Might be pregnant, should I tell him or wait?

duchy

Does he actually want a child ?
Have you asked him?
If you are not at the point in a relationship that you aren't comfortable telling him that you are late then you certainly aren't secure enough to be considering a child.

Is he aware just how unreliable natural methods are? A lot of men simply don't realize that not all contraceptive methods are equally effective.

Frankly I can't understand why you feel two ultra high doses of hormones every so often is not more harmful that other forms of contraceptive. Have you actually researched the side effects of the morning after pill ? It's not pretty.

KiKi

Choice of contraception aside, I don't understand why you think it's a waste of time to have a conversation with him before doing a pregnancy test - but it's not a waste of time to ask a load of strangers on the webs whether you should even have the conversation. In the time you've taken to make your posts you could have told him or just done a test.

All the best
KiKi

19lottie82

OP, do you know who unreliable the rhythm method is? Especially if it's not conducted, to the letter, just guessing or using rough dates is not an effective method of contraception at all.

Does your partner understand this? I only ask the second questions, as a lot of the time men are a bit naïve to such things.

One of my best friends was using this method to the letter and has fell pregnant.

Do you want a baby? Does your partner want a baby?
From your posts you have only been together 3 months and you both seem to have insecurity issues.......

Each to their own and all of that but I at least urge you to, if you haven't already, make sure your partner is completely aware of the facts and reliability factors, when it comes to natural family planning.

Gigglepig

Natural contraception method = perfect, as long as you don't mind a natural pregnancy or a natural STI.

lulu_92

After the Alton Towers incident I wouldn't be letting him anywhere near me. If you are pregnant how will he deal with the inevitable hormones that come with pregnancy?

Although I won't judge your choice of contraception as it is your right to choose what precautions you take, I would suggest that it isn't working very well :rotfl:

sulphate

As you are using the rhythm method, if you carry on taking your temperature for 14-16 days post ovulation and it stays high, you are almost definitely pregnant, no test required (although obviously it's recommended to take one to confirm it).

But you must surely know that already

atrixblue.-MFR-.

don't know about the alton towers incident, is there any reason why you have chosen this rout of natural monitoring of fertility? be it religion (cant be surely because you used the MAP), fear of future infertility? weight gain? family complications in the past?


You say having children at this point in you life is not an issue for you but it maybe for him.


do/does he/you have allergy reactions to condoms? there are non spermicidal non latex ones out there, can get them from family planning if you attend to talk through your options and to dispel myths about some contraception items.


If you are not pregnant, then I sincerely hope you reconsider your method after this scare if it is a scare, you may think your managing it but evidently your not, and thus you should take extra steps to insure your protected against pregnancy and STI's, things like genital warts may not crop up till years later after your infected, but all the while you are carrying the STI and passing it round whilst not showing symptoms.


As a man who has 3 children, and I do love my kids with all my heart and wouldn't change them for the worlds wealth combined, Had I not been so expectant to trust my wife to ensure she was protected against pregnancy I would have waited till I was at least settled and married before having them, I had wished I had used the condoms correctly also but as spermicide make my manly bits numb to the core and also swell I did not know that it had split it was my first time using them so didn't know that numbness wasn't part of the package of using them because of the you cant feel much myth!


as for telling him, I wouldn't not quite yet until you know for sure if your not I wouldn't bother telling him either, and recommend that you seek preventative contraception as a back up to your method.

Georgiegirl256

Of course, the first thing anyone would do before taking a test would be to come on to MSE and ask a bunch of strangers what they should do isn't it? Standard practice :cool: *cough* bull *cough*

missbiggles1

The rhythm method, aka Vatican roulette!

purpleshoes_2

I think the OP's threads are a load of attention seeking cobblers. This is the same guy from recollection that at the beginning she just wasnt that into and she had this rule of no kissing bfs for the first few weeks, didnt sleep with an ex for 6 months.

Now 8 weeks in she might be pregnant. Sorry, but made up or not, I can't take these threads seriously.

Some of the previous threads could have come straight out of a 14 year old's diary pages.