Middle names?

notanewuser

And actually, as an unmarried mother, you legally can call your child whatever you like. Your partner needs your permission to even be on the birth certificate, never mind calling the shots!

Lily-Rose_3

notanewuser wrote: »

And that's before we take your health issues and living situation into account!

I must have missed that. What health issues and living situation?

notanewuser

Lily-Rose wrote: »

I must have missed that. What health issues and living situation?

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5041330

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5039573

Lily-Rose_3

notanewuser wrote: »

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5041330

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5039573

Thank you.

I remember the living situation now. And how the OP got massively irritated by the neighbour's baby crying.

And she is thinking of having her own??? :whistle:

notanewuser

Lily-Rose wrote: »

Thank you.

I remember the living situation now. And how the OP got massively irritated by the neighbour's baby crying.

And she is thinking of having her own??? :whistle:

Ah, but it's different when it's your own.

(They lie!!!! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:)

Buzzybee90

Lily-Rose wrote: »

I agree. I also agree with what CH27 said. I am getting bad vibes about why he doesn't want these 'Pakistani sounding names.' And I don't think it's got anything to do with him just not liking them.

I find it a bit disturbing also, that the OP said that her other half's family are quite racist. She says it doesn't bother her too much, but she is a quarter Pakistani (apparently,) so despite what she says, I guarantee that her OH's family WILL have a problem with this.

I reckon this is why he doesn't want the child to have any 'Pakistani sounding' middle name.

Going back to the original post, I quite like middle names, but no more than one. Otherwise it's just a bit much IMO.

Maybe he just doesn't think the type of name flows well with the Irish/British name.

notanewuser

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

Maybe he just doesn't think the type of name flows well with the Irish/British name.

My DD's first name is Italian and her first middle name is Welsh, her second middle name (my surname) is Irish and her surname is from the North of England. :rotfl:

CH27

notanewuser wrote: »

My DD's first name is Italian and her first middle name is Welsh, her second middle name (my surname) is Irish and her surname is from the North of England. :rotfl:

Do you know I wouldn't have suspected any different from you :rotfl:

eta I mean that in a nice way!

lulu_92

tea_lover wrote: »

There's a difference between not agreeing on names and not 'allowing' you to choose the ones that reflect your heritage.

When my OH and I were TTC and going through IVF we had many a heated discussion about names.... it still amazes me we managed to agree on a name for the cat as we didn't agree on a single baby name. However, not once did I get the impression he was in charge and wouldn't let me do things.

People have responded the way they have based on your posts about your OH and his family. If they sound controlling and racist that's because that's how you've portrayed them.

I honestly haven't meant them to sound that way. I don't get the impression that he is in charge at all but it just frustrates me that he's not very negotiable when it comes to middles names and he said he wasn't bothered about them in the first place.

I suppose you won't get what I'm trying to say without meeting OH - the man hasn't got a bad bone in his body. I do think it's personal preference and the worry of Irish and Pakistani names going together. But each to their own.

My health situation has improved after having many blood tests but I'm still getting over it - hopefully I will be back to normal soon.

As for the living situation, I should be moving house in January - that baby still likes to scream the house down but if anyone read that thread they would find that I did discuss how I would feel when it was my own child.


Once again, I thank you all for your comments, suggestions and advice.

Can I have some actual name ideas again now please?!

notanewuser

CH27 wrote: »

Do you know I wouldn't have suspected any different from you :rotfl:

eta I mean that in a nice way!

Apart from the Welsh one it's accidental, I promise!