Might be pregnant, should I tell him or wait?

purpleshoes_2

emmaj30 wrote: »

Hi
I have been reading through this post and do believe as the author said that some of your replies have been quite rude and condescending. All she did was ask for your advice. ITs not your position to question her reasons for sleeping with this man. All she wanted to ask what everyone thought of her decision to tell him that she was pregnant. Im sure the few of you who replied rudely have such perfect lives and would never consider this but obviously this poor girl is upset and needed some help. get a grip....

Rude and condescending, well if the cap fits.

loztredders

If it was me, I would have taken a test a couple of days after missing my period.
Clearly your cycles must be pretty regular if you think you are able to use natural family planning.

I also don't understand why you'd need to ask for advice on this. Take a test, if it's positive, then tell him, if it's negative, then no need to say anything to him at all.

However, I'd consider using a more reliable method of contraception unless you are both fully aware of the failure rate of your current chosen method and had a full in depth discussion of what would happen if you did fall pregnant.

fannyadams

I thought *everyone* knew that the MAP disrupted your cycle (because of the hormones in it) and you would prolly have to wait at least 3 cycles before you got 'back to normal'.
For the record I use Persona natural birth control but it's about £10/month for the sticks (and it is how I intentionally got pregnant with my second child), I have also worked in family planning and STD clinics.
HTH
FA
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loztredders

fannyadams wrote: »

I thought *everyone* knew that the MAP disrupted your cycle (because of the hormones in it) and you would prolly have to wait at least 3 cycles before you got 'back to normal'.
For the record I use Persona natural birth control but it's about £10/month for the sticks (and it is how I intentionally got pregnant with my second child), I have also worked in family planning and STD clinics.
HTH
FA
x

Not really, it's a one off tablet which will leave the system after several days, the half life of this tablet is pretty short actually.
It may disrupt your next period causing it to be late by a couple of days, but if not started after a week late it's strongly advised to take a pregnancy test.

Gigervamp

So, I wonder if the OP has tested yet.

lulu_92

Gigervamp wrote: »

So, I wonder if the OP has tested yet.

Probably not, I bet she's told him about it and he's stopped talking to her .

purpleshoes_2

Well a lot changes in 3 months. This was the first post the OP made about her bf

I recently started seeing this guy about 3 weeks ago and we have been on two dates; one last Friday and the most recent on Wednesday. We met in the gym so we see each other about 4 times a week as we train together. Lately he has been calling me ‘baby’, ‘my love’ all these pet names; on Wednesday he kept trying to hold my hand and I would move it away slyly by fixing my hair, getting something out of my bag, anything! He also received a phone call from his friend where he answered he was with his wife. I don’t know if he was joking, I certainly hope he was and I just looked at him and said “no, you’re not” but I don’t think he took notice of it. I feel awkward because it has only been 3 weeks. When I met him he said he was looking for someone to settle down witha nd I feel like if that’s the case how could he move so fast without actually getting to know me properly? I like him fine and can potentially see myself in a relationship with him but I feel like he’s moving too fast.

I was in a long term relationship before this so I don’t know if this is the norm anymore and I also have intimacy issues so it takes me a while to get close to people. It took me 6 months to kiss my ex and another 3 to be intimate!

He was moving too fast now shes having unprotected sex with him and thinks she could be pregnant

You really couldnt make it up.

Toomuchdebt

Not going to comment on anything except to say that my 4th child was a MAP failure-we weren't planning a baby and the condom split(I am unable to use hormonal methods regularly because of the side effects that build up after a month of using them)-I took the MAP as directed but when my period didn't come and I was a week late I took a test and was pregnant. I went to the doc and was told that the MAP is 96% effective, not 100%.After she was born I used natural methods to chart my fertility and avoided fertile times even with condoms just in case they split.So, yes pregnancy could be possible even after the MAP.

FBaby

Your posts are quite full of contradictions. You say that you don't like kids, wouldn't want to be pregnant, that you worry about meeting a man who might want kids because it wouldn't be fair on him to deprive them of it....but then you say that you are just not trying to get pregnant and use a contraceptive method that as as unreliable as it gets!!!

So which one is it? You really don't want to get pregnant because you don't like kids and don't want them, or do you like the idea of leaving it to nature and are prepared to take a chance to become a mum even though you claim you don't like kids and don't want them?

sterl1ng

Hi Susie, take no notice of this lot, everyone has an opinion as you can see!

Hope you're ok. Let us know how you get on.:)