Would you go on holiday without your children

jackieblack

missbiggles1 wrote: »

How little you know me.;):)

The emphasis was on the 'purely' in that sentence :cool:

touch*my*food*feel*myfork

I haven't managed to read all the posts, but if you have no alternative but to go as a family, i would recommend a cruise (we as a family go our boy is 13 and we have been going since he was 9) they have great entertainment for him - day and nigh t- and we get to lounge around during the day and watch a show sit in a bar etc in the evening and also either eat all together or as a couple and we definitely feel as if we have had some me time as well as a family holiday and the added bonus is you get to see a little bit of the world along the way.

grey_lady

So i think that whilst some people are lucky enough to have fantastic grandparents and aunties/uncles on hand, not every one is. The OP said that the only grandparents in the UK were unsuitable to help out, sensibly a couple of posters suggested organised children's holiday's / activities as a good alternative.

I think that children's need's have to be considered and balanced in there - i think it's pretty selfish to go on holiday for instance if the kids never go on holiday (and there are people out there that do that) or if you don't have good back-up child-care.

But as a couple of people have pointed out, it sounds like the OP was just fed up with her child's behaviour rather than being desperate for time with the other half, so why not teach the kid good behaviour so that they're fun to go on holiday with.

notanewuser

We haven't been away without DD (almost 4) and I don't think at the moment we would want to. She has regular sleepovers at my parents' house, but having her for longer than about 30 hours would leave them exhausted.

Having said that I could totally go away for a week on my own!

Happier_Me

Although we haven't and wouldn't go away without the kids for more than two nights its not an option anyway as we have no family willing/able to look after them for longer.

I would miss them too much (they are 6 and 9) if I'm honest. But I do think its good for kids to have holidays with other kids and not just adults. So we tend to holiday with close friends and their children. Next year six family members are joining us for a holiday abroad, making a group of 12, including six children. Our kids have ready made friends as well as mum and dad. And mum and dad may well get some 'us' time too.

DD likes time just with mum and dad and brother too though so we also have weekends away just us four when we can.

balletshoes

notanewuser wrote: »

We haven't been away without DD (almost 4) and I don't think at the moment we would want to. She has regular sleepovers at my parents' house, but having her for longer than about 30 hours would leave them exhausted.

Having said that I could totally go away for a week on my own!

seconded !

sazaccount

Hi,

I haven't read all of the thread so apologies if this has already been said but have you thought about something like PGL or another kids camp (I got as far as saying that she doesn't like staying which her grandparents) They are entertained all day/evening and fed making new friends etc. It would give you chance to go off somewhere. I think they do weekends during term time or midweeks/weeks during the school holidays.

Depending on funds though you could always go to america and see the other grandparents, drop DD of with them and then you guys get an internal flight to somewhere for 4/7 nights. :rotfl:

There are places such as butlins that do adult only weekends, maybe a weekend (or until sunday evening) with grandparents might not be so bad. :j

liney

We go away overnight or occassionally for two nights, 3 or 4 times a year since our son was a couple of months old. He has a great time with Grandparents, sometimes out and about, and sometimes helping with chores. Last time we came home he had painted the shed! I think i'd miss him too much to go for a week, but he'll be going on his school's residential this year, so that will be 4 nights.

I would leave her with her Grandparents first for a weekend to get her used to being away. She does need to understand that she is not the centre of everyone's universe, and a few days with them sounds like it might give her some perspective. She also needs to learn how to entertain herself: a skill which seems sorely lacking with many children if they do not have a games console handy.

CH27

notanewuser wrote: »

We haven't been away without DD (almost 4) and I don't think at the moment we would want to. She has regular sleepovers at my parents' house, but having her for longer than about 30 hours would leave them exhausted.

Having said that I could totally go away for a week on my own!

I would absolutely love a weekend away on my own.

Any

alias*alibi wrote: »

Yeah she's definitely all those things at some point. I know I've over compensated and spoilt her a bit but did snap last week when I felt ill and said to her 'it's not all about you'.

Still undecided as I know the guilt will creep in as I start looking at a couples only holiday.

If she heard it once in a life and that only in anger that will not make a difference!!
If I was that spoilt and told my mother I hate her and she is awful because she is ill, my father would have gone mental!!

You need to look at your parenting skills and where this guilt is coming from. You seem to be eaten by guilt if something doesn't go madam's way. How is she longer term with other kids?

I think sending her to summer camp is great idea.
They have entertainment for the kids on all the time (activities, competitions, exercise) and kids learn great skills not only from these activities but also from interaction with other kids, form friendships and find that they are not the only ones in the universe. They have to adjust behaviour to be accepted.

We went as little and we had great time. There was lots of little spoiled madams too and they soon changed their ways.. they wouldn't let themselves to be excluded from all that fun!!