Jack as a name (I know a guy with that name, don't like him much :rotfl:) so I compromised.

It does annoy me that he automatically vetoes any Pakistani name I bring up but what can I do? I'm trying my hardest to persuade him but it's so hard.

Stop TTC?

Tiddlywinks

lulu_92 wrote: »

It does annoy me that he automatically vetoes any Pakistani name I bring up but what can I do? I'm trying my hardest to persuade him but it's so hard.

If you're planning the biggest move of your life - to bring a child into the world - then you need to be sure you're with the right man.

Your partner doesn't appear to value your views as equal to his own.

This might appear to be a trivial disagreement but it isn't really, is it? You should be equal partners and both have an equal say in decisions.

This is ringing alarm bells for a lot of posters on here... perhaps take a moment to think about why you even think it's ok to put your wishes below those of your man.

Why should you play second fiddle?

notanewuser

And that's before we take your health issues and living situation into account!

catkins

freshstart11 wrote: »

I myself have two middle names and would really not like not having one, not sure why x

I find that hard to understand. As I said, I think middle names are a waste of time. I quite like my middle name but I don't see the point of it so never use it. My OH doesn't have a middle name and has never missed having one! Personally I think that is one of the only things his mum got right