Transgender help.

coolcait

jhgkp wrote: »

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I got married in 2007 to my husband. In 2010 he came out - he wanted to be female. Therefore embarking on a journey as a Transgender female. ....

In 2011, I joined the local WI and thought it would be a good idea is she came with me, be among other females and enjoy the company of sisterhood.

The beginning of this year I lost my mother quite suddenly. She has been the most amazing support to me. But the day of the funeral came and she dressed as male - none of our families know - fear of rejection and hurt. I was so proud of what she done for me and know it was hard for her.

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There's been a lot of discussion about the WI, and their stated/actual/alleged approach to transgender women.


As a result, the bits in bold have escaped without much - or any - comment.


You were prepared to challenge the WI about their apparent attitude towards a transgender woman - and good on you for doing so - but you're still not prepared to give your own family the opportunity/challenge of acknowledging your OH as her true self.


Your OH must love you very much indeed, if she is still prepared to hide her true self - after four years of living as a woman - to avoid any kind of upset with/to your family.


This furore with the WI has come about as a result of your OH presenting herself as male for the day of your mum's funeral.


It's not just about the clothes that she wore on that day - just as her living as a woman is not just about the clothes she wears on other days. Your family, who have known her for far longer than the members of the local WI, accepted her, and treated her, as a person who identifies himself as male.


You have said yourself that it was hard for your OH to identify herself, and present herself, as male. After all, she has been living as a woman for four years. Yet, she hid her true self for your sake.


Until you find the courage to be honest with your family, your OH may find that she still has to dress up as a man when she is with them - even if that doesn't reflect who she is, and even if that's not truly what she wants to do.

dandelionclock30

If it was me I wouldnt have joined them anyway, they have a bad rep for being all Jam and Jerusalem. They have acted badly and I think I would struggle with feeling comfortable around them again after them carrying on like this. I mean they have behaved like a judgemental set of bigots.
Look for other interest groups theres loads of stuff out there. Also send a letter of complaint to the head office as well.
I do find it unusual though for young people to want to join the WI, its like me wanting to join an luncheon club. Whatever you join though you shouldnt have to go through this but some people are idiots.