Might be pregnant, should I tell him or wait?

peachyprice

gettingtheresometime wrote: »

Only in the financial sense though.......once any child is born they are a part of each others lives forever.

Sadly far too many divorced parents seem to forget that.

Solsol

Love this thread

bargainbetty

Wow, and in May you were complaining about not being able to find a bloke..... how times change.

Honestly, why the eye doesn't see, the heart doesn't grieve over. You don't need to say anything until there is something to tell. However, I do think you owe it to the gentleman concerned to advise him of the 1 in 10 chance of pregnancy (91% is pretty much that) that you have exposed him to.

You have told him of your personal choice - you should also make him aware of the risks of it. If he then chooses to use condoms to further reduce the risk, you should respect that.

emmaj30

Hi
I have been reading through this post and do believe as the author said that some of your replies have been quite rude and condescending. All she did was ask for your advice. ITs not your position to question her reasons for sleeping with this man. All she wanted to ask what everyone thought of her decision to tell him that she was pregnant. Im sure the few of you who replied rudely have such perfect lives and would never consider this but obviously this poor girl is upset and needed some help. get a grip....

19lottie82

emmaj30 wrote: »

Hi
obviously this poor girl is upset and needed some help. get a grip....

not as upset as she will be if she falls pregnant and ends up a skint single mum, when her BF runs for the hills as he believed she was making responsible contraceptive choices, based upon a combo of her giving him some vague info and men generally being a bit useless in that department.

this is a "discussion" forum. no one has insulted this girl, just tried to offer her some very sensible advice.

pollypenny

Most posters see the irony of not using contraception, but using the morning after pill!

It's the OP who needs to get a grip.

freshstart11

wow....just wow! This is all I will say regarding OP posts.

Anyway....I would have thought being 11 days late you would have tested but I would test asap regardless, let alone getting an STD test.

You say you were both clear, from your posts and the short time you have been together I wouldn't be having unprotected sex so soon in to a relationship with some one I had doubts with

To tell him is a choice for you. If you are debating telling him I would be debating if you should be putting yourself in a position for having sex at all though.

Georgiegirl256

emmaj30 wrote: »

Hi
I have been reading through this post and do believe as the author said that some of your replies have been quite rude and condescending. All she did was ask for your advice. ITs not your position to question her reasons for sleeping with this man. All she wanted to ask what everyone thought of her decision to tell him that she was pregnant. Im sure the few of you who replied rudely have such perfect lives and would never consider this but obviously this poor girl is upset and needed some help. get a grip....

It's the OP who needs to get a grip....

Seriously, by the time this thread has been going she could have been to the chemist, got a pregnancy test and then she'd know one way of the other.

She knows how her relationship is, she's the one who knows how her OH would react, not us.

Personally, I can't see any point mentioning it to her OH until afterwards, and even then, only if it's positive. Unless you're in a serious relationship and are actively trying for a baby, and then of course you would be likely to mention it to him first. Surely any fool can see that and doesn't need to come on a forum and ask? It really is a personal decision.

Unless of course it's a thread to get us all talking and arguing....hmmm, seems to be working!

Oh, and have you even read the OP's other threads?

Axled

I'd wait for a few months before telling him.

Manchee

One other quick thing to think about OP is that it can take up to 3 months for HIV to show up on tests (its surprising how many people aren't aware), so if theres any possibility a partner has had unprotected sex with someone else within the 3 months before being tested then theres a possibility of getting a false negative but with the partner still being able to pass on the virus.