Might be pregnant, should I tell him or wait?

74jax

I'm a bit confused, I thought after the Alton Towers episode you were coolingit as you didn't like how he treated you..... are you meaning before Alton Towers you didn't use protection or after.

Also isn't MAP hormonal too, so is the method you're using your temperature?

If he took a week out of an 11 week relationship to see if the relationship was going anywhere, when you had the meal you cooked and talked about what you wanted out of the relationship etc where did kids feature? If nowhere, then I wouldn't mention it. if they did then I probably would say something.

I wouldn't say it to see what his reaction is etc.

Errata

Tell him now, he's bound to be thrilled.

lazer

Every woman's birth control are their (and their partners business only), so I find the judging of the OP for using natural methods distasteful.


The rhythm method, with perfect use is 91% effective, standard days method can be 95% effective.


The pill is not suitable for everyone, or any other hormonal based contraception. Same with condoms.


It they are prepared to accept the consequences of the failure of their choice of contraception then that is their business.

atrixblue.-MFR-.

lazer wrote: »

Every woman's birth control are their (and their partners business only), so I find the judging of the OP for using natural methods distasteful.


The rhythm method, with perfect use is 91% effective, standard days method can be 95% effective.


The pill is not suitable for everyone, or any other hormonal based contraception. Same with condoms.


It they are prepared to accept the consequences of the failure of their choice of contraception then that is their business.

Then don't come on a internet forum worrying and asking for advice about pregnancy and asking she goes about mentioning it when obviously the method used has or could have not been done to perfection as the rates when its not adhered to to perfection increase dramatically for getting pregnant.

how can a condom not be suitable for everyone, there's loads to choose from spermicidal non spermicidal latex non latex non latex non spermicidal, different sizes colors flavors and textures.


A man who says a condom is not for him because he doesn't like wearing them is a poor excuse to lay the burden on the opposite sex to protect themselves from STI's and Pregnancy.

susieq87

thank you to all who responded to the original question which was whether i should mention the possibility of being pregnant or not. it was a simple question "yes you should have the talk before" or "no, take the test first and if its positive then tell him" simples imo.
i find a lot of the responses unwarranted and unnecessary. whatever method of contraception i use is my choice, whether i am pregnant or not is my situation to deal with and if i needed opinions i would post that in a separate thread.

my initial thread was about him moving too fast, i explained my reasons why i posted that in that thread; the alton towers trip - i thought he was overreacting but some posters thought he wasnt hence why i posted it because my opinion is not always the right one. in this instance i asked not because i need strangers to help me out but to get an unbiased opinion instead of me dealing with hindsight with whichever direction i would have decided to handle the situation.

lately it seems to me that people on MSE only tend to be supportive to people going through divorce/abuse which i am not saying they shouldnt but everyone should be treated the same. if you dont have anything nice to say dont say anything at all. i joined this forum because people were nice, apart from the odd one or two but i would skip those comments but i never thought a simple situation would cause people to dissect my life. who cares if i am pregnant? i only asked if i should mention it before taking the test!

my point is - none of us are perfect but some people here really act like they have it all together, if you do - bravo but understand that not everyone does.

rant over.

have a good day everyone!

purpleshoes_2

susieq87 wrote: »

thank you to all who responded to the original question which was whether i should mention the possibility of being pregnant or not. it was a simple question "yes you should have the talk before" or "no, take the test first and if its positive then tell him" simples imo.
i find a lot of the responses unwarranted and unnecessary. whatever method of contraception i use is my choice, whether i am pregnant or not is my situation to deal with and if i needed opinions i would post that in a separate thread.

my initial thread was about him moving too fast, i explained my reasons why i posted that in that thread; the alton towers trip - i thought he was overreacting but some posters thought he wasnt hence why i posted it because my opinion is not always the right one. in this instance i asked not because i need strangers to help me out but to get an unbiased opinion instead of me dealing with hindsight with whichever direction i would have decided to handle the situation.

lately it seems to me that people on MSE only tend to be supportive to people going through divorce/abuse which i am not saying they shouldnt but everyone should be treated the same. if you dont have anything nice to say dont say anything at all. i joined this forum because people were nice, apart from the odd one or two but i would skip those comments but i never thought a simple situation would cause people to dissect my life. who cares if i am pregnant? i only asked if i should mention it before taking the test!

my point is - none of us are perfect but some people here really act like they have it all together, if you do - bravo but understand that not everyone does.

rant over.

have a good day everyone!

I can assure you that I certainly don't have it all together, but if you read all your threads in sequence, you really dont have to wonder why people are raising eyebrows as to why you are posting about pregnancy when you were seeing a man you werent really into, then who wasnt treating you well.

As for people only giving support to people going through divorce, abuse. Nonsense. There are numerous threads where people give their time to try and support others on here.

You'll know whether this man is the one for you by his reaction and how long he sticks around when you tell him you are pregnant, but going by his reaction when you didnt thank him enough when he took you to alton towers, I wouldnt count on it being a mature one.

Chatalouge

Did you make sure he was clean before you went commando with him? An STI can make you late

Errata

whether i am pregnant or not is my situation to deal with and if i needed opinions i would post that in a separate thread.

do you think its a good idea to tell him prior to taking the test

Bit of a head on crash there.

GwylimT

So you won't use artificial contraception yet you use the map, pregnancy isn't a problem yet when you had sex while fertile you then took map...

Manchee

susieq87 wrote: »

thank you to all who responded to the original question which was whether i should mention the possibility of being pregnant or not. it was a simple question "yes you should have the talk before" or "no, take the test first and if its positive then tell him" simples imo.
i find a lot of the responses unwarranted and unnecessary. whatever method of contraception i use is my choice, whether i am pregnant or not is my situation to deal with and if i needed opinions i would post that in a separate thread.

my initial thread was about him moving too fast, i explained my reasons why i posted that in that thread; the alton towers trip - i thought he was overreacting but some posters thought he wasnt hence why i posted it because my opinion is not always the right one. in this instance i asked not because i need strangers to help me out but to get an unbiased opinion instead of me dealing with hindsight with whichever direction i would have decided to handle the situation.

lately it seems to me that people on MSE only tend to be supportive to people going through divorce/abuse which i am not saying they shouldnt but everyone should be treated the same. if you dont have anything nice to say dont say anything at all. i joined this forum because people were nice, apart from the odd one or two but i would skip those comments but i never thought a simple situation would cause people to dissect my life. who cares if i am pregnant? i only asked if i should mention it before taking the test!

my point is - none of us are perfect but some people here really act like they have it all together, if you do - bravo but understand that not everyone does.

rant over.

have a good day everyone!

I don't think I've ever read any other threads of yours, so I guess would I class as unbiased? Anyway, as posted many times before in different threads, you're going to get peoples opinions as this is a forum, theres no way of picking and choosing the length/kind of reply you get!

You come across as quite cavalier in regards to getting pregnant which I think tbh in this day and age people find shocking, especially given how many children are currently up for adoption/in foster care and the prevalence and choice of birthcontrol available. So getting pregnant wouldn't be an issue for you, I don't know if you mean you would keep the child or have a termination, and I know its not really our business to ask such questions but what about the potential father? Does he feel confident you will be together for the long run or up to paying child support and being connected to you for the next 18 years?